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Lie Is Good??

clista — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 07:43:39 GMT

My husbaand passed away in September and my son had brain cancer and passed away in March. Life is not good for all of us. This line of clothes seems rather unfeeling and ridiculous. These two men need to realize life is what it is and not necessarily good for everyone.

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violann — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 08:53:12 GMT

@clista wrote:
My husbaand passed away in September and my son had brain cancer and passed away in March. Life is not good for all of us. This line of clothes seems rather unfeeling and ridiculous. These two men need to realize life is what it is and not necessarily good for everyone.

I hope that you will accept my most sincere regret that you have suffered so terribly in these recent months @clista .

I too have experienced a disproportionate burden of loss, actually some within the last few years as well, and there are times when I too “rage against” the seemingly untrammeled lives of others.

I hope that there will be a corner that you will turn some day in your near future when you experience some small release from your grief, whether in a tune that you shared some time ago, or a butterfly, or simply a moment of peaceful thoughts to replace your anguish.

Please know that your sorrow is understood.

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K9buddy — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 09:11:28 GMT

Please accept my condolences for your losses.

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Cats3000 — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 09:44:16 GMT

@clistaI have no idea what line of clothing you're talking about. "Life is good" is an expression and the clothing line is using it. No one is forcing you to buy into the thought or to buy anything from the clothihg line. Simply ignore it and move on. If a substantial number of consumers look at the clothing line and agree with you, they'll also move on.

We're in our upper 70's. We have a number of age-related problems and illnesses. We've often said that being the age we are beats the alternative. Even with all of the problems it probably still does.

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CountryCook — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 10:31:09 GMT

So sorry for your loss. Sadly, you have had more than your share.

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SXMGirl — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 10:45:02 GMT

@clista First, my condolences. You have had a very difficult few years and I am so sorry.

As for the clothing line, it has been around for a very long time. All of us have had difficult times, but a line of clothing that has a slogan meant to bring happiness should not have an effect on us.

My DH had two forms of stage 4 cancer and I retired with a traumatic brain injury that was job related. I absolutely understand how you feel. However, every day when I get up, it is a good day as it beats the alternative.

If you have not gotten counseling, I would urge you to do so. While I have never been enthused wtih counseling, I think that sometimes you just need to talk to an impartial party who can help direct you in a more positive way. We cannot do anything about the past, but we can look forward to a happier life. Easy for me to say, but I have been there more times than you can imagine, just like others on this board. Please reach out to someone, even if it is just to post here.

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AngelPuppy1 — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:47:01 GMT

@clista wrote:
My husbaand passed away in September and my son had brain cancer and passed away in March. Life is not good for all of us. This line of clothes seems rather unfeeling and ridiculous. These two men need to realize life is what it is and not necessarily good for everyone.

@clista

I am offering my condolences to you on the loss of your husband and son. I cannot even imagine the grief and sadness you must be experiencing. Losing any dear loved one is just the most difficult thing anyone can ever endure. I lost my mother not that long ago and it is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I hope and pray that you have family members and close friends that are there for you and can give you the support, understanding and guidance that you need.

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mom2four0418 — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:51:21 GMT

@clista wrote:
My husbaand passed away in September and my son had brain cancer and passed away in March. Life is not good for all of us. This line of clothes seems rather unfeeling and ridiculous. These two men need to realize life is what it is and not necessarily good for everyone.

I know the sadness of great loss, and hope that you can find some peace. I also happen to know the two brothers who own this company, and they created the Life is Good Kids Foundaton. The foundation helps kids who have not had such good lives. These two brothers are the furthest thing from unfeeling and ridiculous.

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LindaSal — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:56:34 GMT

@clista : I am very sorry for your loss. Regrettably we all have been through some kind of trauma in our lives. I watched my mom suffer through lung cancer and was by her side at her last breath. A few years later I survived breast cancer after surgery, chemo and radiation. I just try to be thankful for each day and never, ever thought to ask once "why me"?? Life happens and just because we are going through something difficult we really shouldn't expect others to be unhappy. I hope you can find peace in your heart.

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haddon9 — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 11:58:51 GMT

I am so sorry for your terrible loss. My deepest sympathy.

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countrylady — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:44:24 GMT

I am very sorry for your loss. There is help for you.

I know exactly what you mean about the clothing line. My husband and our son died about 2 years apart, and now I am alone.

I wondered how other people could even laugh or smile while I was so sad. I am in grief counseling and seeing a doctor for depression; both have helped me a lot and I have made new dear friends through the counseling.

Now, not all of the time, but more and more, I can watch the clothing presentations. When I can't watch I turn the channel.

Please remember there is help for you.

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fancy pantsy — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:44:32 GMT

@clista i am so very sorry for your losses, and i pray that your journey becomes a little more bearable each day.

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Sooner — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 12:59:59 GMT

@clista I hope your life before they passed was good. Was wonderful. I can't imagine how much you must miss them. But I hope in the days ahead you can find comfort and find things that will bring more happiness to. you.

Maybe in the meantime you might try to think of "life is good" to remember the joy and some of the good times you had with your loved ones in a small way rather than thinking of today when you hear the phrase.

Please think about finding someone to talk to--a counselor, minister, rabbi or someone who deals with grief counseling. Maybe they could help you let out a little bit of your grief enough to start letting in some happiness again. I feel sure your husband and son would wish this for you more than anything. All of my family but one person is gone. So it's not like I've never thought about how you must feel because some day it will be me or that other person alone.

Please accept my condolences and -- even some hugs if I were someone in your life. And I wish you some good in your life again in the coming days.

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software — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 15:03:42 GMT

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've experienced much loss myself.

I see the world LIFE as having 2 different contexts.

Life referring to your current situation is difficult & sad

But every day we wake up & have life ourselves, it's a gift and an opportunity.

I don't like any kind of affirmation clothing, you are right, it can be hard for some people to see it.

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phoenixbrd — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 16:05:47 GMT

@clista I am so sorry for your losses and difficult challenges that you are facing. You are, of course, grieving and it might make it difficult to relate to another's joy. I hope that you are kind with yourself, these are immense life changes that you have experienced. Words seem so meaningless when going through such a loss. I respect your feelings and understand your current response.

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NicksmomESQ — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 16:15:06 GMT

@clista I’m so very sorry for your losses.I can’t imagine the pain you feel. Please know you have friends here willing to listen & help.

The name of the company wasn’t meant to kick people when they’re down. But rather to uplift.I understand that at the place you’re at, that you’re not ready to be uplifted. That’s okay.You need to go at your own pace.Ignore it.Please don’t take it personally.

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IMW — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 16:31:08 GMT

My deepest condolences. Your life is definitely not good now.Your heart is hurting, the grief seems insurmountable.

I wish you healing, and a easing of this horrible pain.

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SeaMaiden — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 17:08:06 GMT

@clista I also am so sorry for your recent loss. I agree with you. These lines of clothes professing this and that are tacky and unecessary.

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libbyannE — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 19:26:13 GMT

@clista

I feel for your profound losses. But I don’t understand your reference to a clothing line and also your header, which says that a “lie is good.” Huh?

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Spurt — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 21:58:25 GMT

First, I offer my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your husband. The grieving process can be very difficult, and my prayers go out to you. I've lost many friends and loved ones to cancer and heart disease....In fact one of my dear friends lost her husband just recently.

You're hurting, but there's many others enjoying life and énjoying happy moments ..... I bet there were times in your past when you felt life was good, yet I bet others were alo hurting, but yet you got to celebrate the good times in your life. Its not fair to stop everyone from çelebrating. As someone suggested you may want to consider a grief counselor. With time I hope you'll come to a healing place...HUGS!.