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OT High School Graduation gift amount?

Kitty Galore — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:02:35 GMT

Haven't been to one in a long time we would be giving money. The graduate is my 2nd cousin. My cousin her mom is having it catered under a tent very fancy from what she said. We were thinking $50. For family weddings we usually do $100 or $150 depending on how close website to,them as you aren't always close to all realities. Hence the saying"you can choose your friends, but your stuck with you family". Lol

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chrystaltree — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:10:58 GMT

$50 sounds good. I'm not sure how "fancy" the party will be but with a catered meal and with two of us going, I'd probably give $100.

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missy1 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:12:28 GMT

2nd cousin?

I don't even know mine.

Give what you can afford.

50 or under.

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panda1234 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:21:38 GMT

$50 sounds fine. The gift should not be based on the cost of the party, give from the heart.

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GCR18 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:37:08 GMT

$50 sounds fine.

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AKgirl2 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:37:54 GMT

I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

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missy1 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:40:31 GMT

@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.

Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

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september — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:52:38 GMT

I sent $100 to a nephew whose party I could't attend. Gave $200 to a closer relative, whose party I did go to...and the parents went all out. A great meal and a nice night.

Yes, it does matter if you're close to the graduate, and can attend the festivities.

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AKgirl2 — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 01:54:47 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

This was back in 70's, but my dad would always say you've got to at least cover your dinner(s) plus the gift...just how we rolled, and I do the same

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JeanLouiseFinch — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:00:07 GMT

@AKgirl2 wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)
This was back in 70's, but my dad would always say you've got to at least cover your dinner(s) plus the gift...just how we rolled, and I do the same

My understanding is that this has always been the rule of thumb for wedding gifts. I wouldn't consider the same for a HS graduation. But then again, the HS graduation parties I've been to have all be at the family's home in the form of an open house.

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beach-mom — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:00:54 GMT

I think $50 makes sense. My best friend's son just graduated from high school. We are very close to him. We went to his party, and we gave him $50. One of DH's nephews graduated last year - we gave $100.00. DS just graduated 3 years ago. The only gift above $50 he received from family was $100 from two of his 3 aunts (one single) on DH's side. The other one gave him a card. (No relatives left on my side.). So that's why I think $50 is a generous gift!

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walkingal — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:02:52 GMT

$50 sounds good to me. My niece just graduated from high school. I wasn't invited to her graduation, but she sent me an announcement. I mailed her a check for $50. I thought that was sufficient under the circumstances -- I never hear from her parents and rarely from her. Ultimately, you should give whatever is best for you.

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SXMGirl — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:04:48 GMT

$50 is more than enough.

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K9buddy — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:05:24 GMT

$50 is fine. Nobody told them they had to spend a fortune on the affair. It's something they chose to do and you shouldn't have to help them pay for it.

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GenXmuse — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:07:55 GMT

This is not a close family member. I would do $50 if it isn't a hardship. Otherwise give what you can.

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chrystaltree — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:10:10 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.

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scotnovel — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:22:52 GMT

@AKgirl2 wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)
This was back in 70's, but my dad would always say you've got to at least cover your dinner(s) plus the gift...just how we rolled, and I do the same

I'm in mid 60's and I've never heard of that either. If the people hosting the party can't afford to cover the cost of the party then they should change their plans. In my book, guests are in no way obligated to pay for their attendance at a family (or other) get together.

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scotnovel — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:25:20 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.

A bigger more expensive party just means the hosts have money to burn or no common sense. In either case, a guest is not obligated to help them cover the cost of that party.

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muttmom — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:27:06 GMT

It doesn't matter whether the party is an expensive affair or a backyard picnic. Bottom line is it is a graduation party for a cousin's child. I think $50 is fine.

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chrystaltree — Sat, 25 Jun 2016 02:32:04 GMT

@scotnovel wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.
A bigger more expensive party just means the hosts have money to burn or no common sense. In either case, a guest is not obligated to help them cover the cost of that party.

Who said anything about obligated? Did you miss the part where I said "we do believe". That means that we feel that way; others can do as they please.