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Loving a person

goldensrbest — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 16:43:42 GMT

How do you show the people you love ,that you do by actions?

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Qshopper1991 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 16:47:14 GMT

I tell them that I love them.

Then I usually cook and/or bake for them

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kelsey17 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 18:45:57 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
How do you show the people you love ,that you do by actions?

As the poster before me said...i tell them all the time that i love them.......My family growing up although very close...were never very verbal expressing our feelings...so i make sure my family hears it all the time...............................secondly...i see what a loved one might need and try to help....whether it be financial, support, a day out, etc....

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chrystaltree — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 18:50:11 GMT

I think actions speak much louder than words. Words are just words, it's what you do for peoople and how you treat them that really tells them how you feel.

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Peaches McPhee — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 18:50:13 GMT

Be there for them when needed. Practical, little things you would do for them. Cook dinner. Pick them up from work. Do their laundry. Hook up their printer.

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SilleeMee — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:05:49 GMT

I tell them that I think they really understand me no matter what...even when I don't always have the right things to say and that is why I love them so much.

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:23:59 GMT

I think my husband thinks it is nagging sometimes....but I question his food choices and try to steer him in a better direction. I never tell him something is a bad choice...but try to give suggestions that are healthier choices.

I tell him I do it out of love...that I want him around for a long time. Most times he still does what he wants. You can lead a horse to water....bla bla bla.....

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NycVixen — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:40:46 GMT

It's important to tell people that you love them in addition to showing it. This is what I learned from my own experience and from reading studies etc. Humans need certain things psychologically and emotionally to feel secure and in turn to feel happy. Security is at the core of any person's sense of normalcy particularly for children.

I don't believe that words are just words. Words and language are the main way humans communicate. IMO what you say and don't say it critically important. Your kids or your husband may not really know that you love them because you do certain things. I can never understand why some people are so reluctant to say 'I love you' when it's so essential to well being.

We're only here for a limited amount of time. Say what you feel and then double tap by showing it with actions. It makes you happier in the process. Win-win.

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Nataliesgramma — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:48:36 GMT

I think by being there for them in time of need and being thoughtful...

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terriebear — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:50:13 GMT

@goldensrbest

We have been married for 40 years, and the best marriage advise we were given is to find out what our partners love language was. In other words what says I love you when we do ___________. For me, my husband always helps me fold laundry. He always holds my hand every day, and helps me with the dishes every night. He tells me he loves me every day. For him, it is meeting him every day at the door at night when he comes in with a kiss, and asking about his day. Telling him that I love him every day. Giving him several hugs every day. Giving him genuine respect. It is different for every body.

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NycVixen — Fri, 15 Sep 2017 02:43:05 GMT

The way I show love is firstly by listening and observing. I try to understand how the person feels and what he or she needs. Then, I convey my understanding in the moment and express empathy, support and say I love you as needed. I then try to see what I can do to lessen the burden from something substantial to just preparing the coffee maker in the morning.

I try to anticipate needs and I'm able to read my loved ones to know what they need even before they do. I'm loving and cheerful while doing what I can to help. I don't really criticize and I get over disagreements easily.

I do my best to be easy to live with and be around. I create a loving atmosphere in my home full of peace and joy. My goal is to have a drama free environment, which is not how I grew up. This is really important. I think relationships fall apart because the home becomes a toxic, tense place for any little thing. Some people have no idea how hard they are to live with.

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Noel7 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 19:57:42 GMT

I tell them all the time and I kiss them, including the two cats.

It's easy to show someone you love them, telling them is best.

Take care of them when they are ill.

Be there for them when they're down.

Plan fun things together, even if it's just a rented or TV movie and homemade popcorn.

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sidsmom — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 20:02:17 GMT

I'm not a religious person, but this is a soulful book

about interpersonal relationships...definitely has good ideas:

"It outlines five ways to express and experience love that Chapman (author) calls "love languages": gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch." (wiki)

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SilleeMee — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 20:13:38 GMT

"Physical touch" is something I grew up not having much of because of my cultural background. It is still something I struggle with today. I do not like being touched nor do I like touching someone else. Weird, huh?

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I am still oxox — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 20:19:03 GMT

Dh knows I love him but I also tell him all the time, I also do things for him, I was his IV nurse a few months ago when he was on IV antibiotics, which he needed for a post surgical infection

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panda1234 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 21:40:21 GMT

@NycVixen

Creating a soft place to fall at the end of the day.

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Kachina624 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 21:59:30 GMT

How Do I Love Thee

Elizabeth Barrett Browning, 1806 - 1861

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death

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dex — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 22:22:21 GMT

I try to be there for them whenever they need my moral support...they know I have their back and that my love is unconditional..I also tell them I love them every day.I usually joke with my son and say "have I told you that I love you and that you are special to me recently"....his reply" yup daily".

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jaxs mom — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 22:26:00 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
How do you show the people you love ,that you do by actions?

How do they prefer love to be expressed to them? If I want someone to feel the love I have for them, it's important to express it in the way they feel it best, not the way I feel it best.

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kelsey17 — Thu, 14 Sep 2017 23:46:45 GMT

@dex wrote:
I try to be there for them whenever they need my moral support...they know I have their back and that my love is unconditional..I also tell them I love them every day.I usually joke with my son and say "have I told you that I love you and that you are special to me recently"....his reply" yup daily".

I tell my kids the same everyday......and i get the same response!! haha.