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Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:48:31 GMT

It's amazing how used I am to being alone. Is that normal?

Just a random thought.

Re: Are you lonely?

RetRN — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:51:17 GMT

Of course, many people live alone. They do just fine, getting out to do the things they enjoy or having people over. You don't have to be around people all of the time to be happy.

Re: Are you lonely?

sunshine45 — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:53:30 GMT

i love being alone sometimes......and make a point to be that way as often as possible. i find it very helpful to maintaining peace and tranquility in my life. i live with four to six adults at any given time and it isnt always easy, especially when three of them are your children. LOL

i enjoy going out by myself to dinner or for drinks sometimes, getting away for a weekend or staying an extra day after everyone leaves, or just walking/shopping by myself.

Re: Are you lonely?

dex — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:54:15 GMT

@LilacTree It is normal if you aren't alone because outings or people make you uncomfortable.I like to be alone too and actually prefer it at times but I'm never going to admit that to anyone but you...don't want people thinking I am anti social.

Re: Are you lonely?

fitfuninformed — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:58:30 GMT

Being "alone" and being "lonely" are two completely different things.

Re: Are you lonely?

SilleeMee — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:03:00 GMT

I'm very much of a loner. I live alone, eat alone, shop alone...you name it. I enjoy being by myself most of the time. There are times when I feel lonely and it's usually when I'm missing someone from my past but it rarely happens.

Re: Are you lonely?

mistriTsquirrel — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:06:39 GMT

Most of the time I prefer being alone to being around people, because the people I have to be around are hard to tolerate.

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:08:29 GMT

@RetRN wrote:
Of course, many people live alone. They do just fine, getting out to do the things they enjoy or having people over. You don't have to be around people all of the time to be happy.

@RetRN

I don't get out and my friends don't come over. I'm old and there aren't any friends left. I should be all depressed about it, but for some reason I'm not. I still miss my beloved sister who will be gone six years this August. I can't believe it's been that long.

I see my kids and my grandchildren several times a month. And I'm okay with that.

I'll probably get to the shore this summer, I do look forward to that.

Re: Are you lonely?

Happiness Is Inside JOB — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:11:50 GMT

I grew up as an only child and my mother was adopted so we NEVER had a large family or a lot of people over the house or hanging out at our house. I learned this as I have gotten older "Accept your situation and make yourself as HAPPY as you can in your situation.

I used to kind of dwell on OH, I have no one to hang with, etc. But for the say last 4 years, I have made a mental effodt to NOT dwell on not having a lot of friends or going out a lot or hanging out with a lot of people. I do go out when I can, I do participate when the opportunity comes my way, but I don't dwell on being alone.

I am blessed that my hubby is alive as many of my QVC sisters here are widows so I don't complain. We work on difference schedules so many times I'm home alone just as much as you might be. But I'm so thankful for the internet, when I get lonely or bored I come on line and watch videos on you tube, come on qvc and just keep busy online. One can stay online for hours watching old columbo episodes, etc.

SO I say all this to say, no it is not always perfect but we are still blessed.

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:12:39 GMT

@mistriTsquirrel wrote:
Most of the time I prefer being alone to being around people, because the people I have to be around are hard to tolerate.

@mistriTsquirrel

I'm familiar with your story, Mistri. You're always in my thoughts because I have a tree outside my bedroom window which is next to my desk, and at least 100 squirrels that I see every day. You should live here! LOL

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:14:42 GMT

@Happiness Is Inside JOB wrote:
I grew up as an only child and my mother was adopted so we NEVER had a large family or a lot of people over the house or hanging out at our house. I learned this as I have gotten older "Accept your situation and make yourself as HAPPY as you can in your situation.

I used to kind of dwell on OH, I have no one to hang with, etc. But for the say last 4 years, I have made a mental effodt to NOT dwell on not having a lot of friends or going out a lot or hanging out with a lot of people. I do go out when I can, I do participate when the opportunity comes my way, but I don't dwell on being alone.

I am blessed that my hubby is alive as many of my QVC sisters here are widows so I don't complain. We work on difference schedules so many times I'm home alone just as much as you might be. But I'm so thankful for the internet, when I get lonely or bored I come on line and watch videos on you tube, come on qvc and just keep busy online. One can stay online for hours watching old columbo episodes, etc.

SO I say all this to say, no it is not always perfect but we are still blessed.

@Happiness Is Inside JOB

What a great outlook on life!!

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:15:45 GMT

@fitfuninformed wrote:
Being "alone" and being "lonely" are two completely different things.

@fitfuninformed

Totally agree!

Re: Are you lonely?

beckyb1012 — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:18:00 GMT

I have lived alone since 1999 and at my office it is just myself and the one remaining brother running the family companies. He is always at the work sites and only wants to come into the office maybe two short days per week. After 20 years of this job and my home life I cannot imagine someone being in my space. Never ever lonely just miss the family members and best friend who have gone on before me.

Re: Are you lonely?

Noel7 — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:20:12 GMT

There are studies which say only children rarely feel lonely. That has always been true for me. I had a best friend who was also an only and she and I talked about it several times. She passed way too soon, but anyway, she said she never felt lonely, either.

I do have a husband at home, so that probably helps, too. Truth told, I really value alone time, which I rarely get

Re: Are you lonely?

Caligurll — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:20:51 GMT

@SilleeMee wrote:
I'm very much of a loner. I live alone, eat alone, shop alone...you name it. I enjoy being by myself most of the time. There are times when I feel lonely and it's usually when I'm missing someone from my past but it rarely happens.

I'm exactly the same way, @SilleeMee. I prefer being alone most of the time. I get together with friends a couple times a month, for a dinner or lunch or shopping or a movie, or a day trip, but I really look forward to coming home.

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:23:41 GMT

Is my font coming through very large, very small, or okay?

I've been struggling with this for a couple of weeks now, some folks saying it's too small when I am using a "3" from the Q pull-down tab. This is a 3.

Re: Are you lonely?

2blonde — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:32:18 GMT

@LilacTree wrote:
Is my font coming through very large, very small, or okay?

I've been struggling with this for a couple of weeks now, some folks saying it's too small when I am using a "3" from the Q pull-down tab. This is a 3.

@LilacTree It looks fine to me.....I can even read it without my cheaters, but it's not screaming large. P.S. I also wanted to say you are never really alone when you are with your friends on these boards!

Re: Are you lonely?

Noel7 — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:32:34 GMT

@LilacTree wrote:
Is my font coming through very large, very small, or okay?

I've been struggling with this for a couple of weeks now, some folks saying it's too small when I am using a "3" from the Q pull-down tab. This is a 3.

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What the heck did they do to the font!? I've been trying to remember to use 3, also. It's too dang tiny unless I do.

Too bad there isn't a way to set it for that... or is there?

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:35:40 GMT

@2blonde wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:
Is my font coming through very large, very small, or okay?

I've been struggling with this for a couple of weeks now, some folks saying it's too small when I am using a "3" from the Q pull-down tab. This is a 3.
@LilacTree It looks fine to me.....I can even read it without my cheaters, but it's not screaming large. P.S. I also wanted to say you are never really alone when you are with your friends on these boards!

@2blonde

Thanks for responding about the font, 2Blonde. And also for us not really being alone because we have this BB. I agree wholeheartedly, as I just couldn't watch TV all day long.

The weather is beautiful here today, and I sat outside for a while . . . couldn't get the umbrella up, so I couldn't stay out long. But these are the best spring days.

Re: Are you lonely?

LilacTree — Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:39:23 GMT

@Noel7 wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:
Is my font coming through very large, very small, or okay?

I've been struggling with this for a couple of weeks now, some folks saying it's too small when I am using a "3" from the Q pull-down tab. This is a 3.
*******************************

What the heck did they do to the font!? I've been trying to remember to use 3, also. It's too dang tiny unless I do.

Too bad there isn't a way to set it for that... or is there?

@Noel7

As far as I know . . . no. I've never understood why we can't have a default font and size. That seems as though it would be easy to program into our "Preferences."