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I Hate Bad Dreams!

Plaid Pants2 — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:22:11 GMT

Last night I had a bad dream, and when it got really bad, I woke up.

I won't bore you with the details of the dream, but I was distraught over the dream after I woke up, and was afraid to back to sleep, for fear of returning to said dream.

Why is it easier (for me, anyway) to return to a bad dream after I wake up, than it is to return to a good dream?

Funny how the sub-conscience works.

Re: I Hate Bad Dreams!

tansy — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:30:40 GMT

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
Last night I had a bad dream, and when it got really bad, I woke up.

I won't bore you with the details of the dream, but I was distraught over the dream after I woke up, and was afraid to back to sleep, for fear of returning to said dream.

Why is it easier (for me, anyway) to return to a bad dream after I wake up, than it is to return to a good dream?

Funny how the sub-conscience works.

I have that same problem with a disturbing dream. Sometimes I'll read my Kindle to see if I can redirect my brain.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:32:51 GMT

Hi Plaid! I don't know, but I also find that to be true.

I have bad dreams pretty much every night and if I wake up in the middle of a particularly bad one I stay awake, trying to erase it - or something - before I can try and go back to sleep.

The terror ones are the worse because there is no physical content - just a feeling of absolute terror. Then you think you woke up and feel relieved until - BAM! Right back in there. After a few cycles of that I will finally wake up.

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AKgirl2 — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:36:09 GMT

Bad dreams vs. nightmares...they say that if you're having a nightmare, it wakes you up. I know having a bad dream isn't too much better. They can put a damper on your mental and emotional status for the day or days:/ They happen to everyone, and for me, thank goodness, very few and far between.

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makena — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:37:47 GMT

@Plaid Pants2 I hate when that happens. At times I've been left with an uneasy feeling for days.

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vermint — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:43:57 GMT

I know not everyone has this option...but when I wake from a bad dream, and can't shake it, I wake my DH. Once I hear his voice, I calm down. It's just "Are you awake?" "Yeah." "i had a bad dream & just needed to hear your voice." "Poor baby!"

And then I go on back to sleep! It's very sweet of DH not to mind when I do this...but then, I don't do it very often.

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Lucky Charm — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:58:27 GMT

I've never *went back* to a bad dream/nightmare.

But I am able to *return* to good dreams. And even if I wake up again--can go back to it again. It's like adding chapters.

Good dreams kinda fizzle as soon as I wake up, but bad dreams stay with me for a few hours after waking.

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goldensrbest — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 20:04:15 GMT

I keep having dreams about all those i have lost,some are so very detailed.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 20:11:21 GMT

goldensrbest wrote:
I keep having dreams about all those i have lost,some are so very detailed.

I tend to have pretty detailed dreams but one oddity, IMO, is that everybody and every thing in my dreams is always a composite. Composite people and composite places, including wherever I'm living in the dream.

People who don't go back to sleep and find themselves in the bad dreams are lucky. It's rather disconcerting, especially if you are somebody, as am I, who has bad dreams pretty much every night. Some nights I'll have a few different ones.

One thing that is troubling me now, however, is that I have lost the ability to remember 99% of my dreams. For a while, as long as I spent some time thinking about a dream as soon as I woke up I could go back and dissect it later. Now, they just fly right out of my head. I really dislike that immensely.

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hckynut — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 20:15:52 GMT

For me bad dreams many times I see a positive after I use my analytical theories. Many times those types of dreams are a positive after my deep analyzation. So all are not always a bad ending point.

hckynut(john)

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Drythe — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 21:05:36 GMT

For all of us who Have these, I wish we could make them stop!

I've started writing nightmares down as soon as I wake. Months later when I read them I can see what they came from, and how confusing they are. But when I have another I can remind myself that nothing except being very scared happened from the previous ones. For some reason this helps me.

We hates 'em, we hates 'em.

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CareBears — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 23:57:02 GMT

@goldensrbest After my Mom passed away I was so distraught, she was not only my Mom but my best friend, and I was so lost without her, then one night she came to me in a dream and explained to me that she was in heaven and that is was beautiful, and she was no longer in pain, and that I had to go on as my daughter needed me, and she told me that I could no longer physicaly see her, but that she was always with me, I woke up feeling a sense of comfort and I felt like I had been hugged. I don't know if this was my minds way of easing the pain, or if she truly came to me, I like to believe if anyone could have found a way back it would have been my Mom.

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Apple Crisp — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 23:40:27 GMT

@CareBears I believe your mom really came to you. She gave you a beautiful message.

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CareBears — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 23:43:53 GMT

@Apple Crisp It has given me comfort and peace since 1990!

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jlkz — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 23:52:09 GMT

@tansy @Plaid Pants2

In the past when I had a really disturbing dream which returned again, in my sleep I told it " Enough, not interested, the end. ". That was it: so far so good.

I used the same approach with a similar dream where I was trying to find the final exam room for a course that I cut all the classes for. It works.

Hopefully you may have similar success. Good Luck.

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jlkz — Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:04:45 GMT

@CareBears

You were truly given a gift with direct messages from your departed Mother. This is a real example of love never dies but continues on into the next world.

You received direct words. Sometimes, the departed one will communicate in other ways.

When my Aunt passed, I was devastated even though I knew how much she suffered at the end. She passed mid- September and my birthday was late November. As I stood tear-eyed looking out the French doors, there was one huge rhododendron bloom. In this area, they don't bloom at that time. (Flower)

Another time, as I was dusting a music box she had given me at Christmas, it began to play .... Not a few notes but the entire song. No one had wound it up. ( Music )

I posted a while back an even more detailed gift from her as I was about to have a breast biopsy.

Suggestion, before you fall asleep try to invite your Mother to visit again. She may comply....if she doesn't, it may just mean that she saves her visits for more significant times.

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blackhole99 — Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:06:44 GMT

I had bad dreams and nightmares as a child and even walked in my sleep. The dreams were so disturbing they have haunted me all my life. As an adult I can rationalize the dreams and they don't bother me,but as a child I was terrorized. I didn't have the type of parents who could help you through any thing like that, they had their own problems.

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Annabellethecat66 — Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:10:02 GMT

I take medicine at night so I don't dream. If I fall back asleep after awaking in the morning, then I dream. I dreamt the other day instead of carpeted floors I had all very shiny hardwood floors.

I told my daughter and she said, "Mom, you don't want that. Remember (her sister) had them and everything (even toe prints) showed up and she went on and on. I said, "Honey! It was just a dream. Relax". Ha!

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jlkz — Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:10:47 GMT

@hckynut

When I wanted my brain to work on a problem during sleep, sometimes the answer is presented in symbols. E.g., once it was a squirrel who ran up into my lap while I was riding the train home. The person who was the key to solving the issue had " nut " in his name.

Another time the solution was not one that I wanted to hear, so my subconscience slipped it into my mind in French for which I had received my MA degree. On awaking, I repeated the sentence and its translation was the answer.

Weird but true !!!!

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CareBears — Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:36:23 GMT

@jlkz I have prayed for her to come back to me during difficult times in my life but she has never directly come to me in my dreams again, I look around me for signs but have not been able to find any, but I feel her with me every single minute!

Your experiences brought tears to my eyes, it is true they never leave us. thank you for sharing!