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Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 18:54:17 GMT

I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!

Re: Short term memory loss!

hckynut — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:17:22 GMT

@emmygrace

To me it sounds like your son is the one with the problem. In my view if someone gets po'd because someone forgets? They obviously don't have a grasp on what real problems exist.

I meet different people about every time I go ice skating. I introduce myself and they usually respond with their name. By the time I skate around the rink a few times, their names? Beats me.

Ask me something over 70 years ago and not many things I do not remember. And I am sure many here can relate to the "why did I come into this room" question we ask ourselves.

Absolutely you are right. The problems rest with him, period!

hckynut

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:06:59 GMT

@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!

@emmygrace Tell him next time you might forget to write him in your will.

Re: Short term memory loss!

JYWilliams — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:11:12 GMT

I'm sorry this is happening to you. And yes I agree with another poster, your son has the problem. My cousin has memory loss cause of Dementia. It's not bad yet but she does have it. She typed up a letter to her kids explaining her memory loss and how some days she may not remember things and for them to try to be understanding and not get frustrated with her. And she gave a copy to each one. I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

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henderson — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 19:22:26 GMT

My husband passed out from low blood pressure in the garage and hit his head. This was August 2018. Had a brain bleed. His short term memory was affected and sometimes he has problems processing what I say. It could have been worse. So sorry that your son is giving a difficult time.

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BlueFinch — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:05:32 GMT

@emmygrace That would be hurtful. Maybe you need to have a more serious discussion with your son (perhaps a family meeting), when you feel the time is optimal. I know you've done this before, but revisit it, in a more formal way. Let him, and family know how upsetting it continues to be, when others don't try to understand, your condition.

Remind him/them that it's nothing you can willfully control, AND, that it's frustrating for you, too. Stand up for yourself. But, all that said, have a wonderful Christmas. And if you want to add a lump of coal in your son's stocking, we wouldn't hold it against you .

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Still Raining — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:19:52 GMT

My late BIL taught me how to deal with this type of situation. With courtesy.

Your son needs to be reminded to have some patience with you.

After my strokes my speech was affected even more that my thinking. One thing we need to do is to admit to ourself that we are now in the pleasantly "retarded" and to be at peace with it. We need to be understanding too.

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:30:29 GMT

@hckynut wrote:
@emmygrace

To me it sounds like your son is the one with the problem. In my view if someone gets po'd because someone forgets? They obviously don't have a grasp on what real problems exist.

I meet different people about every time I go ice skating. I introduce myself and they usually respond with their name. By the time I skate around the rink a few times, their names? Beats me.

Ask me something over 70 years ago and not many things I do not remember. And I am sure many here can relate to the "why did I come into this room" question we ask ourselves.

Absolutely you are right. The problems rest with him, period!

hckynut

Thanks so much!..its sad how bad its gotten..I don't remember much of anything..names, places...anything!

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:31:23 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!
@emmygrace Tell him next time you might forget to write him in your will.

Fabulous!!!!!!!

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:33:49 GMT

@JYWilliams wrote:
I'm sorry this is happening to you. And yes I agree with another poster, your son has the problem. My cousin has memory loss cause of Dementia. It's not bad yet but she does have it. She typed up a letter to her kids explaining her memory loss and how some days she may not remember things and for them to try to be understanding and not get frustrated with her. And she gave a copy to each one. I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

One of the twins wrote me today...and he said. J has always been like that with everyone...he's a narcissist..!

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emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:36:30 GMT

@henderson wrote:
My husband passed out from low blood pressure in the garage and hit his head. This was August 2018. Had a brain bleed. His short term memory was affected and sometimes he has problems processing what I say. It could have been worse. So sorry that your son is giving a difficult time.

Sorry about your husband!!!!!!..I had high blood pressure...and developed a brain bleed...I shouldn't be here...but for the Grace of God!!!

Re: Short term memory loss!

Trinity11 — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:38:36 GMT

@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!

@emmygrace , I am sorry your son is unable to deal with your memory loss.

How are you doing with your diabetes? I remember you were struggling with highs. Often times when our blood glucose levels are high, our memory is affected. I also have had a stroke and any readings above 140, have a significant effect on my memory. Just a thought and hopefully your son will be less insensitive in the future. These are trying times and a lot of people seem to lash out more readily.

Be well @emmygrace . Merry Christmas!

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emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 21:05:20 GMT

@Trinity11 wrote:
@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!
@emmygrace , I am sorry your son is unable to deal with your memory loss.

How are you doing with your diabetes? I remember you were struggling with highs. Often times when our blood glucose levels are high, our memory is affected. I also have had a stroke and any readings above 140, have a significant effect on my memory. Just a thought and hopefully your son will be less insensitive in the future. These are trying times and a lot of people seem to lash out more readily.

Be well @emmygrace . Merry Christmas!

My blood sugars are still high..about (125-150)..sometimes)...my son knows about that..he has me drinking a Mocha Cappuccino drink..(yummy) for muscle suuport and recovery and I think its lowering my BS..Maybe he wants me to stick around..who knows?? I'm sorry we have these things in common! Merry Christmas to you as well!!!!

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:52:21 GMT

@henderson wrote:
My husband passed out from low blood pressure in the garage and hit his head. This was August 2018. Had a brain bleed. His short term memory was affected and sometimes he has problems processing what I say. It could have been worse. So sorry that your son is giving a difficult time.

Thank you...sorry about your husband..!

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:59:04 GMT

@BlueFinch wrote:
@emmygrace That would be hurtful. Maybe you need to have a more serious discussion with your son (perhaps a family meeting), when you feel the time is optimal. I know you've done this before, but revisit it, in a more formal way. Let him, and family know how upsetting it continues to be, when others don't try to understand, your condition.

Remind him/them that it's nothing you can willfully control, AND, that it's frustrating for you, too. Stand up for yourself. But, all that said, have a wonderful Christmas. And if you want to add a lump of coal in your son's stocking, we wouldn't hold it against you .

My son lives in Texas now...the rest of the family in KC. He visited me twice last summer..but doubtful that will happen again. He lived in Asia for many years...he wants to go back there to live~Since we just talk on the phone...I can always just hang up!!

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emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 21:25:34 GMT

@hckynut wrote:
@emmygrace

To me it sounds like your son is the one with the problem. In my view if someone gets po'd because someone forgets? They obviously don't have a grasp on what real problems exist.

I meet different people about every time I go ice skating. I introduce myself and they usually respond with their name. By the time I skate around the rink a few times, their names? Beats me.

Ask me something over 70 years ago and not many things I do not remember. And I am sure many here can relate to the "why did I come into this room" question we ask ourselves.

Absolutely you are right. The problems rest with him, period!

hckynut

I remember waking up after the delivery and having blurred vision..I couldn't walk, talk and spent time in a wheelchair!!!! My older son saw this..he was 4 then..I didn't think I would recover..but I did! He went to a daycare for older children...my mother also helped w/his care. Thankfully the twins were ok and they loved daycare! I need to remember the good things...thanks again for all of your replies!

Re: Short term memory loss!

jlkz — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 21:30:35 GMT

Opposite problem my dear friend has: limited long term memory fog from meningitis.

Since she can't remember a lot of things from when we worked together almost 50 years ago, she thinks my old stories are great and the first time she has heard them !

She enjoys hearing them and I enjoy telling them ! Good match, lol !

Re: Short term memory loss!

KingstonsMom — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 21:44:41 GMT

@emmygrace

I'm 67 and I have a great memory, as far as I can remember my route and box # to the address on the island that I grew up on, before they had street names.

But ask me what I did the day before yesterday? That's a bit cloudy.......

Re: Short term memory loss!

emmygrace — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 23:56:01 GMT

@KingstonsMom wrote:
@emmygrace

I'm 67 and I have a great memory, as far as I can remember my route and box # to the address on the island that I grew up on, before they had street names.

But ask me what I did the day before yesterday? That's a bit cloudy.......

I'm 69 and can totally relate!

Re: Short term memory loss!

Sage04 — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 19:43:45 GMT

@emmygrace sorry that you're going through this with your son.

My son has short term memory loss from an accident and the Dr always told us that if he ask a question 10, 20 times, answer it as if it's the first time you're hearing it.

Sometimes when I can't remember something he would joke and say "Mom, I'm the one with short term memory loss" and we will laugh and he would give me the answer.