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Wedding china compromise

Abrowneyegirl — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 15:33:20 GMT

Looking for votes or suggestions.

I have my parents wedding china and DH and I are looking to downsize.

We have no one to leave the china to and no one in the family wants it.

So my compromise was that we keep a complete place-setting for 7. We never have more than 6 guests at a time for a sit down meal and if we do- "oh well"

My thought was we will have 6 placesettings with one extra of everything in case of breakage.

The rest we donate.

Some say keep it all or donate it all. Thoughts?

Re: Wedding china compromise

Irish1210 — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 15:35:46 GMT

I'm so sentimental about things like that........I would probably keep it all ~

Sorry!!!! I'm no help at all

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LTT1 — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 15:41:36 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl

St this point in my life I would say donate it all...

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queendiva — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 15:51:18 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl : do you have your own china? Service for how many? When was it last used?

I ditched my own china and many other table settings two moves ago Never looked back.

My sister has (had?) my grandparents' Limoges. No one has ever seen it. My mother kept it boxed for years as she had her own pattern. Her father was an importer. Mom gave it to my sister, who never cooks and never had a dining room. She sells on the bay all the time, so the china might be long gone.

Anyway, my suggestion would be to keep one place setting IF you have some place to display and enjoy it on a daily basis. If not, take pictures and let it go. If in perfect condition you MIGHT be able to sell it. Have you looked into replacements.com to sell?

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SXMGirl — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 15:58:15 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl Either donate the entire set or keep the entire set. People who look for china in consignment shops or antique shops want a full set.

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drizzellla — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 16:07:23 GMT

I know what you are going through. I say donate it all. One less thing to deal with and worry about.

I have about 10 Rubbermaid tubs of crystal, china, handpainted dishes and glass dishes from my Mom. I used to donate to a local store that employed the homeless and all proceeds went to the homeless, Well, the store and it contents went to Sheriff Sale about 3 months ago.

And even Goodwill was not accepting donations when I last went there.

I have my own china, crystal and Lenox that I no longer use. So I don't have the option to donate. And yes I looked into Replacements. They offered me $1 for a solid sterling silver knife or serving spoon. I forget what they offered for the other spoons and forks. Not worth the postage. Hate to see it melted down. It is a pretty pattern.

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Somertime — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 16:10:34 GMT

I would keep it and I would use it often, not, just, "special" occasions especially if you like it. I have my grandmother's china, service for 12. I use it all the time and get tremendous joy from it. As a child, all my birthdays were with this china as well as every single holiday. Brings back so many wonderful memories. I was determined to make use of this and not save it, I wanted the enjoyment of it. I have her silver as well which I use every single day and yes, I put it in the dishwasher, too. Yes, the china is on the formal side but that doesn't matter to me, I've even used it for a regular family dinner during the week because I wanted something pretty on the table. But I am attached and very sentimental, so I couldn't bear the thought of selling it to strangers. No, I don't worry if something breaks because with service for 12, there is plenty left over and no, nothing has broken in all these years even though I put it in the dishwasher as well!

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KATIE ANN — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 16:26:35 GMT

I agree with the suggestion to use it. I thnk it would bring a smile to your face.

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Snowpuppy — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 16:54:57 GMT

Agree with others, why not enjoy it even if just for Sunday dinners?

Not everyone wants a complete set. I sold a couple of serving pieces I no longer used on ebay. Check out pricing on ebay before you decide to discard it all.

Re: Wedding china compromise

Abrowneyegirl — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:14:21 GMT

OP here:

I should have mentioned if I keep it all it will have to be boxed up and stored somewhere. The set is very complete full china, service ware, sugar bowl/creamer, stemware from red and white wine, water, cordials and parfait cups.

Unfortunately I do not like it enough for daily use and due to the platinum and hand painted design it is not designed for daily use and microwave or DW use.

If I kept a small amount of it we would probably use it regularly, but not daily.

It does sound like it is an all or nothing choice based on the replies here.

Re: Wedding china compromise

Bri369 — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:23:18 GMT

How many servings do you have for the full set?

I would keep at least service for 8. Seven is an odd number. If need to donate it or sell it in the future, at least you have 8, which is what most sets come in anyway.

Get rid of all the glassware and other pieces you don't want or need.

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tucsongal — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:35:15 GMT

Do you enjoy and use it now? If not, I would donate. If you do choose to keep some pieces for yourself and are donating, it will not matter to people if it’s an odd number or a full set.

ETA: I just read your most recent reply. I would definitely not keep it, but donate or try to sell. When possessions start to feel like obligations, I think it’s time to let them go.

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Marsha2003 — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:36:39 GMT

I don't know how old you are which makes a difference in my answer. If you are under 35, keep it all for at least 10 more years and USE it when you can. If you are over 45, donate it all. Your lifestyle and tastes are pretty much set and if you don't like it or use it now, you probably never will.

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QVCkitty1 — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:39:53 GMT

I loved my mom, and her good china is pretty, but I will never use it. I don’t give large dinner parties and my style is casual. I think you and I should donate. My question is is this a donation that is wanted ?

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SXMGirl — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 17:47:18 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl wrote:
OP here:
I should have mentioned if I keep it all it will have to be boxed up and stored somewhere. The set is very complete full china, service ware, sugar bowl/creamer, stemware from red and white wine, water, cordials and parfait cups.

Unfortunately I do not like it enough for daily use and due to the platinum and hand painted design it is not designed for daily use and microwave or DW use.

If I kept a small amount of it we would probably use it regularly, but not daily.

It does sound like it is an all or nothing choice based on the replies here.

Since you do not like it enough to use it daily, then donate it. If it is a complete set, anywhere that it is donated will have it set up on a dining table and make it look very pretty. Someone will then have the opportunity to enjoy it.

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wagirl — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 18:00:38 GMT

Will you actually use any of the dishes or will you just store them? I say keep a select few pieces and donate the rest. And use it right now !!! Why save it for just certain occasions . And I disagree about people wanting to buy a full set of dishes only---maybe someone needs only a plate or 2. I have Princess House crystal dinnerware that I never use and will be donating soon. My BF sold her moms china and got a few hundred $ for the set.

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nova — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 19:05:39 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl I was in a situation where I only had 2 weeks to clean out my mom's house. There was just too much to keep - so my siblings & I chose what we wanted - and then we donated & gave away the rest. It was very emotional so if you're not pressured for time choose what you really want & remember there is someone who can always use what you don't. Battered womens shelters, certain churches & local "Samaritan" centers are always in need of quality items.

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GraceLady — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 19:05:50 GMT

I am sorry that no one in your family wants it. I am so sentimental, I would not be able to give it up in my lifetime. I also understand the need to downsize. How about keeping two place settings? You and your husband can use it on occasion, it wouldn't take up too much room, and you would still have something to remind you of your mom and the memories of the occasions the china was used. The rest could be consigned, sold, donated--your choice.

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Carmie — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 19:30:51 GMT

If you really want to keep some of it, Then do that. If you don't like,it or will not use it, sell it.

For the pieces you don't want or need, I'd check with Replacements, LTD either by phone or via their website.

They buy most good used China. People who are looking for replacement pieces will appreciate the chance to complete their much loved settings.

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Lilysmom — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 19:58:29 GMT

@drizzellla , the price for real sterling silver! My MIL was a dishes nut. When I moved to our retirement home, we did a fragile pack meaning the movers packed dishes, art, mirrors, etc. They said they had never seen so many dishes. I have since gotten rid of a lot.

My MIL had a large silver bowl that Birk’s appraised at $5,000 30 years ago. The one thing I didn’t want from her estate was dishes lol. LM