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cremation jewelry

esmerelda — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 21:53:17 GMT

I think that's what it's called...jewelry that can hold a loved one's or beloved pet's ashes after cremation.

Or other things...a long-stemmed rose that opens to hold ashes. Although I guess that's just a smaller version of an urn, as it's probably seldom moved from place to place on a regular basis.

But the jewelry that one can wear. Does anyone here do that?

I guess I like the idea of keeping a loved one close like that; but at the same time I see it as a huge responsibility and will never do it.

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fourpaws56 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:04:00 GMT

never crossed my mind...I keep Mother on the mantel and I shipped dear ole Dad to Texas....

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willomenia — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:04:15 GMT

I knew someone who had a necklace with their mothers ashes in it. Personally I think one should be allowed to rest after dying, and not be worn as jewelry, imo, it's selfish of the living to separate the ashes that way. There are many other ways to remember your loved one.

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Poodlepet2 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:08:44 GMT

@esmerelda, we have to meet on some happy topics! So far, we are "meeting" on "bummer" topics!

At any rate, lab synthesized diamonds are a hot new trend-indistinguishable from the "real" thing.

I recently met a lovely lady who was wearing a gorgeous canary diamond-it was made from her husband's remains.

Try googling the topic, and if you can't find what you are looking for, seriously, call a few funeral homes or cremation societies.

The cost goes up with carat weight, but I love the idea.

Poodlepet2

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Lali1 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:08:57 GMT

Wearing ashes on me seems a little odd. In my family we never kept ashes always spread them somewhere. I personally don't understand when people celebrate or commemorate the date of someone's death. I would rather commemorate their birthday.

To each their own. My husband and I think differently on this so I guess I'll be in an urn if I die first.

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wishmoon — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:15:22 GMT

@Poodlepet2 wrote:
@esmerelda, we have to meet on some happy topics! So far, we are "meeting" on "bummer" topics!
At any rate, lab synthesized diamonds are a hot new trend-indistinguishable from the "real" thing.
I recently met a lovely lady who was wearing a gorgeous canary diamond-it was made from her husband's remains.
Try googling the topic, and if you can't find what you are looking for, seriously, call a few funeral homes or cremation societies.
The cost goes up with carat weight, but I love the idea.
Poodlepet2

This may seem crude, but I just had a flash of a husband saying to his wife, "You're looking at me as if I'm a canary diamond." LOL

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Kachina624 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:15:40 GMT

I think this practice represents crass commercialism by the funeral industry and would not consider such a thing. I saw the displays for these products when I visited funeral home to arrange for family members crémations. I could scarcely believe what I was seeing.

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henderson — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:25:50 GMT

Our son's widow (who has since remarried and had a baby at 40) has our son's ashes. She was always planning to build a special urn, but I still think it's in the cardboard box the mortuary gave her. I wish she would do that or spread his ashes.

We were able to get a small portion of the ashes and have that in niche overlooking a beautiful knolly grassy area at a small cemetary where he lived. We live in Nevada and this is in Northern Calif.

When we visit our other son, we always go to the cemetary to visit. I would not want his ashes in a urn on my mantle or wearing the ashes around my neck. That would be a constant reminder each day. Not to say I don't think of him everyday even though it's been 6 1/2 years.

We do have a beautiful sterling silver heart with his left thumbprint we ordered at the mortuary. He always used to use that thumb for "thumbs up".

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Justice4all — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:26:25 GMT

Mourning jewelry was very common in Victorian times and before. These could include hair jewelry or lockets with the deceased's hair inside, cameo and painted pin portraits, jet jewelry, etc.

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Lali1 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:30:42 GMT

@hendersonSo sorry for your loss. The thumbprint is a lovely idea.

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CAMOGIRL — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:33:14 GMT

Seriously???

I would never ever consider doing that much less wearing it. I believe keeping one close to the heart with good memories, and most definitely not in a piece of jewelry worn on my body anywhere at anytime. I find this an odd thing to do. And, actually kinda gross.

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beauty0125 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:33:43 GMT

So a young cashier at Staples had a bright red heart on her neck and she told me her mothers ashes were in it. I felt happy but also so sad for her. If this makes her feel close to her mom than go for it. Who are we to judge

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croemer — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:41:06 GMT

I look at it as...there are plenty of ashes and if someone could find peace with a beautiful stone in a ring or necklace...to wear...go for it.

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dancingwoman — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:41:39 GMT

If it brings peace and some comfort to someone I see nothing wrong with it...I have a friend who makes pendants or whatever a person wants like maybe a pretty marble with ashes..she comes from a family of glass blowers. It takes a minute amount of ashes. She just finished two pendants containing a friend of ours ashes who just passed in June...his daughters wanted something they could carry with them..it took her several hours to make them and she charges very little...IMO

It made both of them very happy...he was a hiker and did the Grand Canyon like thirty times in his life...she also put some GC sand in the pendants....they were beautiful...DW

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jaxs mom — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:45:30 GMT

Oh I'd absolutely wear it

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croemer — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:46:06 GMT

@dancingwoman wrote:
If it brings peace and some comfort to someone I see nothing wrong with it...I have a friend who makes pendants or whatever a person wants like maybe a pretty marble with ashes..she comes from a family of glass blowers. It takes a minute amount of ashes. She just finished two pendants containing a friend of ours ashes who just passed in June...his daughters wanted something they could carry with them..it took her several hours to make them and she charges very little...IMO

It made both of them very happy...he was a hiker and did the Grand Canyon like thirty times in his life...she also put some GC sand in the pendants....they were beautiful...DW

What a wonderful thing your friend does.

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Carmie — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 23:05:14 GMT

Jewelry made from the remains of loved ones has been around for hundreds of years and maybe longer.

many mothers had lockets of their deceased children's hair in them. Hair was braided into watch chains and bracelets and necklaces. Teeth were used to make jewelry like rings and earrings,or strung on to a chair or cord, human bone was carved into figures, especially crosses.

These items are collectible now.

Personally, I would never wear human remain jewelry,or have any human remaining in my home. We should allow them, all of them to RIP.

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WenGirl42 — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 23:06:15 GMT

I wouldn't wear something containing someone's ashes, but I love the idea of having a diamond made. My DH is on board with this idea. He does think he should be worried if I seem like I'm trying to fatten him up, because that will likely mean he's approaching the end...

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 23:10:16 GMT

@WenGirl42....I have told my dh the same thing about the diamond....and he is like your dh, ok with it but...don't send me out before my time, ha!

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SeaMaiden — Mon, 04 Sep 2017 23:11:31 GMT

Sorry, but I think it is CREEPY.