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Need to stop worrying

Witchy Woman — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:55:39 GMT

About anything and everything. Worry weaves in and out of my thoughts all too often.

I'm tring to remember if I felt this way when taking Wellbutrin and I don't remember. But, I'm thinking about trying it again.

Yes, I know it is pointless to worry. I am busy, exercise, done therapy (in the past) and know all the reasons it is a waste of time.

Still, I worry. Is it aging?

While I hate to fall back to drugs, it does get exhausting.

Re: Need to stop worrying

Group 5 minus 1 — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:03:58 GMT

Please talk to someone who will share your concerns. Perhaps a religious leader (pastor,priest or rabbi). Or at least a medical person. You are very troubled and need to talk to someone. And tell us what you have done.

Re: Need to stop worrying

phoenixbrd — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:05:07 GMT

@Witchy Woman Have you tried meditation. I have taken MBSR (mind body stress reduction) for other reasons, but many have found relief from anxiety. It is a bit pricey, but you can find a lot of free information and techniques online. If interested, I can provide you with the doctor who was my teacher, she had free instructional information on her website.

Re: Need to stop worrying

Skididdy — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:05:22 GMT

@Witchy Woman, I have always been a worry wart about everything and nothing.

Its just my makeup. Now as I am getting older, unfortunately, real life things are happening where my worry is substantiated. I just have never been so tired...

Do whatever works for YOU !!! Meds, no meds, excercise, meditation, shopping, breathing, whatever......but if you find the magic,,,,,,,,,,,,,,please please let me know.

THOUGHTS OF YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: Need to stop worrying

wagirl — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:07:34 GMT

@Witchy Woman--I think anxiety like this comes with getting older. I am 64 and find myself worried and then very angry, about alot of things. and most times, there is nothing I can do about it. Never was like this in my early years---can get myself so riled up that it makes my heart and stomach act up. There is alot going on to be worried about given the current situation in the country, if you know what I mean---but hopefully things will change there soon. right now, when my brain goes into overdrive, I stop and use the 4-7-8 method of breathing for just 5 minutes and find it really helps, especially at night. Google that for more info. Drugs should be the very last line of defense.

p.s.---witchy woman is one of my fav Eagles songs---

Re: Need to stop worrying

phoenixbrd — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:12:50 GMT

Yes, breath is a key to relaxation. Excellent suggestion.

@wagirl wrote:
@Witchy Woman--I think anxiety like this comes with getting older. I am 64 and find myself worried and then very angry, about alot of things. and most times, there is nothing I can do about it. Never was like this in my early years---can get myself so riled up that it makes my heart and stomach act up. There is alot going on to be worried about given the current situation in the country, if you know what I mean---but hopefully things will change there soon. right now, when my brain goes into overdrive, I stop and use the 4-7-8 method of breathing for just 5 minutes and find it really helps, especially at night. Google that for more info. Drugs should be the very last line of defense.

p.s.---witchy woman is one of my fav Eagles songs---

Re: Need to stop worrying

Witchy Woman — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:15:09 GMT

@Group 5 minus 1

I was raised Catholic and have, in the past, spoken with a priest about a variety of issues (not this one). To be honest, their insights are not all that helpful to me.

I have a doctor that treats my thyroid issues and helped me with bioidentical hormones. I would speak with her in this regard.

@phoenixbrd

I have done meditation off and on and need to be back to it on a regular basis.

I'm embarrassed to say I really have nothing in particular in my life that is driving this feeling.

And, I'm almost positive it is age-related.

I was not like this in my youth -- but who is?

Re: Need to stop worrying

geezerette — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:25:26 GMT

Yep, I’m going through this right now too. I also have always been a worrier and have gone through periods that were bad. In my case, I think it may be aging. Having gone through the decline and eventual death of my parents many years ago and the death of my husband six months ago, I can’t now help but think about what happens to me when I get incapacitated. And smaller things—what if the car breaks down while I’m shopping, or the water heater quits. I’ve always overreacted to everything.

My best to you, and know you are not alone. Too bad all us worriers can’t get together!🙂 And as @Skididdy says, if you find a magic bullet, let us know!😄

Hang in there!

Re: Need to stop worrying

phoenixbrd — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:39:09 GMT

@Witchy Woman .... terrific that you have some experience with meditation. Perhaps you would want to challenge yourself to a couple of weeks of your meditation practice. I only mention because I know that meditation is a source of calm and a rock in my life as well as many others. I also practice tai chi, which is for me a moving meditation. I'm wishing you the best of health.

Re: Need to stop worrying

Witchy Woman — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:40:40 GMT

@geezerette

The loss of your husband is so recent, so I can understand your feelings. I think grief takes much longer than we know.

Yes, I went through the aging/death process with my own parents, then my husband's parents. I even moved my parents close to me so I could be there when they needed me. It was difficult, but the right decision.

That's all behind me now.

Like you, even the small things make their way into my brains. If I stop to think about it, I've got to laugh. Maybe it is just an effort to control things so there are no surprises

Re: Need to stop worrying

OhioAngel — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:42:07 GMT

I love this quote: why worry when you can pray!

Re: Need to stop worrying

Witchy Woman — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:45:06 GMT

@phoenixbrd

Yes, please share your source of meditation. I found free sessions through Fragrant Heart and that is my only experience, but I would welcome your suggestions.

And Tai Chi ia is at the top of my list. Are you self taught? Follow a tape or YouTube videos?

I have a couple Qigong tapes which I believe might be similar.

Of course, you have to DO THEM for them to work, right?

Don't laugh, but I tried yoga several times and got "sea sick" with many of the movements. I do have a Pilates board and need to get back to that, too.

In talking, it seems I've reminded myself of the things I should be doing in addition to those I already do.

Re: Need to stop worrying

IMW — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:50:05 GMT

I think it is age related. I know at 66 my health is not so good, neither is my dh’s. It becomes harder to do things, physically and mentally. Takes more time and effort.

Most seniors are concerned re $ running out, health issues, independence, loneliness etc. I think it often comes with the territory. The issue is how much anxiety are you having.

Have you had a through physical exam recently? Rule out possible physical causes ie thyroid, anemia, clinical anxiety/depression.

Start seeing a therapist, NOW.

My thoughts are with you, please don’t wait.......

Re: Need to stop worrying

geezerette — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:56:53 GMT

@Witchy Woman wrote:
@geezerette

The loss of your husband is so recent, so I can understand your feelings. I think grief takes much longer than we know.

Yes, I went through the aging/death process with my own parents, then my husband's parents. I even moved my parents close to me so I could be there when they needed me. It was difficult, but the right decision.

That's all behind me now.

Like you, even the small things make their way into my brains. If I stop to think about it, I've got to laugh. Maybe it is just an effort to control things so there are no surprises

@Witchy Woman

Exactly! I’ve always planned every tiny little thing in advance and by so doing, worried about the unexpected possibilities. But there are always going to be things we can’t control. In fact, there are more things out of our control than those we can. Now, that will give you something to really worry about!😄

Re: Need to stop worrying

phoenixbrd — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 16:03:12 GMT

@Witchy Woman I am so happy for you. I can see your plan developing as you post. I have been fortunate to have had three extraordinary tai chi teachers throughout the decades. Currently, in my class we always warm up with Qigong before tai chi. You have tapes....synchronicity at its best! You are set to go: meditation: your choice - your own practice or Dr. Christiane Wolf (she is a MD) and you have your Qigong tapes at hand.

Wishing you the best!

Higher expectations = higher anxiety

@Witchy Woman wrote:
@phoenixbrd

Yes, please share your source of meditation. I found free sessions through Fragrant Heart and that is my only experience, but I would welcome your suggestions.

And Tai Chi ia is at the top of my list. Are you self taught? Follow a tape or YouTube videos?

I have a couple Qigong tapes which I believe might be similar.

Of course, you have to DO THEM for them to work, right?

Don't laugh, but I tried yoga several times and got "sea sick" with many of the movements. I do have a Pilates board and need to get back to that, too.

In talking, it seems I've reminded myself of the things I should be doing in addition to those I already do.

Re: Need to stop worrying

kaydee50 — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 15:10:44 GMT

@Witchy WomanI understand what you're saying, WW. I think it is a part of getting older--we know what can go wrong. Young people don't think of the downside of a situation so much and in general are more optimistic. Yoga, meditation have helped me along with a glass of wine, shot of vodka or rum!!! Stay well and safe.

Re: Need to stop worrying

SeaMaiden — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 15:42:48 GMT

The best advice I can give you is what works for me as I am a worrier as well.

I just stop... and think of all the things I am grateful for that are in my life... and give thanks...

Then I think of all the good things COMING INTO MY LIFE that are not yet here....... and give thanks for those things coming.....

Positive affirmations basically... that make me look forward to all the good coming .. and see all the good that is in my life in the present..... that worrying tends to hide and cover up....

You must do this every time you feel worry is becoming overwhelming.

Just think GRATITUDE.

Re: Need to stop worrying

cherry — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 15:49:10 GMT

If you need medication, you need it. I don't go to anyone other than an MD, for medical advice

Re: Need to stop worrying

phoenixbrd — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 15:53:19 GMT

@SeaMaiden

Gratitude = another great remedy

I also include this in my daily practice, as well as being of service to others. Both of these pratices lessens any worries might I have had.

Re: Need to stop worrying

Witchy Woman — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 16:48:15 GMT

I appreciate every suggestion offered.

Sometimes, it's just a comfort to know others are where we are.

We've had a long stretch of rainy, warm, humid weather in Maryland, and I know that does not help me. Being outside when the weather is nicer is something I enjoy.

Hearing the owls calling to each other late in the day is a sound I never get tired of. I even enjoy hearing the crows.

The sun is shining today so I'm off to drink it in.

Wishing everyone a wonderful, worry free day!