topic Re: I failed in Wellness

I failed

Mistreatedbycs — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:16:04 GMT

30# gain, yes, I was at WW that was over 2 years ago, with my mom gone, house to sell and now gone, tons of excuses are piling up and although I've been going to the gym, unfortunately over eating and working out doesn't do much other than tell myself, you worked out, I can eat it.

Needed to say this....

Re: I failed

conlt — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:24:46 GMT

I am on WW for a year now and I have had ups and downs but I have been successful in weight loss. We all have difficult times, your new life starts when you decide to make positive choices. Your new life towards weight loss always starts at your next meal. None of us are perfect. You can do this.

Re: I failed

GCR18 — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:31:37 GMT

Tomorrow is a new day. Start the day by going to the grocery store and getting fresh foods. Get your tracker out and all your booklets and read them. You can do this.

Re: I failed

Kachina624 — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:32:21 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
30# gain, yes, I was at WW that was over 2 years ago, with my mom gone, house to sell and now gone, tons of excuses are piling up and although I've been going to the gym, unfortunately over eating and working out doesn't do much other than tell myself, you worked out, I can eat it.

Needed to say this....

Don't feel badly @Mistreatedbycs. I'm a Lifetime Member and they pay me to stay away and not tell anybody. You have a lot of company.

Re: I failed

mac116 — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:37:17 GMT

I am also a lifetime member who has gained it all back...twice. I just can't seem to permanently give up the foods that I love, in the amounts that I want. I know what to do, just can't seem to do it.

Re: I failed

AKgirl2 — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:39:51 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs ~ I gained 30#s after I quit smoking 2 1/2 years ago. I still need to loose 15! The best view comes after the hardest climb. One day at a time, you'll have bad days, better days and good days and that's ok. Like they say, the view is great from the top😊

Re: I failed

chrystaltree — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:41:36 GMT

Ok, you gained 30 lbs, accept it and stopped beating yourself up over it. You go the gym....hellllooooo.....that's a good thing. You probably would have gained 50lbs if hadn't gone to the gym. Exersize isn't JUST for the thin or for people who are dieting. If you want to lose weight, go back to WW or work wth dietician or try some other program. However, if you feel that you have so much stress in your life now that you wouldn't be able to seriously diet, don't. Just try to eat healthy and continue going to the gym so that you don't gain more weight. You can re-viisit dieting when...or if....you feel it's the right time.

Re: I failed

Mominohio — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:44:50 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs

Don't feel bad, and don't be too hard on yourself.

Life gets rough sometimes, and we all deal with things in different ways. And many of us battle weight issues our entire lives.

It doesn't make us bad people, or lazy, or lacking in will power. It does frustrate us, and make us angry at ourselves at times, but we are still who we are. It doesn't negate all the good things we are and all the good things we do. It just is more of a battle for some of us than it is for others.

And when I think about some battles others face, I dust myself off, and try to do better tomorrow, grateful that I don't face many of the things others do. This is my thing, and I will conquer it, or at the very least, I won't let it conquer me.

Re: I failed

tansy — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 02:45:43 GMT

Go for losing 15 pounds first, then tackle the next 15. I'm struggling to get rid of the 20 pounds that creeped back on me:/

Re: I failed

EatWell — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 05:22:11 GMT

It might not be that bad, if you change your eating habits, and religiously exercise daily.

What is your age, height, and weight? How many hours exercise do you do per day?? How far are you from recommended BMI? Are you seeing a Registerd Dietitian?

And do you avoid binge eating?

Best thing I did was to give up my 5 year dependency on WW 2 years ago and start to prepare, and eat fresh, not frozen, processed, or canned foods. I started working out at gym 4xweek, and walk 10,000 steps per day. I work with a Registerd Dietitian on the advice of my primary Doctor.,,,smaller portions of food, and carb counting really helps!

FWIW, I lost 50# in 6 months through cutting out soda, deserts, starches, refined flour products, eating smaller portions. And my weight has remained stable. My BMI is perfect. Blood sugar level normal, cholesterol normal, blood pressure normal.

I starting eating more salads, fresh vegetables and less carbs. Bought a smaller. 9" dinner plate. Half plate salad, 1/4 plate fresh vegetables, 1/4 plate 4 oz. lean protein like skinless chicken, small lean pork loin or beef, tofu, or fish like salmon or halibut.

And avoid watching Holiday Gourmet and don't watch the food presentations on In The Kitchen Wirh David.

Good luck and don't give up trying to loose weight. You'll be more healthy., and enjoy improved self esteem.

Re: I failed

qualitygal — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 08:45:44 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs, I recently accepted this just may be me at this age. I'm healthy. I intend to continue to eat right and for my health. It's not like I'm giving up and indulging back to the old habits. But a year and a half later the scale that WW said to not worry about got to the point it felt like punishments. So one day I just said look at your family history on how their bodies were. (If overweight, I don't want to give into that). But week after week to go into the scale as a judgment of my success for them made no sense. For those that WW works for that's wonderful and it did for me in the past. Due to back conditions and my age, I have to accept where I am for now. When it worked for me before, I could move a whole lot better. No matter the slogans, and chants...for me it's the acceptance. My goal is the health issue, not the scale. I'm done throwing that money away.

Re: I failed

AuntG — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 12:54:42 GMT

You gave us reasons for why it happened. Notice that I did not call them excuses because you've had a lot thrown at you. Everyday is a opportunity to try again, and if you fail, try again the next day.

Re: I failed

GSPgirl — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 13:10:22 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
30# gain, yes, I was at WW that was over 2 years ago, with my mom gone, house to sell and now gone, tons of excuses are piling up and although I've been going to the gym, unfortunately over eating and working out doesn't do much other than tell myself, you worked out, I can eat it.

Needed to say this....

I think that's the hardest part of trying to lose weight. I successfully lost 30 lbs on WW and have been able to keep it off for a year now. My secret? I have told myself I will count points the rest of my life. "Calories have consequences" is another thing I say to myself when I want that chocolate cake. I have a friend who works out with me and she is also on WW. She hasn't lost any weight because she thinks if she works out she can still eat the way she always has. She is always asking me what I eat in a day. I tell her that if I have a big lunch that means I will have a small dinner.

I also don't want to go back to the meetings and that motivates me to keep the weight off. I liked the meetings when I was losing the weight, but now only go to weigh in once a month. I also found that when I started working out 3 times a week the rest of my weight finally came off. Think of it this way: you work so hard to get that weight off. Why would you want to go back to your previous self? Yes, things happen in our lives, but the thing that can keep you focused is your WW app. Remember to treat yourself, too. I had a small fun size candy bar every evening when I was losing the weight, I love chocolate and had to have a piece every day. Good luck on your journey and remember this is a life long journey. You can do it!!

Re: I failed

SeaMaiden — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 14:31:25 GMT

do not set goals of 30 or 50 pounds.... set smaller goals of just 2 pounds.... no time frame to meet that 2 pound goal.... Meet that goal which for most is doable.......

and then set another 2 pound goal...

it is a slower pace of weight loss but most likely the good habits you started using to lose those two pounds will be now a mind set and you will not gain them back.

Re: I failed

Trinity11 — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 14:50:32 GMT

@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
30# gain, yes, I was at WW that was over 2 years ago, with my mom gone, house to sell and now gone, tons of excuses are piling up and although I've been going to the gym, unfortunately over eating and working out doesn't do much other than tell myself, you worked out, I can eat it.

Needed to say this....

You didn't fail the "diet" failed. A complete change of lifestyle is necessary and diets mostly all fail. I just changed how I live and the thought of points etc would make me thinking about food all day so I just cut out white food and have maintained for years because of that one thing. Also sugary desserts.....haven't had one in years. That keeps me slender and I just decided more than twenty years ago that no "diet" would ever work for me. Just changing how I thought about food works for me.

Good luck and please don't be hard on yourself. Most of us with weight problems have been there.

Re: I failed

SXMGirl — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 15:10:51 GMT

Enjoying food is just part of life and most of us are not very good with portion control when we like what we are eating. Don't beat yourself up. Concentrate more on healthy eating and exercise. Don't judge yourself on how much you weigh, but if losing those 30 pounds is important (and it probably should be), then focus on one pound at a time.

Most important is your overall health. When you are about to eat something unhealthy, try doing something to take your mind off of the food. Maybe go for a walk around the block or put in an exercise tape. When you are done, you probably will not want the higher-calorie food and will try something healthier.

I find that when I exercise more, I have better eating habits. Try some new exercise classes and that will provide a new motivation.

Good luck!

Re: I failed

Ms X — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 15:13:32 GMT

Look on the bright side. At least your gain isn't 50 or 100. Just get back on the program. Do your best every day. When you fall off the wagon, get back on the program. If you are on the program more than you're off it, you will succeed.

Re: I failed

Carmie — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 15:15:43 GMT

I have gained and lost the same 50 lbs many times. It happens.

There is always a do-over. Don"t beat yourself up over it.

Re: I failed

Mmsfoxxie — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 15:20:17 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
30# gain, yes, I was at WW that was over 2 years ago, with my mom gone, house to sell and now gone, tons of excuses are piling up and although I've been going to the gym, unfortunately over eating and working out doesn't do much other than tell myself, you worked out, I can eat it.

Needed to say this....
Don't feel badly @Mistreatedbycs. I'm a Lifetime Member and they pay me to stay away and not tell anybody. You have a lot of company.

Lol, I'm in that category, too, @Kachina624 I'm doing better, though.

@Mistreatedbycs, don't feel bad. I've been there, too...many, many times. It's never easy but if you feel like a failure, you'll give up and you'll never lose. I'm back on track right now but everyday is different so I wake up every day trying all over again.

Re: I failed

eddyandme — Sun, 04 Sep 2016 15:42:47 GMT

IMHO you've got a lot on your plate (pardon the pun). I truly believe this is a time when you should indulge YOUR wants and needs; definitely not a time to say 'no' to yourself and your needs.

Give yourself a break. Eat what you want and in whatever quantities you want. Your inner self will know when it's been satisfied. At that time your body will say 'no more,' 'I've had enough of that,' and finally, 'I am satisfied'. Would you begret a sick child a special treat? Of course not! Why do they call certain foods 'comfort food' - because they give us comfort, of course! Eat without regret for if you indulge and then feel guilty, you are not satisfying a need. Take a vacation from the gym: instead, go for a long ride down a country road or a nice long walk; let your mind 'empty itself'. When you have reach the point of forgiving yourself for failing at your diet, et al, and begin finding yourself more happy, self-satisfied and relaxed, then resume dieting. However, I doubt that you will need to at that point 'cause your body will have already policed itself and you hadn't even realized it!

Give yourself permission to love yourselt as you are - a difficult thing to do - and it'll all come together! And, in no way let a little number on a scale determine your happiness and worth - let your actions, or sometimes inactions, do it.

Take care and good luck!