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Aspergers Anyone?

Puzzle Piece — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 18:57:28 GMT

I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.

How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?

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mom2four0418 — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 19:09:32 GMT

May I ask what your qualifications are for making such a diagnosis?

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.
How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?

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violann — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 19:54:45 GMT

@mom2four wrote:
May I ask what your qualifications are for making such a diagnosis?
@Puzzle Piece wrote:
I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.
How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?
Good diagnosis tries to be as scientific as possible. The term "odd" is subjective, and therefore would be out of place as part of a diagnosis. The term "such", being equally non descriptive, would not likely appear in a diagnosis either.

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Moonchilde — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 20:20:11 GMT

Since you don't want anything to do with her, what do you think could/would be accomplished by you learning what sort of help might be available to her?

The fact that she is working and her employer feels she is competent in her job is all that is relevant to you. If she had any condition that rendered her completely unable to co-exist with others, she wouldn't be there. The fact that she is an annoyance to you is just one of those things.

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ECBG — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 20:22:03 GMT

The woman would have to commit some "overt behavior" that would link her to services, or relatives could become her guardian because of her behavior.

Her civil rights would protect her from someone interfering with her life.

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Moonchilde — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 20:42:16 GMT

@ECBG wrote:
The woman would have to commit some "overt behavior" that would link her to services, or relatives could become her guardian because of her behavior.

Her civil rights would protect her from someone interfering with her life.

And being annoyingly socially inappropriate is a loooong way from the above.

I was in a large social group for many years with one Aspergers-inclined person. We basically ignored her, or when any one of us had had enough, told her to wait her turn and/or ST*U. It had very little effect. It might stop her for 10 min. but then she'd turn around and do it again.

The ST*U is not appropriate for the workplace, however, and would likely get the OP fired 👹

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Love my grandkids — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 20:39:11 GMT

Hey OP, where did you get your medical degree? and where did your co-worker get hers? Your post strikes me personally as very unkind. I'm guessing you may not be the sweetest rose in the bunch with that attitude.

Leave her alone, it's none of your business. And maybe try a little kinder attitude, even if you wish to not interact with her. A little kindness goes a long way. Give it a shot.

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Trinity11 — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 21:11:19 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.
How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?

Are you really trying to help her? If you are it is a strange way to do it...... Unless you are a clinician working in the field of psychiatry, you have absolutely no idea whether the diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome fits whatever behavior you obviously find fault with.

Save yourself the trouble of insulting her by giving her suggestions on how to get help. You may find her telling you to MYOB....which is intrusiveness into others lives being indicative of people with their own issues.

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photodreamr — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 21:23:03 GMT

My husband has this. It is very tough to be diagnosed in the later years. Mostly because people learn how to adapt and/or hide some of the behavior. It is a long hard never ending road.

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Moonchilde — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 23:26:58 GMT

@photodreamr wrote:
My husband has this. It is very tough to be diagnosed in the later years. Mostly because people learn how to adapt and/or hide some of the behavior. It is a long hard never ending road.

Like other types of autism spectrum disorders and physical genetic spectrum disorders, there are degrees along a scale of how life-affecting something may or may not be.

@photodreamr, I would assume your husband's issues are relatively mild and manageable since he fell in love with you, courted you, and you accepted - he must be "lovable." I think him being made aware, and being supported and helped by you, is more than half the battle. Good for you! 🌞

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Kachina624 — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 23:46:37 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.
How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?

Sound like our Amy Poehler poster.

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Moonchilde — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 00:07:50 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
@Puzzle Piece wrote:
I posted earlier in this year about a woman with odd behavior and such. I've come to the conclusion that she must have Aspergers. Another I've spoken with about her concluded the same.
How do people like that get the help they need? Is there any help at all. She's going to be 58 years old and she doesn't know why people avoid her and don't include her in anything. She just completely wears me out and I won't have anything much to do with her at all either. Suggestions or recommendations?
Sound like our Amy Poehler poster.

Which? 😉

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Kachina624 — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 00:24:34 GMT

@Moonchilde Her posts don't last long but about every 2-3 months she starts a thread about nobody at her church liking her, etc., etc.

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Moonchilde — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 00:28:14 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
@Moonchilde Her posts don't last long but about every 2-3 months she starts a thread about nobody at her church liking her, etc., etc.

Oh, I'm very familiar with "Amy." I thought you might be intimating someone as being...like Amy.

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Lila Belle — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 02:12:45 GMT

W. O. W.

How did this thread get past the mods?

Really. How?

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KringleB — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 22:33:47 GMT

@Love my grandkids wrote:
Hey OP, where did you get your medical degree? and where did your co-worker get hers? Your post strikes me personally as very unkind. I'm guessing you may not be the sweetest rose in the bunch with that attitude.

Leave her alone, it's none of your business. And maybe try a little kinder attitude, even if you wish to not interact with her. A little kindness goes a long way. Give it a shot.

Here here!! Well said!!!!!!!!!!

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 23:14:26 GMT

@Love my grandkids wrote:
Hey OP, where did you get your medical degree? and where did your co-worker get hers? Your post strikes me personally as very unkind. I'm guessing you may not be the sweetest rose in the bunch with that attitude.

Leave her alone, it's none of your business. And maybe try a little kinder attitude, even if you wish to not interact with her. A little kindness goes a long way. Give it a shot.

No amount of kindness will help deal with this woman. Others have tried and since you are not around her to make the statements you do you come across as completely ignorant as your don't know everything that has gone on with her. YOU are unkind to insult me for asking for any sort of sharing on that subject like so many of the other posters here. The attitude is strictly yours/theirs. Leave her alone? Ask her to leave me alone, I dare you.

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Moonchilde — Tue, 20 Sep 2016 01:21:26 GMT

As expected.

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Moonchilde — Tue, 20 Sep 2016 01:23:59 GMT

1. Speak to a supervisor and document your issues.

2. Speak to HR and document your issues.

That's about it. The End.