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shy bobcat — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:44:02 GMT

After a mammogram I've been called back for more advanced imaging and an ultrasound. What do you say to yourself to calm your worries and fears?

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Etoile308 — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:47:13 GMT

Tell yourself it's very, very common. Also I try not to worry until I have something confirmed to worry about. I also tell myself that there are medical advancements every day.

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SilleeMee — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:49:41 GMT

I put my faith in God and remind myself that there is a plan for me now. Live in the moment, let go and place your worries in His hands.

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Winkk — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:53:04 GMT

I know it is scary. I had it happen last year. But, everything turned out fine. It is common because mammograms are more accurate and catch every little thing. They have to double check and make sure it is nothing to be concerned about. Good luck.

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KKJ — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 22:53:26 GMT

@shy bobcat I was in your shoes just a few months ago. Got called back for more imaging, and then had to have a biopsy. Needless to say I was terrified but praise God it turned out okay. Turned out to be a group of calcifications. Am praying it all turns out well for you too!

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BlueFinch — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 23:13:08 GMT

It's happened to me several times. I just look at it as them taking every precaution for my health and that follow-up will likely be insignificant. So far that's been the case.

If worry, and anxiety could change things, it would be temporarily worth it. We know it doesn't though. We do know that positivity has some health rewards, even in difficult times. Go positive.

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Porcelain — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:04:32 GMT

I can understand why you would have worries. And I hope you get results that put your mind at ease. Wishing you good luck for a good result.

I use Hawaiian Hoʻoponopono for self talk when my mood gets negative. It's easy to remember. "I"m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you." It's a prayer to release and heal any situation. I'd recommend looking into Hoʻoponopono. Zero Limits is an interesting book. I've listened to the audiobook version of it and got a lot out of it.

From Wikipedia:

"Ihaleakala Hew Len, co-authored a book with Joe Vitale called Zero Limits[41] referring to Simeona's Hoʻoponopono teachings. Len makes no claim to be a kahuna. In contrast to Simeona's teachings, the book brings the new idea that the main objective of Hoʻoponopono is getting to the "zero state — it's where we have zero limits. No memories. No identity. "[42] To reach this state, which Len called 'Self-I-Dentity thru Ho'oponopono', includes using the mantra, "I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you."[43] It is based on Len's idea of 100% responsibility,[44] taking responsibility for everyone's actions, not only for one's own. If one would take complete responsibility for one's life, then everything one sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences would be one's responsibility because it is in one's life.[45] The problem would not be with our external reality, it would be with ourselves. Total Responsibility, according to Hew Len, advocates that everything exists as a projection from inside the human being.

There's also Eckhart Tolle's work that involves remaining in the present moment where there is no room for any worry or thought, only the sense of 'now,' where there is no suffering.

https://eckharttolle.com

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Still Raining — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:11:18 GMT

Sorry you are having more testing, but glad you taking care of it promptly. They are being very careful to get it right. Don't fret in the meantime.

I have been on this merry go round for a while and learned not to worry until after the biopsy.

Be calm and know all be will be taken care of.

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ECBG — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:24:11 GMT

@shy bobcat

I was called back this year. With 3-D they can do more. Technology advanced leaving me unaware. I went back in, the tech told me I had "more dense breast tissue". I had the 3-D. Done. Better method. End of story.

Sometimes we don't know enough. Don't let that control your fear.

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PamfromCT — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:54:49 GMT

I can understand your anxiety about your situation. It’s important to remember that it’s likely nothing to be concerned about. Many women have dense breasts, which makes diagnosis more difficult. My radiology group switched to 3-D

mammograms for all, which eliminated my need for an ultrasound every year following my mammogram. My best wishes to you.

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Carmie — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 01:28:18 GMT

I understand your fears. It happened to me too. I was scared to death. It turned out to be a papilloma.

I think I lost years off of my life with worry for nothing. I am praying that you will be okay too. Many women need to be double checked and get biopsies only be told, it's nothing to worry about.

It's difficult to do, but think positive.

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KKJ — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 01:41:47 GMT

@Porcelain wrote:
I can understand why you would have worries. And I hope you get results that put your mind at ease. Wishing you good luck for a good result.

I use Hawaiian Hoʻoponopono for self talk when my mood gets negative. It's easy to remember. "I"m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you." It's a prayer to release and heal any situation. I'd recommend looking into Hoʻoponopono. Zero Limits is an interesting book. I've listened to the audiobook version of it and got a lot out of it.

From Wikipedia:
"Ihaleakala Hew Len, co-authored a book with Joe Vitale called Zero Limits[41] referring to Simeona's Hoʻoponopono teachings. Len makes no claim to be a kahuna. In contrast to Simeona's teachings, the book brings the new idea that the main objective of Hoʻoponopono is getting to the "zero state — it's where we have zero limits. No memories. No identity. "[42] To reach this state, which Len called 'Self-I-Dentity thru Ho'oponopono', includes using the mantra, "I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you."[43] It is based on Len's idea of 100% responsibility,[44] taking responsibility for everyone's actions, not only for one's own. If one would take complete responsibility for one's life, then everything one sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences would be one's responsibility because it is in one's life.[45] The problem would not be with our external reality, it would be with ourselves. Total Responsibility, according to Hew Len, advocates that everything exists as a projection from inside the human being.

There's also Eckhart Tolle's work that involves remaining in the present moment where there is no room for any worry or thought, only the sense of 'now,' where there is no suffering.

https://eckharttolle.com

@Porcelain Thank you for this important info! I am looking into these self talk authors right now as need all help I can get. I suffer severe anxiety and find it hard to get through most days. Am especially interested in Eckhart Tolle's work as I constantly worry about what may happen in the future. In fact, my therapist asks me "why do you spend so much time and energy worrying about something that may or may not happen?"

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Drythe — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 03:29:21 GMT

@shy bobcat wrote:
After a mammogram I've been called back for more advanced imaging and an ultrasound. What do you say to yourself to calm your worries and fears?

@shy bobcat

I am sorry you are dealing with this.

Two years ago I had the same problem. They used a 3D system

and ultrasound. I was so frightened that I went for another check

at a Brest Cancer specialty Hospital.

They re-did everything and saw no problem, even though they had the studies from the first place. They put me on 6 month recall for three cycles, and just let me go back to once a year.

Please try not to worry until you have more information.

We will be thinking of you, and stay in touch.

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on the bay — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 04:10:25 GMT

I've had a lot of them, ultrasouonds, biopsies, and I just tell myself its not going to be anything.

But it actually is probably easier for me to feel that way because out of all these, it never is anything.

I think I just have the confidence its not going to be anything bad.

They say if you worry about something, you have made yourself worried and feeling horrible when nothing has happened, so wait until it does, or may never happen at all.

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PINKdogWOOD — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 13:40:27 GMT

@Etoile308 @shy bobcat Yes Ms Etoile I agree with you in what you noted.

Ms bobcat, I would not be too concerned because for as small as my breasts are, after I have my annual mamo, in my letter to say I'm good to go, they DO make note on my letter that I too should more than likely have more the ultrasound done.

Why you ask? Well, despite my small breasts they are dense and because of this, the density may or does make it more difficult to check for abnormalities if indeed there ever are any.

When I make this year's appointment I will pose this question to the scheduler about getting a better mamogram performed. Does this make me concerned? Not at all.

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LindaSal — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 14:06:33 GMT

@shy bobcat I hope it is nothing also but if I may speak as a breast cancer survivor.......

it is best to be checked out as if, and that's a big if, there were something going on it is best to catch it before it gets out of control. I wish you well.

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bobby5 — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 19:00:36 GMT

@KKJ

Someone once told me this simple statement & I now use it as my mantra:
"Don't let the future affect your present."

@shy bobcat

Either way, you're going to be just fine.👍❤

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wagirl — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 16:32:37 GMT

@shy bobcat ---I have been called back for more testing after my mammos more times times than I can count----every 6 months for a couple years---it is nerve racking but in my mind, it is kind of a comfort to know that if there are any weird things that a mammo finds, other tests can determine what it really is, most of the re- tests came out fine, just fatty,dense deposits---but , in my case, the extra tests I had in April of 2012, did find cancer and I was able to take care of it ASAP----there is always the worry but until you know---all that energy is for naught----I am glad you are on top of this--it is up to you to look after your health and do what you have to about---good luck

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Porcelain — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 19:11:49 GMT

When I have a hard time sleeping because of a genuine worry, repeating the words from the end of Taps has helped me sleep.

It also reminds me of all the soldiers over the years who had to try to sleep amidst so much chaos, listening to that same song while on their bunk or bedroll, maybe even while injured, and calming themselves so they could rest. If they could do it, surely so could I.

"All is well.

Safely rest.

God is nigh."

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hayseed00 — Sat, 09 Jan 2021 13:36:07 GMT

@shy bobcat I also had to go through the same tests and was worried but my friends and husband kept pumping me with positive support. I'm sending a big cyber hug of good vibes to you. Hopefully you don't have to wait many days for the advanced imaging and ultrasound. Keep us posted.