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For those who've sold or are selling homes

GingerPeach — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:28:01 GMT

I know some of you are in the process of or have recently sold a home.

Did you come to accept that it was no longer a home but just a property? Or did you, or do you, feel that you'd want to sell to someone who actually appreciated your home for what it is? (This does not preclude or eliminate sprucing it up, painting, or whatever cosmetic fixes it might need.)

I'm looking for your emotional connections. I know what agents say, and all of that. Just to be clear, I'm not asking for sales advice, but how you might have felt about your own home when you sold.

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software — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:34:46 GMT

I move on pretty quickly.

Once I've decided to sell and move on, I am not emotionally attached at all, for me it's a burden standing in the way of my moving on.

I've moved many times.

If you haven't you may feel differently

@GingerPeach

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Ibby114 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:35:46 GMT

You need to keep the emotions out of it for sure. All your personal mementos need to be packed away because buyers need to see the home as potentially 'theirs' rather than someone else's. It's a tough thing to go through.

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kaydee50 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:36:35 GMT

We've bought and sold a house and a couple of apartments. To me, a home is a roof over my head and whoever is willing to pay what I'm asking, the place is theirs. We have friends who have a huge house and want to keep it in case the "kids" come back. Good grief!!!

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GingerPeach — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:37:14 GMT

Interesting, @software

I had no attachment to leaving the home before this one, but my current home seems more personal. It seems for me it depends on the home.

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151949 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:40:56 GMT

We are currently in the process of selling our villa & buying a single family home. I truely don't have much feeling about this house one way or another. I'm much more emotionally attached to the new house.Right now this place is just a liability standing between us & our new home.

When we sold our Pa. house to move to Florida I was very emotionally torn.We had lived in that house since the day we got married.As much as we wanted to get away from the cold Pa. winters and move to Fl. it was very hard to leave the only place we had ever lived in together.

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pattypeep — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:41:37 GMT

@GingerPeach I definitely have had emotional attachments to all of my homes. Of course, I have been able to move on, but not without some sadness. We are going to be listing our rental this spring. It's next door to us, and although I've never lived in the house, my husband's family has owned it for years. My dh is 67 and his family lived in the home when he was born. Sob.... I have grown very attached to this house, but we decided it was time to let go, so...........

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ALRATIBA — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:44:32 GMT

I sold two houses ... no attachment to either one.

For the first - anxious to get into new house and for the second, anxious to get away from California and come back to New York.

We priced them to sell and both sold quickly.

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qualitygal — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:48:15 GMT

If it can't hug and kiss you back, it's a box, that makes it easier to let it go. Memories can't be taken from you, you'll always have those.

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on the bay — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 19:50:34 GMT

I know what you mean.

Our first house, I was more attached to the yard and hoped they would appreciate it.

The second house, I hoped someone would come who would appreciate the house and the pond but mostly take good care and love all the evergreens I planted.

I wanted to take them all with me!

Going back years later, the first house looked totally different. They had gotten rid of every plant and tree it seemed.

The second house I was so happy to see they had kept the yard just as it had been so I know they loved it too!

I was happy to move where we were going each time though.

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scatcat — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:07:52 GMT

Our first home was on a fantastic social block. It was torn down. Miss the neighborhood.

Our second home I hated from the day we moved in til we moved 16 years later. I wanted the neighborhood to be like our 1st, but it so wasn’t. The house served its purpose (good schools, plenty big, nice yard etc). When we moved, what I was missing were the memories we made in it. And those are still with me. We moved and said goodbye to no one

i LOVE my current house (the tax bill not so much)

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ccassaday — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:22:40 GMT

For us it was hard because we didn’t have a new home to go to yet. But you really have to take the emotion out of it. You always think your home is worth so much more then it is because it’s your home. My dad had done a lot of stuff a man would enjoy. We ended selling the house to a single lady who was getting a divorce. She didn’t even do her own yard work. So she probably didn’t appreciate the cute shed we built out back. It was a little heartbreaking to see that she wouldn’t appreciate some of the things. But because she was majorly downsizing from a beautiful home we knew it would be taken well cared for. In the end we sold it for pretty much top dollar in our addition and sold in five days. It wasn’t as hard as we thought the day we left. Our new build started just a few days later so it made it easy to move on. We had lived in that house for almost 40 years.

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itsmagic — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:29:52 GMT

I’ve always been excited to sell a house and move to the next but I’ve never wanted to go back and drive by any of our former homes (in case they haven’t been kept up). So I guess I’ve had a bit of an emotional connection.

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Allegheny — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:33:38 GMT

Aside from my present home, the other places I didn't own and there was no emotional or financial investiment. So unless at some future point we decide to move I can't answer.

However when my father sold the farm it was difficult for my brother and I. It was the only home we had while growing up. So many experiences, memories. Our only desire was that the buyer wanted to keep it a farm. That was my Dad's desire also and he found the perfect people. He didn't need to sell and was able to wait until the right buyer came along.

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godi — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:36:23 GMT

Homegirl I never thought I would be lucky enough to own a home, when DH and I bought our first home 30 years ago it was in bad shape. We did 90% of the work ourselves. My Dad and sister celebrated holidays and birthdays there. My DH and I were there in sickness and in health, no heat, leaks, collapsed ceiling, flooding. We had new family members, Dad passed and then my sis. We had so many memories there. My husband begged me for years to move because house was nickel and diming us to death. So, we did and the hole in my heart is enormous. I can’t get over it. The memories will never leave me. I can’t help but feel we made a mistake. The people in it do not deserve my old home. I never told my DH cause he is happy here but in my heart I am not. Oh I know I’m lucky new home and I can make new memories I get it but I am having a hard time letting it go. Sorry for blabbering on it felt cleansing getting this off my chest. Good luck!

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Ibby114 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:43:13 GMT

wrote:
If it can't hug and kiss you back, it's a box, that makes it easier to let it go. Memories can't be taken from you, you'll always have those.

@qualitygal Exactly. It's the memories rather than the physical structure.

A few years back I had such a hard time letting go of my minivan- and as I soon as I reallized it was the car connected to raising my kids I let go and was happy to donate it!! The memories will always be with me & my children.

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lork — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:52:26 GMT

After living in a small rural community for more than 35 years, we knew we needed to move closer to our children and my DH's dialysis center. I didn't really love the old house, but it had been "home" for all of our children's lives, and the yard/garden was filled with memories and plantings from friends and neighbors. We'd had wonderful neighbors, and I'd only recently redecorated the kitchen. It took a couple of months to find a near perfect new home at a price we could afford in the larger town. It took a month or two more to sell the old property (didn't get what I thought it was worth, but many were surprised it sold so "quickly" ). We are in a much better place now that we have moved, but I admit to feeling "guilty" when I see our old home which looks neglected and sad. . .

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Azcowgirl — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 20:59:44 GMT

I cried as we drove away from the first house , only because we built it and my Daddy helped me lay brick for the chimney.

These days and Many house sales / moves later, I’m excited about the new adventure ahead and I don’t miss the house.

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Regal Bee — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 21:01:46 GMT

There is nothing wrong about being emotional about selling your home. Just thinking about selling ours.....tears at my heart.

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Snicks1 — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 21:02:18 GMT

I'm now living in my 5th home that I have owned. I am always excited to move on, so no real regrets for me. I will say though, that the home I bought while divorced and a single mom, was probably the one that meant the most to me. All the struggle and sacrifice I made to first, save the money for the down payment, then the same for each and every repair and upgrade I put into it, to make a nice home for myself and my 2 daughters. That one was special to me, but once my girls were out on their own and my current hubby and I decided to both sell our homes and buy "our" home, I let go of the sentiment and looked forward to the future.