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BORN AGAIN — Wed, 22 Jul 2015 17:31:18 GMT

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Re: Secret Recipes

chickenbutt — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 20:58:14 GMT

I don't think I could EVER give them a sabotaged recipe. I would just say that I am not at liberty to share that recipe - for whatever reason or even no reason given.

I have a couple of recipes that friends gave me. They were family recipes of those friends. I was asked not to share them so I don't.

I have a couple of recipes that I made up that I don't give out. That is mostly because I was making money selling the products. No big thing, but I figured it seemed ridiculous to give them out.

Be ready to catch all kinds of grief here, however, because when people say that they don't choose, or are not at liberty, to share recipes they are called all kinds of awful names and insulted in various ways.

I'll freely admit that I DO have harsh judgment toward sabotaging recipes but I think that people should be free to not share recipes without being insulted.

Re: Secret Recipes

Barbarainnc — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:06:09 GMT

I've always shared recipes!!!! Lots of people have "gone on" with recipes, then no one else can make and enjoy it. SHARE, SHARE,SHARE!!!

Just because you have a recipe, doesn't mean it's gonna turn out exactly like the one you tasted. You may measure things differently.

A friend tasted my Sweet Potato Pie and wanted the recipe, so I shared. She said hers didn't taste like mine. I asked if she did anything different, she'd added some cinnamon and something else. I thought, no wonder it didn't taste like mine, she doctored it up.

Re: Secret Recipes

DiAnne — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:08:51 GMT

I always share recipes. Most people makes changes to make recipes their own anyway.

Re: Secret Recipes

Harpa — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:17:20 GMT

Yes, I always share, not just recipes, but other things, too.

I'll just never forget that I asked this one lady for a recipe for the creamy fudge she brought in, said she made it. She refused to give me the recipe. I swore I would never do that! It is more blessed to give than to receive!

Re: Secret Recipes

beckyb1012 — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:20:03 GMT

There is nothing wrong with keeping something special in your family for all to share at one time or another. As long as you pass it on to other members of your family.

My Aunt is in her 80's and does not want to give even to her own daughters the recipes for her special coconut and chocolate pies. I sit down with the empty pie dish at holidays and SCRAPE SCRAPE SCRAPE in front of everyone it so good and I have no shame. She does need to pass on the secrets before it is too late.

Re: Secret Recipes

Nightowlz — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:25:38 GMT

I think they should be shared. What will it hurt. Wished I had all my moms recipes. After she died & dad remarried all moms stuff was thrown out, taken to good will etc. The woman my dad married did not want any of it in her house. Dad was not aware of this until after the fact. She should have gave us her recipes, cookbooks & other possessions. She even cut my mom out of family pics. Share them while you can.

Re: Secret Recipes

chrystaltree — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:29:04 GMT

Omit an ingredient? That a mean spirited thing to do. I would never do that. I think being honest and saying that the recipe is cherished family secret is perfectly okay. It sounds silly in this day and age but it's honest. I have recipes and old cookbooks that there handed down to me from my grandmother and my great aunt I've always been happy to share them with anyone who asks. Especially now that I don't cook on a daily basis. I think the women in my family are pleased that someone is enjoying the recipes they loved and in many case actually developed.

Re: Secret Recipes

chrystaltree — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 21:34:59 GMT

On 3/6/2015 Nightowlz said:
I think they should be shared. What will it hurt. Wished I had all my moms recipes. After she died & dad remarried all moms stuff was thrown out, taken to good will etc. The woman my dad married did not want any of it in her house. Dad was not aware of this until after the fact. She should have gave us her recipes, cookbooks & other possessions. She even cut my mom out of family pics. Share them while you can.

That's awful! Your dad married an insecure witch. Actually, mom started handing down recipes and family jewelry to my sisters and me when we married. My aunt did the same with her daughters. My mom was a bit of a worrier and she gave us the things she wanted us to have early "just in case" there was ever a fire or flood or a "falling out between us". She didn't think it was safe to hold on to things until she was elderly because "you never know what life has in store for any of us".

Re: Secret Recipes

chickenbutt — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:04:28 GMT

Nightowlz - I agree. That's an awful thing that this woman did. First she should have consulted with him and then had the kids come over and take what they wanted. Then HE could decide what to do with the rest. She treated your father AND you poorly. That speaks to her character. I'm sorry she did that to you.

Re: Secret Recipes

PamelaSue72 — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:04:57 GMT

If I didn't want to share a recipe (and that's rare) I would simply say that it's a family recipe. I would never share a recipe and purposely omit an ingredient. That's just rude and mean, IMO. If somebody tries that recipe and there's an ingredient missing, what a waste of time and ingredients that would be if it didn't come out right!

There was one time that I did not share a recipe and (ironically) it was on this board. The only reason I did not was because the contained lard and I could just hear the food police having their snit over that; you all know how that goes around here. Easier to not share the recipe. There have been times when I really wish people here could Private Message in order to talk; that way I could have shared the recipe with the woman who asked me.

Nightowlz, that's just terrible what your dad's second wife did to your mother's things.

Re: Secret Recipes

Lacey1 — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:12:08 GMT

I honestly try to give a recipe correctly, but many times-I change the ingredients every time I make something. I will gladly show someone that's interested how I make things. Many times my 'secret' ingredient will be a technique or tool.

BTW: I belong to another forum that has a great number of men cooks. They use lard and/or bacon in every other recipe. If you post a vegetarian recipe-they get mad!

Re: Secret Recipes

Tique — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:24:11 GMT

I am one of those people who always tries to change/add at least one thing to a recipe to make it mine. I'll admit in the past when someone had asked for a recipe, I have given them the original one - not my change or addition - but I stopped that a couple of years ago. As someone stated above, even when you give someone the exact recipe including amounts and even brand names, there's a strong possibility that it won't turn out exactly as yours.

Nightowlz, I'm very sorry to hear about what was done to you after losing your mother. Almost that exact thing happened to someone who I met immediately after we both loss our mothers. A part of me wants to feel badly for any woman who is that insecure but I can't.

Re: Secret Recipes

Suzeecat — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:41:32 GMT

I would share. What's the big deal, you don't want anybody's cooking/baking to be as good as yours?

I think it's deceitful and doubly cruel to give a recipe that you purposely changed just because you were too "nice" to tell them you didn't want to share. In other words, you would rather someone went and bought all the ingredients, took the time to follow the recipe, and let them feel bad when it doesn't turn out?

If you are always changing the recipe yourself anyway, you should just say "this is the recipe I started with, but I always change it up a little".

Re: Secret Recipes

FUTURE — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:45:09 GMT

I always share. It's a recipe, for crying out loud! That being said, if you choose not to or the person that gave you the recipe asked you not to, that is your decision. What I think is rude is giving them a recipe with incomplete or incorrect ingredients. If you do so, you're essentially wasting their time and/or money, in that they make it expecting it to turn out a certain way, when you know full well it won't. Just be nice and tell them you aren't at liberty to share.

Re: Secret Recipes

Pook — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:46:37 GMT

I will always gladly share a recipe. What's the point of keeping it to yourself? To omit an ingredient is just mean and it's better to just say you don't give out your recipe. I'll even put any changes I have made at the bottom so they know what I made was changed somewhat.

I remember trying to get an Italian cookie recipe that I absolutely loved that was sold at her church's regular functions. The priest introduced me to her so I could ask her for the recipe. The women who made them was in her 80's and she was just not willing to share it. She said "" You seem like a nice person but nobody gets my recipes!!""

She took the recipe to the grave with her and not even her children or grandchildren had it.

Re: Secret Recipes

ChynnaBlue — Fri, 06 Mar 2015 23:57:30 GMT

Are you going to be using these recipes to start your own restaurant? That's really the only reason I can think of for needed to keep a recipe a secret.

Re: Secret Recipes

Catbelly — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 00:34:07 GMT

I have a friend who years ago (before computers) gave her sister her ""Hoagie Dip"" recipe. Her sister then sold the recipe to a local deli for a few thousand dollars - they then sold the prepared dip in their store ! My aunt makes incredible cakes and won't give up her recipe - same thing for her baked beans. Although if I had that cake recipe I'd be HUGE. LOL

Re: Secret Recipes

just4me — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 00:36:03 GMT

I would never sabotage a recipe.

Re: Secret Recipes

mousiegirl — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 00:41:20 GMT

On 3/6/2015 Nightowlz said:
I think they should be shared. What will it hurt. Wished I had all my moms recipes. After she died & dad remarried all moms stuff was thrown out, taken to good will etc. The woman my dad married did not want any of it in her house. Dad was not aware of this until after the fact. She should have gave us her recipes, cookbooks & other possessions. She even cut my mom out of family pics. Share them while you can.

Too bad you didn't go to your parent's house afterward and taken what you wanted as I would think your Dad would have wanted you to have her things. That woman should have invited you over to the house to choose what you wanted, not just disposed of your Mother's things. I can't imagine a reason why she just wouldn't have given everything to you, that would be the normal rational thing to do.