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Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:19:32 GMT

Despite a poster's avatar (male or female) and/or the poster's user name and/or how a poster has identified her or himself, I sometimes think the poster is not the gender he/she says he/she is. Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away.

Does anyone agree? Or do you just accept every poster at face (pardon the pun - esp. with the avatar) value?

Re: Board Gender Identity

Shawnie — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:22:10 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
Despite a poster's avatar (male or female) and/or the poster's user name and/or how a poster has identified her or himself, I sometimes think the poster is not the gender he/she says he/she is. Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away.

Does anyone agree? Or do you just accept every poster at face (pardon the pun - esp. with the avatar) value?

You dont believe that i am a cat????

Re: Board Gender Identity

maestra — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:23:22 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
Despite a poster's avatar (male or female) and/or the poster's user name and/or how a poster has identified her or himself, I sometimes think the poster is not the gender he/she says he/she is. Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away.

Does anyone agree? Or do you just accept every poster at face (pardon the pun - esp. with the avatar) value?

@Pearlee I dont really care about the poster's gender and accept people at face value. Since this is pretty anonymous I accept others for who they show themselves to be-warts and all. If I dont care for them, I dont respond, unless someone is 'in my face' obnoxious. Life's too short.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Zhills — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:23:44 GMT

"Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away."

You have to be kidding. Does it really matter as long as he/she/it posts in the correct category?

Re: Board Gender Identity

software — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:24:30 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
Despite a poster's avatar (male or female) and/or the poster's user name and/or how a poster has identified her or himself, I sometimes think the poster is not the gender he/she says he/she is. Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away.

Does anyone agree? Or do you just accept every poster at face (pardon the pun - esp. with the avatar) value?

Female here.

Gender is irrelevent to me.

What does it matter?

Re: Board Gender Identity

Kachina624 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:24:57 GMT

Some people have said when they registered they didn't mark anything and the avatar defaulted to male. So we may have some women who are identified as male for that reason.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:25:11 GMT

@maestra Fair enough. But when I think that, I always wonder why someone would do that and if a person isn't truthful about gender identity, what else isn't the person truthful about? In some cases it's so obvious that the gender claimed isn't the gender (at least obvious to me) that it's pretty comical - a person trying to come off as a different gender and failing (IMO) miserably.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Bri36 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:26:07 GMT

Writing style and punctuation do not give away anyone's gender. Lol

I'm sure there are a lot of men that post here that haven't revealed their gender. It doesn't matter to me.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:25:59 GMT

@Shawnie wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
Despite a poster's avatar (male or female) and/or the poster's user name and/or how a poster has identified her or himself, I sometimes think the poster is not the gender he/she says he/she is. Writing style and punctuation use often gives a person's true gender away.

Does anyone agree? Or do you just accept every poster at face (pardon the pun - esp. with the avatar) value?

You dont believe that i am a cat????

@Shawnie I'm not addressing species at all. Just gender.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Ms tyrion2 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:26:36 GMT

Are you about to make a big announcement to us, Pearly?

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:27:28 GMT

Well of course it matters. It always matters to me if someone lies, or tries in any way to be something he or she isn't. Besides, I don't like people trying to pull the wool over my eyes so to speak. Who does? That's why it matters and I have trouble understanding why it wouln't.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:28:40 GMT

@Bri36 wrote:
Writing style and punctuation do not give away anyone's gender. Lol

I'm sure there are a lot of men that post here that haven't revealed their gender. It doesn't matter to me.

I don't mind at all if someone chooses not to reveal gender, but when someone claims to be something he or she isn't....I find that troublesome on many levels. Why believe anything that person posts then?

Re: Board Gender Identity

Bri36 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:28:53 GMT

If someone hasn't revealed their gender for whatever reason, it's not a lie.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:29:49 GMT

@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
Are you about to make a big announcement to us, Pearly?

If you are addressing me, I'm Pearley.

And I don't know what on earth prompts you to even ask that. That's not what this thread is about at all. Clearly I am who I say I am and if you don't think so.....that's your problem.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Isobel Archer — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:30:10 GMT

As I understand the "correct" thinking on this - a person's gender is whatever they say it is - right? So perceptions don't matter.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Bri36 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:30:15 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
@Bri36 wrote:
Writing style and punctuation do not give away anyone's gender. Lol

I'm sure there are a lot of men that post here that haven't revealed their gender. It doesn't matter to me.
I don't mind at all if someone chooses not to reveal gender, but when someone claims to be something he or she isn't....I find that troublesome on many levels. Why believe anything that person posts then?

There are a lot of people that lie on these boards about all kinds of things. If you have a problem with it, ignore them

Re: Board Gender Identity

software — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:30:27 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
Well of course it matters. It always matters to me if someone lies, or tries in any way to be something he or she isn't. Besides, I don't like people trying to pull the wool over my eyes so to speak. Who does? That's why it matters and I have trouble understanding why it wouln't.

You are naive if you think everyone on the internet is honest.

How can anyone "pull the wool"?

You have no relationship with anyone here, right?

We're just chatting.

If people stretch the truth or want to lie, that's on them.

If it gets to the point that it bothers me, I ignore them.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Shawnie — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:31:19 GMT

Its the internet. You can be whatever you want to be.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Ms tyrion2 — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:32:14 GMT

@Pearlee wrote:
@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
Are you about to make a big announcement to us, Pearly?

If you are addressing me, I'm Pearley.
And I don't know what on earth prompts you to even ask that. That's not what this thread is about at all. Clearly I am who I say I am and if you don't think so.....that's your problem.

For goodness sakes, lighten up.
I had no idea you were actually serious.
I thought this thread was meant as a joke.

Re: Board Gender Identity

Pearlee — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 00:32:16 GMT

@Bri36 wrote:
If someone hasn't revealed their gender for whatever reason, it's not a lie.

@Bri36 I agree. This thread isn't about not revealing gender. It's about revealing a false gender. Perhaps you should go back and re-read this thread because you are the one bringing up the issue of not revealing a gender. That's perfectly find and not misleading or lying. Claiming to be a gender a person isn't is misleading people and lying. Big difference. Can we get off the not revealing gender now? It's not relevant to this thread,. You have read things into my posts that aren't even there.