topic Re: Are you sensitive? in Wellness

Are you sensitive?

tarsmom — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:07:15 GMT

I am 62 and sensitive. I have a love/hate relationship with it. I feel for people, I cry at commercials, but there are times I don't feel like that at all. At work, if I compare myself to others (work-related) I cry because I can't go as fast as the others (computer work). I can't retire for 2.5 years yet. You know, I don't know whether I need counseling, medication or just say "I am what I am and God made me to be a sensitive person". Do any of you struggle with your sensitivity? Looking back on my life, I cried in high school, most of my jobs and I guess it really boils down to comparing myself to others. In today's work world, you're not there because they 'like' you, you're there to perform a service. Numbers are everything. Relationships (which I excel at) are not a tangible measurement of value. I was a manager for 20 years and did well at it but took a lesser paying job a year ago. I love young people and don't think of myself as 'old' but it is darn hard to work with 20-30 somethings (even though I do enjoy them). I'm not a grandma, I'm not 22, I don't know where I fit - do any of you feel like this?

Re: Are you sensitive?

sligo — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:17:15 GMT

@tarsmom, I am overly sensitive. Wish I were a stronger person. Feeling easily earth. Forgive but unable to forget. I do try. My daughter has said I even cry at TV weddings. I am what I am. God isn't finished with me yet. HANG IN THERE WITH MR>.

Re: Are you sensitive?

qualitygal — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:34:22 GMT

I call it another life transition. You could be mourning your loss of your younger self, even though you're the same person. It's OK. It's a process. Pretty soon you'll see how freeing the aging process is. Little by little, try to take it your stride. Forget "expectations" of you and others, what is, just is. Some things in life we can change, this isn't one of them. JMHO.

Re: Are you sensitive?

jackthebear — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:36:45 GMT

perhaps talking to someone might help you figure all this out

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151949 — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:56:04 GMT

You don't say what you do for a living. In my job - or any job dealing with the public - crying at work would have been addressed by my superiors and you would be sent to see the psychologist. That just could not be at work. Don't your bosses or your co workers address this with you?

Re: Are you sensitive?

Laura14 — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:58:01 GMT

Not sure it's sensitivity but rather frustration mixed with insecurity. We all get frustrated but taking a breath and just giving yourself a break especially at work to say this is what I can do and how I can do it and they still keep paying me so I must be okay in the people's eyes that matter. Forget everyone else.

And as far as the younger set, they go home and cry over boys and girls who they won't even remember in six months as if it's the end of their entire world because they aren't even close to having the wisdom and maturity you have already garnered.

Give yourself a break. You sound like a lovely person and you can only do your best just like everyone else in this world no matter how old they are does too.

Re: Are you sensitive?

bonnielu — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 11:59:10 GMT

My grandmother used to watch t.v. and cry at everything. She said "it was all true." I tried my best to tell her it was a story but she continued to believe. Personally those who are sensitive should be proud of how they are and how they see the world. My grandma was a good person

She handed out food and money to those in need and she singlehandedly swept the sidewalks and streets so no one would get hurt. I agree, a little over the top, but I would rather be like her than many people out there who are only out for themselves and their agenda.

Re: Are you sensitive?

Harpa — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:01:58 GMT

I am very empathetic. I have had to learn to "detach" and trust -- Pro. 3:5-6

Most musicians are sensitive. But I have also learned to detach from myself and rather put all the emotion into the music when playing.

Though the Lord made us with certain proclivities, it's up to us to learn how not to take some things so personally.

After all....

Re: Are you sensitive?

Pook — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:06:33 GMT

@tarsmomI'm not normally that sensitive on a day to day basis but certain situations make me loose it. Animal stories - both sad and happy endings and weddings and funerals (even when I don't know the people). My sister was an organist and played for weddings and funerals at church and I used to go with her. There was a balcony for the organ and choir but even out of sight I used to be the one who would involuntarily let out a suppressed gaspy cry that started everyone down below crying.

Inwardly when I worked I would take some things to heart and would be bothered by things that I was too sensitive about though.

I say accept it, even joke about it and just be yourself. We are different. Maybe a few sessions with a counselor could help.

Re: Are you sensitive?

mistriTsquirrel — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:28:09 GMT

Counseling sounds like it would be something to consider. Just keep it in mind that the first counselor you see may or may not be the one for you. If the first one doesn't seem to be a match for you, don't give up. There are others out there.

I look for someone who is knowledgeable, trustworthy and interactive. There are many out there who will just listen and nod, but there is no point in paying for that. I prefer someone who gets me to think about things I need to think about in new ways.

Re: Are you sensitive?

Kardi — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:40:00 GMT

Many times I’ve wished to be less sensitive to the things said to me by others or just feelings stirred by watching a sad movie. I would admire those who could just let things go and seem to continue without missing a beat. Now I accept that there are all sorts of folks in this world and thank God some of us care very deeply about many things other than ourselves. Not being able to feel empathy at all is called sociopathy. Feeling for others is a good thing. Not being able to handle criticism and taking it to heart too much can be a lack of confidence in oneself. Sometimes we need to love ourselves more and not be so tough on ourselves.

Re: Are you sensitive?

LindaSal — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:44:07 GMT

@tarsmom I'm not sure of your age but in my experience I feel hormones have a lot to do with our emotions. That dreaded time in your life when everything physically is changing and we find ourselves on a different part of our journey. Even if you're not there yet, these changes occur in our personalities over time. I too, cry for silly reasons sometimes, and yes at weddings and funerals.........but I feel it's okay as long as it doesn't consume you. You are allowed to have emotions, as long as you feel it is within normal limits, everything will be fine. I am basically a happy person and feel that I do my best, that is all that one can expect from us.

Re: Are you sensitive?

LindaSal — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 12:45:14 GMT

Sorry I just realized that you do mention your age, well there you go, I am 57

Re: Are you sensitive?

IMW — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 13:19:41 GMT

Maybe counseling might help. Just talking to someone-

and figuring out how much of these feelings are “normal “ for you.

Additionally, speaking to an md re perhaps an anti anxiety rx.

Take it one day at a time - you are not alone. That age is can be a hard one in the work world, although upon retiring it is a whole wonderful new ballgame.

I wish you the best.

@tarsmomwrote:
I am 62 and sensitive. I have a love/hate relationship with it. I feel for people, I cry at commercials, but there are times I don't feel like that at all. At work, if I compare myself to others (work-related) I cry because I can't go as fast as the others (computer work). I can't retire for 2.5 years yet. You know, I don't know whether I need counseling, medication or just say "I am what I am and God made me to be a sensitive person". Do any of you struggle with your sensitivity? Looking back on my life, I cried in high school, most of my jobs and I guess it really boils down to comparing myself to others. In today's work world, you're not there because they 'like' you, you're there to perform a service. Numbers are everything. Relationships (which I excel at) are not a tangible measurement of value. I was a manager for 20 years and did well at it but took a lesser paying job a year ago. I love young people and don't think of myself as 'old' but it is darn hard to work with 20-30 somethings (even though I do enjoy them). I'm not a grandma, I'm not 22, I don't know where I fit - do any of you feel like this?

Re: Are you sensitive?

RedTop — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 19:29:45 GMT

I am, but not at all to the degree mentioned. I was more sensitive as a child, but grew out of it.

I am not one to get my feelings hurt easily by others remarks; I do not wear my heart on my sleeve.

Re: Are you sensitive?

hckynut — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 20:59:22 GMT

(thread title)

No!

hckynut(john)

Re: Are you sensitive?

Ibby114 — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:51:42 GMT

Certain things- yes. I cannot watch the ASPCA commericlals !!! And I still get emotional during certain movies. But with most things, not really. From the many ups/downs I've experienced I've learned to take life's complications in stride, one day at a time as they say.

Re: Are you sensitive?

tsavorite — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:29:59 GMT

Yes I am....I just cried at the movie theater today! Saw "I Can Only Imagine" and it touched me as does the song and many other songs from Mercy Me do. All I could think of was my Mom....Sister...and one day myself being there worshipping GOD....I lost it!

I wish I wasn't so emotional....but I can't remember a time I wasn't. Lot's of funerals in the past yrs and just recently a very young girl's (family relation) just broke my heart. Life is fragile...

Don't feel bad about being emotional or moved with sympathy/empathy for others....I figure my life's past experiences have brought this out in my personality.

My friend was with me today and she didn't get emotional LOL we are all different...it's ok.

Re: Are you sensitive?

tarsmom — Fri, 30 Mar 2018 02:07:13 GMT

Re: Are you sensitive?

tarsmom — Fri, 30 Mar 2018 02:06:24 GMT

some of this is grief I believe. I miss my parents. My son lives out of state. I'm lucky to still have my husband - I know this. At this age, people die - it's part of life but the celebrations, gatherings, holidays, etc. are no longer the same. My mom and brother died 6 years ago. My sister in law died last year. Two close coworkers passed two years ago. It's just hard - the thing is at this point how can I change when I've been like this always? Maybe just accept it - feel the sadness and then the sun comes out again. I do practice being grateful too - after all - there's always something to be thankful for. My mom and I were close and we did a lot of fun 'girl' things together. Shopping, I did her hair, going out to eat, just talking. I'm sure you've all had your share of loss as well.

Thanks for your comments