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Please, Please, Please help me...

August37 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 05:37:51 GMT

Please, I need help. My 1st cousin is getting married July 12th, I've had my dress for 3 months, and did not try it on. I put it on tonight, and it won't zip , please can anyone tell me how I can loose some back fast, really, really fast. I'm the maid of honor , and I can't fit my dress. Please help me, no judgment please. I can't ell her, our dresses were special ordered. I can't find the color or size no where else , I'm in tears. She will be so hurt if I told her!!!! Help me...

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Ditzydori — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 05:56:17 GMT

If it was specially ordered, I can't believe you did not have fittings and never tried it on. Who buys a dress without trying it on. Honesty is the best policy. The sooner you tell her, the sooner you can look for another dress. Good luck

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Danielle46 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:10:34 GMT

On 6/29/2014 ditzy dori said:
If it was specially ordered, I can't believe you did not have fittings and never tried it on. Who buys a dress without trying it on. Honesty is the best policy. The sooner you tell her, the sooner you can look for another dress. Good luck

Totally agree!!! Tell her now. Don't wait until the last minute and cause her unneeded stress. You can't spot reduce overnight. It would take months of eating clean and working out correctly and religiously to reduce your overall body fat (not just weight reduction). I think it was EXTREMELY inconsiderate of you not to try that dress on sooner.

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Kitlynn — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:12:48 GMT

Just find someone that does alterations and have them let it out. They even do that at bridal stores.

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BeckiWV — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:14:53 GMT

I agree with Kitlynn. Find a seamstress who can let it out for you. Don't wait, just do it. It will be OK.

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Lindsays Grandma — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:24:08 GMT

I do agree you should look in the yellow pages and find a seamstress ASAP because if there isn't enough fabric to let out you will have to notify the bride immediately. Actually, you should let the bride know now so that she is aware of the situation. Good luck.

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August37 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:43:35 GMT

Please, if you don't have anything positive to say to me, please don't post at ALL. I feel bad enough. I did try my dress on, and the lady that sized me told me to size down, because the dress fit in some areas too big, and too small across my back. I don't need no one putting me down. Help me if you can, otherwise keep your nasty comments to yourself. Thanks in advance. I think if I focus on my back area for the next few weeks I might be fine. Thanks for the positive posts.

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MomOf4 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:49:42 GMT

On 6/29/2014 August37 said:
Please, if you don't have anything positive to say to me, please don't post at ALL. I feel bad enough. I did try my dress on, and the lady that sized me told me to size down, because the dress fit in some areas too big, and too small across my back. I don't need no one putting me down. Help me if you can, otherwise keep your nasty comments to yourself. Thanks in advance. I think if I focus on my back area for the next few weeks I might be fine. Thanks for the positive posts.

First of all nobody was nasty to you. Second, if the wedding is July 12, you don't have a few weeks. You have 2 weeks. I truly believe your only choice is to find a seamstress. Good luck.

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voyager1980 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:58:19 GMT

Yes you only have 2 wks. Not enough time to lose weight.Don't panic.A good tailor or seamstress can & will help you. (:

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Tinkrbl44 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 06:58:42 GMT

On 6/29/2014 August37 said:
Please, if you don't have anything positive to say to me, please don't post at ALL. I feel bad enough. I did try my dress on, and the lady that sized me told me to size down, because the dress fit in some areas too big, and too small across my back. I don't need no one putting me down. Help me if you can, otherwise keep your nasty comments to yourself. Thanks in advance. I think if I focus on my back area for the next few weeks I might be fine. Thanks for the positive posts.

I'm really not sure what "I think if I focus on my back area for the next few weeks I might be fine" is supposed to mean, but you are probably just kidding yourself.

The best thing to do is go to a local bridal shop or a reputable seamstress TOMORROW and see about getting the dress re-fitted to your CURRENT size. Don't compound the problem by thinking you can change your body to fit the dress in such a short time.

If you are told that the dress doesn't have enough spare material to make the alteration, then stand up straight, call the bride and tell her the truth. You owe that to her.

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voyager1980 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:00:37 GMT

I think keeping secrets makes things seem worse than they really are

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August37 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:23:57 GMT

Okay, I think I was a complete idiot for asking for help here. Thanks again, for ALL the positive posts. I asked for help. I've alerted her of my issues. Sorry if I'm so sensitive, but I only asked for help for weight, not criticism. As I said before, I already feel bad. I just need a little advice, I can zip the dress with help, I just know it will be busy, the day of the wedding, and wanted to lose a few pounds, so I wouldn't have to ask anyone to assist me. Thanks you all.

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Jannabelle — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:41:26 GMT

On 6/30/2014 August37 said:
Okay, I think I was a complete idiot for asking for help here. Thanks again, for ALL the positive posts. I asked for help. I've alerted her of my issues. Sorry if I'm so sensitive, but I only asked for help for weight, not criticism. As I said before, I already feel bad. I just need a little advice, I can zip the dress with help, I just know it will be busy, the day of the wedding, and wanted to lose a few pounds, so I wouldn't have to ask anyone to assist me. Thanks you all.

Hi, August, I understand, is it possible it is water weight, and you could watch salt, and maybe fast some in the next couple weeks? No it is not. enought time to lose a lot, but you could lose a few lbs.

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luvingit — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:53:45 GMT

Aug, the lady advised you wrong. Tight across the back in the previous size was the size you should have kept. I don't get " going down a size" if the dress was custom made. Custom made made means made to fit. Off the rack is " going down a size". In which case you always alway fit across the chest first, then alter everywhere else. It is easy to take in sides, waist, etc, but hard to alter chest area. Sounds to me in your case, there was no alteration, for custom made or off the rack. You could fast to lose a few pounds in two weeks, look up fasting diets. Or you could try spax. Might work.

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Spunkyspouts — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:54:42 GMT

Where do you normally lose weight first, if it is this area you may be able to lose some weight by then. Google the topic, also, have you thought of calling this lady and confronting her advice and taking it from there?

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Spunkyspouts — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:58:03 GMT

On 6/30/2014 August37 said:
Okay, I think I was a complete idiot for asking for help here. Thanks again, for ALL the positive posts. I asked for help. I've alerted her of my issues. Sorry if I'm so sensitive, but I only asked for help for weight, not criticism. As I said before, I already feel bad. I just need a little advice, I can zip the dress with help, I just know it will be busy, the day of the wedding, and wanted to lose a few pounds, so I wouldn't have to ask anyone to assist me. Thanks you all.

people here have issues, i somebody would offer help, they would get attacked. Beyonce drank lemon water.......depends on how resolute you are about a diet, only you know how your will power is....

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Kachina624 — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 08:33:25 GMT

How about trying some Spanx? It should take an inch or two off.

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qualitygal — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 09:34:22 GMT

Fess up, work out a plan for an adjustment with a tailor and make it very pretty. It's for a few hours one day.

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Vivian — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 09:48:32 GMT

1. Bring the dress to an experienced tailor. Perhaps it can be altered but be prepared to pay big bucks for timing and skill 2. If that doesn't work, see if you can buy a little shrug or stole to cover the back. Maybe the tailor can make one for you. As the maid of honor, your outfit can be a bit different than those of bridesmaids. 3. Tell the bride as soon as possible. 4. Good luck!

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Campion — Mon, 30 Jun 2014 10:13:22 GMT

On 6/30/2014 Vivian said: 1. Bring the dress to an experienced tailor. Perhaps it can be altered but be prepared to pay big bucks for timing and skill 2. If that doesn't work, see if you can buy a little shrug or stole to cover the back. Maybe the tailor can make one for you. As the maid of honor, your outfit can be a bit different than those of bridesmaids. 3. Tell the bride as soon as possible. 4. Good luck!

If you can't find a tailor in your town, some of the dry cleaners, especially operated by Korean owners, have tailors on staff. Check them out. And hurry....best of luck, I understand. I got sick this winter with a thyroid ailment and my ball gown for the annual gala I participate in didn't fit and well, that happens.