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One day....

SanFerryAnne — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 15:25:25 GMT

You will be sorry you wasted your money on all the junk you've been stockpilling. You may enjoy it for a season, something breaks, wears out too soon, you stash it away, forgotten.

When something happens to you — and it will — SOMEONE will have to clear out all this mess you've bought here and elsewhere that you just HAD to have. Not necessities, but "stuff."
Your children, busy with their own lives and families by then, will have to stop everything they're doing to clear out your property and make hard decisions as to what to do with all the junk you accumulated. THAT is the real legacy you'll leave for them: the hardship of dealing with all the overpriced Parr Hill tat; jars of half-used cream amd makeup; stained food containers; broken garden equipment that never performed "as advertised" from the start; tarnished jewellery; stacks of worn-only-once holiday-themed surge-seamed clothes; mass-produced, gaudy resin figurines.... And on it goes.
THINK before you buy. THINK what you'll leave behind for someone to sort through, clean up.
This lifestyle isn't worth your money or the anxiety you're creating for those left behind.

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Zhills — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 15:29:28 GMT

What a way to start the day!

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RollTide2008 — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 15:30:17 GMT

I don't expect my mother to live in a sterile room with only the clothes on her back and a cup and spoon in her golden years so I don't have to clean out her house when she dies. If buying plastic containers and ugly shoes gives her pleasure, who am I to tell her to stop?

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mimomof4 — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 18:58:21 GMT

I know the feeling. After spending months which included several 12 hour days cleaning out my mother in laws home last summer - I was very angry at her. She lived in the house for 50 years, we found assignments in a buffet drawer from when my husband and his sisters were in elementary school. Ugh on the outside her house looked neat. Then every time we opened up a cabinet we were in a time machine. So sad her dresser drawers were full of papers, old checks and letters. Only 3 drawers actually had clothes everything else was junk.

After we were done cleaning out her house I went through my house throwing out stuff we didn't need.

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kitcat51 — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 15:39:25 GMT

good grief.

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Jazzycat1 — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 15:53:02 GMT

Most of us have been there and we did it out of love.

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MaverDaver — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:03:33 GMT

Okay Debbie as in "DOWNER"

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FancyPhillyshopper — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:07:56 GMT

And yet we are blessed to live in a time and an age of prosperity, and a nation that allows abundance, so who are we to complain that every average citizen can acquire almost any and all goods that he/she so desires and thus live well?

Yes, hoarding is a challenge in our world, but would we rather be living in a cave or a hut with a dirt fioor and no personal possessions but the clothes on our back?

Your admonishments are well meaning, but those who are stockpiling may also be suffering from physical or mental unwellness, and spend money to help ease the pain in their own lives. Rather than scold, reach out and assist while they are still alive. I am quite sure that the dead do not really care what goes on when they are no longer among us.

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Stevie Nix — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:10:08 GMT

Wow

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They CallMe MRWILKES — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:11:04 GMT

Wow!

That's one of the wildest Anti-Q rants I've read in a long time!

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faeriemoon — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:15:41 GMT

You've got to love it when someone you don't even know gets on their high horse to preach.

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Marp — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:20:05 GMT

I look at the mess that I intend to leave as payback.

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Love my grandkids — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:21:28 GMT

@SanFerryAnne Oh good grief. Mind your own beeswax. Bet you're a lot of fun at parties!

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Zhills — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:23:18 GMT

I've told my son, "When I go, just open that drawer and dump it! Open that closet and throw it away."

"Anything that is important, we have taken care of!"

Easy Peasy!

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jubilant — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:31:09 GMT

There really is two sides to this story. Yes, it is a lot of work when mom dies but every piece brought back a memory of my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother. Great memories! Much of it went to Goodwill, which, in a way, made it worth it. Just knowing others will get some good out of it does seem to make one feel a lot better!

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Desertdi — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:27:27 GMT

Well....let me tell ya....This really does go thru the minds of YOUR RELATIVES.

I was informed to "clean up the house before I die"......because they don't want to INHERIT A MESS.

I felt the obligation to inform THEM....that THEY were not among my beneficiaries, since everything is going to charity.

Gosh.....I haven't heard back from them in ages......

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Kachina624 — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:28:09 GMT

@SanFerryAnne I think you need to mind your own business and let other people manage their lives as they see fit. What nerve!

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DrakesMomma — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:30:39 GMT

My Daddy died when I was 12 and my mom when I was 18. I would give my left kidney to have a house full of their junk to have to go through.

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Desertdi — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:36:25 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
@SanFerryAnne I think you need to mind your own business and let other people manage their lives as they see fit. What nerve!

@Kachina624 THANK YOU !!! (Actually I was shocked that my relatives were even expecting anything. They keep bad-mouthing me because I live in Arizona.....with no water, electricity, paved roads, etc.) di

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Desert Lily — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 16:39:47 GMT

Where are the children of these parents who keep too much stuff while their parents are living?

Maybe it's too overwhelming physically for an elderly widow or widower to clear out their home after decades of living there to please their children.

If a child lives far from the parents, then a loving/caring priority could be to plan visits to help Mom or Dad out, & take turns if sibilings are involved.

I went to my parents' home on a regular basis & helped with home maintenance issues and/or called repair services. If they had old clothes they no longer wore, I went through them with my parents & I took them to Goodwill. When I bought them new kitchen electrics, I tossed the old ones. Etc.

If a Dresden figurine or a Fenton vase made my mother happy, then it made me happy. I wanted her to have the things she cherished & enjoyed.

I wasn't mad about old report cards of mine she had; I was touched by it.

Maybe some children need to step up. If we're there for our parents while they're living, there'd be no surprise about what was left behind and nothing to complain about.

Aging happens to everyone, and what goes around comes around.