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Update

hsawaknow — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 04:42:07 GMT

Thank you for all your prayers and positive thoughts regarding my housing situation. I thought I would clear some things up that were mentioned and might of confused some people.
1. I have 2 older sisters. My oldest sister is the one who died. My other sister lives alone in Colorado.
2. The cuisinart coffee pot was mine that I bought while I was seperated and still lived with my ex.
3. I was a stay at home mom for over 24 years. At the time I suffered from severe depression.I applied for disa but was denied because I still lived with my ex.
4. In 2014 I had a surgery called a whipple. It was suppose to "stop" the painful pancreatic attacks I was having. Unfortunately it didn't work and I suffer from acute/chronic pancreatitis. An attack is debilitating and I end up in the ER and have to be hospitalized which my average stay is 4 days. I have been to the ER 3 times this year. I am on the oxycodone for pain control, with the idea of stopping or managing the pain so I dont end up in the ER every 3 months.
5. The county I live in does not have section 8 its called Santa Clara County housing authority. They dont have rooms for rent, they have apartments for low income FAMILIES.
Craigs list was/is a scam. They have rooms for rent, but you have to purchase "time" the ones I did get through to get your email (good thing I set a new one up) because now you get spam and as for my phone number, well I just put the number as spam if its some weird area code
6. Praying and prayers work. I called a friend That I dated we decided to be friends and I gave him a call. I knew he was a really nice and kind man and asked him if he had an extra room. I told him how much I could pay but I would help with house work and he has an 8 year old daughter who I adore. So he said not to worry, I could live there. Whewwww. Thank you my little community family. I hope I cleared things up. Oh, as for disability on the chronic pancreatitis its really hard to get it, but My doctor is writing a letter to the courts because I cant work and try and increase my alimony. So wish me luck and thanks for being my friends.
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Sushismom — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 05:02:13 GMT

From the Santa Clara County Housing Authority:

"Our agency assists about 17,000 households through the federal rental housing assistance (Housing Choice Voucher, also known as Section 8) program. We also develop, control and manage affordable rental housing properties. The majority of our program funding comes from the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD). Our programs and properties are targeted to assist low, very low, and extremely low-income households. The vast majority-more than 80%-of our client households are extremely low-income families, seniors, veterans, persons with disabilities, and formally homeless. Working together with landlords, housing developers, charities and local governments, we strive to provide housing and support services to as many eligible families as possible."

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mistriTsquirrel — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 05:17:04 GMT

I'm glad you worked out a solution to your problem and don't have to worry about being homeless!! I hope you will be happy in your new home, @hsawaknow.

Try not to worry too much about peoples' questions or criticisms. I thought your explanation of your situation in your initial thread was fine.

I wish you the best of luck going forward, that you will get the funding you need, and that your health will improve.

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hsawaknow — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 06:03:32 GMT

@Sushimom, trust me, I called the list of apartments that I was eligible for. They were either closed and not taking applications or I didn't qualify. They had a lot of Bill Wilson centers for AA folks/teen and over 55. Or if you live in a certain zipcode I only lived in 1 of the zipcodes.And unless you live in SCC you would have sticker shock. I stay here because my youngest son is 11. And I love him more then anything next to God. Plus I dont approve of the way his Dad is raising him, Im trying to give him the foundation of respect, morals, values and kindness.

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hsawaknow — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 06:06:59 GMT

Thank you for supporting me mistriTsquirrel. A positive posting gives me a reason to not give up!

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dooBdoo — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 06:42:26 GMT

hsawaknow wrote:
@Sushimom, trust me, I called the list of apartments that I was eligible for. They were either closed and not taking applications or I didn't qualify. They had a lot of Bill Wilson centers for AA folks/teen and over 55. Or if you live in a certain zipcode I only lived in 1 of the zipcodes.And unless you live in SCC you would have sticker shock. I stay here because my youngest son is 11. And I love him more then anything next to God. Plus I dont approve of the way his Dad is raising him, Im trying to give him the foundation of respect, morals, values and kindness.

@hsawaknow, I do believe you've been doing everything you can to find a workable resolution to this dilemma. It sounds like you have a good friend there to provide a safe home. I've seen your posts over the years and have faith in you. I agree with @mistriTsquirrel -- please try not to let any criticism or negativity here upset you. I know and believe that the overwhelming majority of posters want the best for you and wish to be helpful... the written word is so limiting, and often it's easy to misinterpret or misunderstand what's being communicated here. I thank you for taking the time and effort to update us. That's so thoughtful of you, especially since you're under so much stress and pressure right now. You continue to be in my prayers, my friend.❤️ Many, many posters are here to help, support and encourage you! (((hugs)))

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pugvette74 — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 06:38:58 GMT

@hsawaknow That is beautiful that you have a good person to help you. That's what friends do.Trust your heart and take some of the stress off of you. Hugs and prayers coming your way...

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Big Sister — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 07:31:17 GMT

@hsawaknow Thank you so much for the update. I am happy you have a solution for housing right now with your friend. I hope you can leave all of your problems behind for now and, who knows, perhaps all of your troubles could be a blessing in disguise. We never know. There is always hope, so don't give up.

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KingstonsMom — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 09:31:54 GMT

@hsawaknow

Yay! I'm so glad that it worked out with your friend!

It sounds like you two can be of mutual benefit to each other!

I just love a happy ending!

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happycat — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 11:02:54 GMT

@hsawaknow, I'm so glad that things worked out for you! What a wonderful friend to have. I sincerly pray things will just keep getting better for you.

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CAcableGirl2 — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 13:22:34 GMT

What great news! I'm so happy for you and it sounds like everything will be OK. What a relief you must feel, sounds like a true friend and will benefit both parties. Prayers answered!

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dex — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 14:13:17 GMT

I am happy to hear that you have found somewhere to live and remain close to your son.I agree with you about never moving too far away that you can't be part of his life.You are a very loving mother so you put everything you had into finding a way to stay close.I pray that good things come your way from now on.

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software — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 16:35:19 GMT

@Sushismom wrote:
From the Santa Clara County Housing Authority:

"Our agency assists about 17,000 households through the federal rental housing assistance (Housing Choice Voucher, also known as Section 8) program. We also develop, control and manage affordable rental housing properties. The majority of our program funding comes from the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD). Our programs and properties are targeted to assist low, very low, and extremely low-income households. The vast majority-more than 80%-of our client households are extremely low-income families, seniors, veterans, persons with disabilities, and formally homeless. Working together with landlords, housing developers, charities and local governments, we strive to provide housing and support services to as many eligible families as possible."

Sounds so pretty but in reality, many people fall through the cracks for various reasons. Never rely on the government.

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JaneMarple — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 17:06:44 GMT

I'm so happy @hsawaknow that you have found a place to stay and with someone that you know.

Best wishes for your future.

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Moonchilde — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 17:40:11 GMT

@software wrote:
@Sushismom wrote:
From the Santa Clara County Housing Authority:

"Our agency assists about 17,000 households through the federal rental housing assistance (Housing Choice Voucher, also known as Section 8) program. We also develop, control and manage affordable rental housing properties. The majority of our program funding comes from the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD). Our programs and properties are targeted to assist low, very low, and extremely low-income households. The vast majority-more than 80%-of our client households are extremely low-income families, seniors, veterans, persons with disabilities, and formally homeless. Working together with landlords, housing developers, charities and local governments, we strive to provide housing and support services to as many eligible families as possible."

Sounds so pretty but in reality, many people fall through the cracks for various reasons. Never rely on the government.

Very true. And often many of those who fall through the cracks due to technicalities are those who need help the most. The poorest of the poor will always have help. There has always been an ethos in this country that if you're not the poorest of the poor and/or if you're not a single mother, you don't matter; you're invisible. Private or Church social agencies may care, but honestly the govt doesn't much. And there isn't enough funding to finance organizations to help all that need it.

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cbrite — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 04:11:50 GMT

I am so happy for you !! I worried. I even called QVC and spoke to a CS gal who was going to get back to me in 1 hour and never did. I wanted to help.

I wish you the best of luck ahead. Especially health wise.

We never plan on our lives going bad or south but sometimes they do. No one lives in a glass house...

.YAY again to you. Wish I could have helped you more @hsawaknow

Give your son a big hug for me.

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Tukey — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 19:12:49 GMT

I don't live in your area, but the housing qualifications are the same here clear across the country. Focus is on families and there is housing for disabled and seniors but that fills up quick. A single person with no kids living with them would have a hard time. I am glad your situation worked out - what you posted you get is very hard to live on. It is a shame there aren't more housing options for disabled people as there are for families. I hope you have an easy move and enjoy your new home!

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tansy — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 19:23:55 GMT

Wonderful to hear you have a viable living situation, @hsawaknow! Staying near a son would have been my overriding concern, too.

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Moonchilde — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 19:29:16 GMT

Here is a thought for anyone who "falls through the cracks" and cannot get the govt assistance they should, for whatever reason.

Depending on what your wifi situation is, whether you have a landline (or good VOIP might be okay), and probably a laptop but not necessarily for all positions - there are jobs you can do from home to supplement your income. Many are CS types of jobs that don't really require experience. They won't make anyone rich but they can help span the gap.

It's always wise to keep in mind that not everyone is savvy to the ways of applying for assistance, knows who to call or where to go, some are in poor health, depressed, and need some help - like someone giving a da** enough to reach out personally and offer meaningful help. I don't mean from the forum. If you don't have anyone at all to act as an ombudsman for you in any way, it can be very defeating before you start. I think those who can do it should offer to help.

It's something I would do now, except that our local organizations on aging don't want amateurs, they have paid credentialed staff doing it. But not everyone lives where such organizations are active, or are able to get to them. And some are just beaten down with hopelessness.

I hope that never happens to those who think it's a snap to get whatever help you need whenever you need it, no prob.

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Noel7 — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 19:33:40 GMT

Hi @hsawaknow

I'm so glad things are looking up for you.

And ps, I wouldn't touch Craig's list rooms with a ten foot pole. Too many problems associated with them.

Best wishes... Noel