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“MENOPOSITIVE”?

CaliGold67 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 23:44:34 GMT

Ladies - I just found this Category on qvc.com site - I had NO idea that "menopause" was such a BIG thing, like an illness or "condition" worthy of so much focus. SMH. Mine was so gradual I barely knew what it was:

"Menopositive"? I am pretty sure we're ALL grownups and can handle this part of being female and alive. The people focusing on this are trying to scare us into the Dr. office (like men know anything!) and the Fan store.
PUHLEEZE. And I've never heard of these "Advocates and Advisors" - it's just not a Real Thing to worry about or look for "Advice". Good grief. What's next?

EDIT: Some folks here are misinterpreting my words to throw shade at me or to get sympathy. Sorry cryo babies. My criticism is directed only at people and commercial interests who are profiting from the normal expected Menopause symptoms and ideas that we ALL experience. Also - it's unhealthy to view oneself as a victim of normal physical or mental symptoms. We ALL have our trials and tribulations. If you're well enough to read and post here then you're OK.

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catter70 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 10:04:16 GMT

Geez, it must be a big thing because the actress, Halle Berry, went to speak in front of Congress about it. Really, how did we all survive? They know it all.

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Desertdi — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:01:19 GMT

ANYTHING to make a buck...

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EastCoastGal — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:18:34 GMT

@CaliGold67 wrote:
Ladies - I just found this Category on qvc.com site - I had NO idea that "menopause" was such a BIG thing, like an illness or "condition" worthy of so much focus. SMH. Mine was so gradual I barely knew what it was:

"Menopositive"? I am pretty sure we're ALL grownups and can handle this part of being female and alive. The people focusing on this are trying to scare us into the Dr. office (like men know anything!) and the Fan store.
PUHLEEZE. And I've never heard of these "Advocates and Advisors" - it's just not a Real Thing to worry about or look for "Advice". Good grief. What's next?

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@CaliGold67 ... YOU are very lucky because it was a "BIG thing" for me! Years of getting hot flashes... and sitting outside when it was hot out?!?!" Forget it !! ...and I'm not talking about sitting in the sun! I was in the shade when it was 80 degrees at different places and l was so hot l thought l would faint ... so l would have to leave and come home! This lasted for YEARS.

l had hot flashes for at least 20-25 years! I'm now in my 70's and they have calmed down... but l still get them at night a couple nights a week while watching TV. All of a sudden I would feel hot and say out loud "Oh good !! I'm 76 years old and here's a hot flash again??" I sleep with the temperature at 65-67 and use one throw.

So you see... for me it was and still is a BIG THING and VERY REAL". l am insulted by your post only talking about yourself and not feeling bad for people who have a hard time with it. I used to work for a woman about 50 years old. She would have terrible hot flashes during the day. She would be soaking wet... her face, head, chest, her back. She would have tissues and would try to wipe herself dry. I felt so sorry for her.

Consider yourself VERY lucky!!

Edited to say l don't watch the program. I don't need to because like l said I'm 76 and I've gone through this terrible time in my life already. I know a lot of women are watching and enjoying the shows. I'm happy for them they are enjoying them!

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wifey2qt — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:49:21 GMT

WHY is this so bothersome? Perhaps some of you seniors may have benefited with having more support when you went thru this stage ions ago.

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Ainhisg — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:57:09 GMT

I have to say that this post and some of the responses kind of went all over me. I, too, have (and am) suffering terribly with menopause, and I've been going through it for 13 years. I am 62. You name a symptom, and I've had it horribly...and would still have most of them if not for HRT and vag**** topical cream that I have been on almost since the start. Night sweats, atrophy, dryness, increased UTI's, and increased vag**** infections. Menopause...the gift that keeps on giving. Plus I developed OAB from the UTI I had in May! I am seeing my gynecologist and urologist for these conditions. (No urogynecologists in my area.)

So it is a REAL thing, and I shudder to think about how I would have dealt with any of this if I had been born even 50 years before I was. It may be a natural event, but should it not be treated if possible for quality of life? I mean, I developed high cholesterol, and I was in good shape. My doctor gave me a chance to clean up my diet (it wasn't even that bad) and to try natural supplements. My next visit? My cholesterol readings were even worse! So, since that's natural (familial history of high cholesterol), should I not have treated it with medication? SMH

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EastCoastGal — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:05:59 GMT

@Ainhisg wrote:
I have to say that this post and some of the responses kind of went all over me. I, too, have (and am) suffering terribly with menopause, and I've been going through it for 13 years. I am 62. You name a symptom, and I've had it horribly...and would still have most of them if not for HRT and vag**** topical cream that I have been on almost since the start. Night sweats, atrophy, dryness, increased UTI's, and increased vag**** infections. Menopause...the gift that keeps on giving. Plus I developed OAB from the UTI I had in May! I am seeing my gynecologist and urologist for these conditions. (No urogynecologists in my area.)

So it is a REAL thing, and I shudder to think about how I would have dealt with any of this if I had been born even 50 years before I was. It may be a natural event, but should it not be treated if possible for quality of life? I mean, I developed high cholesterol, and I was in good shape. My doctor gave me a chance to clean up my diet (it wasn't even that bad) and to try natural supplements. My next visit? My cholesterol readings were even worse! So, since that's natural, should I not have treated it with medication? SMH

@Ainhisg ... l am so sorry you are dealing with all of these problems caused by Menopause! ❤️ I've had problems with menopause for over 20 years but not nearly as many problems you are being treated for! 😢 lt amazes me that just because ONE person doesn't believe menopause is real it doesn't give her the right to say that!! She's ONE person and l guess she's obsessed with this because this is the second post she's written about it !!! Menopause IS REAL @CaliGold67 !!! I know you don't care for the shows about this...so don't watch them instead of complaining about them!! SMH

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AngelPuppy1 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 12:06:59 GMT

Well, I don't know about going in front of Congress for it??? I mean - what did she expect them to do about it? I'm sorry but I think she is kind of out there.

However --- my experience with meno was NOT very positive I can tell you that! I am glad that for some of you that you did NOT even notice you went through it, but there are plenty of us that DID notice it and it was NOT fun -- in the least!

I suffered with pre-menopausal symptoms and then the actual meno! I had a lot of terrible symptoms. One of them was feeling like I was being fried from the inside out! And my face and neck would get beet red and sweat would pour off of me and I would feel like I was going to pass out! And this would just hit at any time! It was very uncomfortable and embarrassing! This went on for years!!!!

So, I can tell you --- this for many - was NOT good and many of us suffered greatly with many symptoms.

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vermint — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 12:24:21 GMT

@CaliGold67 Just because menopause was no big deal for you, doesn't mean that others don't suffer terribly wih it!!!!

My mother and I were blessed and thankful that we had almost no symptoms with it...but we watched friends, relatives and co-workers go through so much misery.

No one should assume that their experience with anything means that all others share the same experience--good OR bad!

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 12:52:58 GMT

Misogyny is especially sad when it comes from other women.

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They CallMe MRWILKES — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:00:43 GMT

"Just not a real thing.....:

Wow!

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Caaareful Shopper — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:23:08 GMT

"it's just not a Real Thing to worry about or look for "Advice". Good grief. "

It's exactly this mentality that keeps women from seeking help. SMH!

To think such a selfish, apathetic thought is one thing. To actually proudly write it is such a sad commentary.

My mother went through it with terrible symptoms. I was in middle school at the time. No one in my family discussed it; it was not something anyone talked about in the early 80's. I remember being scared daily that my mother had some sort of awful disease. Imagine her living with that silence and societal indifference.

I think I had very mild symptoms, I think. Unless I'm still in for a shocker, which is possible, I hardly recognized any symptoms.

I would never discount any woman needing help in any way to get the expert resources she truly needs. Would I start with QVC? Heck no! But that's my personal choice.

"The people focusing on this are trying to scare us into the Dr. office (like men know anything!) "

So there are only male doctors to talk to about menopause???? Close-minded is an understatement.

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They CallMe MRWILKES — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:40:32 GMT

Misogynistic and a little dash of man bashing from the OP in a single post!

Cover all your bases.

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Bookplate — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:27:06 GMT

Obviosly menopause can be accompanied by physical and emotional conditions that can vary from irritating to devastating, and can be brief or long lasting. If one is unlucky enough to be saddled with years of discomfort, is a shopping channel labelling some products as "menopositive" really going to be of any comfort? Or it is just another crass marketing ploy?

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CalminHeart — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:38:03 GMT

Menopause is a huge thing for some, not so huge for others. I'm surprised people don't realize this.

My hot flashes would drench me. I still have hot flashes and it's been 20 years since I was fully in meno.

I kept wet paper towels in my office for years. The coolness felt good.

My face turns bright red when I get a hot flash. It became a joke at work and with family.

I can't tell you how many times I stood outside in winter weather to cool off. Still do.

This year I heard about a medication that helps reduce sweating - no hormones. It doesn't stop hot flashes but reduces the heavy sweating and makes them more tolerable. It's a life saver.

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CalminHeart — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:46:46 GMT

@CalminHeart wrote:

Menopause is a huge thing for some, not so huge for others. I'm surprised people don't realize this.

My hot flashes would drench me. I still have hot flashes and it's been 20 years since I was fully in meno.

I kept wet paper towels in my office for years. The coolness felt good.

My face turns bright red when I get a hot flash. It became a joke at work and with family.

I can't tell you how many times I stood outside in winter weather to cool off. Still do.

This year I heard about a medication that helps reduce sweating - no hormones. It doesn't stop hot flashes but reduces the heavy sweating and makes them more tolerable. It's a life saver.

I can't edit these so here goes.

I find the whole age of possiblity, menopause shows, and the whole marketing thing to be a gimmick to make sales. Corporations want sales, nothing else. They'll say and do anything to make a sale.

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CalminHeart — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:47:10 GMT

@They CallMe MRWILKES wrote:
Misogynistic and a little dash of man bashing from the OP in a single post!

Cover all your bases.

Cry me a river.

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Junebug54 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:50:18 GMT

I would think we should talk to our doctor rather than listen to a QVC host

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haddon9 — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 14:01:41 GMT

I suffered so much from menstrual cramps as a young girl and teen. It was so bad that my mother had to pick me up from school several times and when she took me to the doctor about it he just said it was "all in my head". This was in the 1960s.

When my daughter got her period, she also got cramps but I don't think they were as bad as mine. However she actually fainted a few times in school and I had to pick her up. The doctor at the time suggested that she take birth control pills to alleviate her pain and stop her from fainting. We gave that a try and it helped a lot (not all birth control medication is just for birth control!).

Once I entered menopause, I got lucky with very few side effects and almost no hot flashes. I figured that I paid my dues as awful as that sounds when I was younger.

I would have hoped that by now women who suffer from severe menopause would get relief from medication. I'm sorry for those who continue to suffer so much.

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They CallMe MRWILKES — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 15:19:27 GMT

Dr. Mary Claire Haver, a Q50 Ambassador seen in the first post is not a QVC host.

She is a Board Certified OB/GYN.

QVC affiliating with this reknown expertise in the medical field is quite refreshing, novel and undoubtedly helpful to many.

Cry Me That River!