topic Re: Calling you "Hun" in Community Chat

Calling you "Hun"

Mistreatedbycs — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:03:15 GMT

I'm at Costco and the cashier says "do you have your card, hun?" and after that everything was "hun"

Then I'm at Macy's and this older woman called me "hun" again.

First I thought this must be the lingo of 20 year olds but then that woman at Macy's was in her 60's. So my assumption is wrong, do you use that to talk to other women?

I checked my license and credit cards, it doesn't read "hun"???

Re: Calling you "Hun"

circles — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:05:57 GMT

No...i do not use words like that to anyone...its wrong....

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libbyannE — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:06:00 GMT

I don't hear it often, but it is tacky, tasteless, and rudely personal.

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Lila Belle — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:09:42 GMT

I'm not a WW I German so I'm not too bothered.

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MyGirlsMom — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:11:54 GMT

"Hun" doesn't bother me as much as someone calling me by my first name after looking at my credit card.

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sunshine45 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:12:51 GMT

in baltimore and some surrounding areas you hear the word "hon" quite a bit.......it is definitely a "thing" here.......we even have a HON-FEST.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

151949 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:14:24 GMT

Mountain out of a molehill

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Newgate — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:18:11 GMT

I don't think it has anything to do with age and I don't like the sound of it either!! I feel it is just a habit with some and they probably don't even hear themselves! I just brush it off and go on my merry way!!

Re: Calling you "Hun"

Pearlee — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:21:00 GMT

@circles wrote:
No...i do not use words like that to anyone...its wrong....

I agree.

Just as wrong as using "sweetie" esp. here on the board when used in a sarcastic manner. In fact, such a post was recently removed by a Mod at my request within the past week.

I do not tolerate being called "hun" or "honey" or "sweetheart" (I put a stop to the latter when the checker at the exit door of Sam's Club kept doing that - I spoke to a female manager specifically who solved that problem for me). That is just not acceptable professional conduct in the workplace in the year 2017, I don't care who was raised in the south or whose "habit" it is.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

YorkieonmyPillow — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:22:55 GMT

It's okay with me, I think it's sweet...........

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Leu — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:25:59 GMT

I'd prefer 'hon' over "Ma'am" any day.

I think people who do this tend to be more demonstrative in general. Like how some people are huggers and some aren't. In general there's no offense meant by it, so I let it roll of me like water off a duck's back.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

SunValley — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:26:32 GMT

I guess being called Hon or Dear is better than "you there" or "hey you" which I have heard a time or two. If the greeting is delivered without condescension or malice, it doesn't bother me. I have been called Hon before when it was meant to remind me I was working in a man's world, and I was plenty riled up. I have also been called Hon by a hard working waitress or pleasant supermarket checker and I took no offense at all.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

september — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:26:45 GMT

I've been called this, as well as other terms that some people think are derogatory. (Like ma'am). I look at the intent of the person using the word..... 99 times out of 100....I think they're being good, but imperfect, people.

I think we need to give others some slack and stop nit picking.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

Evie2004 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:29:36 GMT

@151949..agree, where I am from, "hon", "sweetie", "darlin" can be a term of endearment..I was guilty of using one of them many times in my years as a nurse..if I offended anyone, they never mentioned it to me..actually, seems I hear "darlin" a lot in the south.

I don't feel it is used much anymore, but I would not be offended, for sure..

Re: Calling you "Hun"

GCR18 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:35:59 GMT

I don't think I've been called that. I seem to get ma'am lately. Not too crazy about that.

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september — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:41:17 GMT

I don't mind if I'm called ma'am, but it seems to be getting replaced with miss more often. I was actually called miss twice today by Costco employees.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

SunValley — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:43:11 GMT

Ma'am is used to address royalty and has historically been a respectful form of address in the south, and still is in the military. I am not sure why this would seem derogatory other than I have heard some women say that it makes them feel old, but I would not find it rude to be addressed as ma'am.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

occasionalrain — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:45:36 GMT

I dislike terms of endearment from those close to me; my husband knows better than to call me by any of them. However, I'm not going to make an issue out of a waitress, checker, etc who means well. The thought of reporting someone who is working for low wages, doing their job and, G forbid, speaks unprofessionally is just plain mean and, to me, unconscionable.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

Noel7 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:57:52 GMT

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
It's okay with me, I think it's sweet...........

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@YorkieonmyPillow

Me, too. The first time a waitress called me Hon, I was in my 20s and traveling through Nevada with DH. She was sweet, friendly and fun.

It has never bothered me, every time it's been said to me, the person has meant well.

Re: Calling you "Hun"

Katcat1 — Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:58:03 GMT

If you don't like being called Hun then you need to say something to the person. I heard it a lot in the hospital when I had surgery and was admitted for a few days. I picked it up and it's just a friendly term. When you hear it enough, you pick it up so watch out as you may be using it too!