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Looking In The Mirror

SeaMaiden — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:04:17 GMT

Why is it that there are days I look in the mirror and see nothing but old and ugly.....and like today I looked in the mirror and thought "Wow! I look pretty darn good for 60 plus!"

Same mirror....same ol me....very puzzling. Could it be the fame of mind that a person is in the minute you look at yourself in the mirror?

Re: Looking In The Mirror

hopi — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:27:20 GMT

Everybody has bad days......

but when you speak of frame of mind - there are so many positive people who have great self esteem.

When I was young it seemed so odd to me that all of the glamor girls would just go and become recluse as they aged. People always expect to stay the same. So many people judge folks on how they look and some fall to that pressure.

eta to add.

I remember seeing the movie On Golden Pond with Henry and Jane Fonda and one of them said something to the effect that "the golden years aren't so golden". It made tears in my eyes and I didn't even know why.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

Newgate — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:13:19 GMT

I think that is quite common with us as we get older!! Everyone does grow older!! Women are more critical but that is o.k.!! It will encourage us to try a little more maintenance!! As I grow older my goal is to stay healthy and happy!! We are still who we are inside so looking older is really not that important!!

Re: Looking In The Mirror

Mz iMac — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:16:05 GMT

"Why is it that there are days I look in the mirror and see nothing but old and ugly"

Because you're looking at yourself in a 5X or 10X mirror.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

willdob3 — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:18:55 GMT

It is in our best interest to make a habit of looking for the positive things. It is hard to do.

I'm fortunate in that I do that & successfully eliminated the negative, self-destructive thoughts a long time ago. I do get thoughts like, "I don't even recognize myself!" and other, more kindly red flags.

What we see in the mirror is a reflection of many things, including how life has been going recently. Getting too little sleep after a late night of partying might result in feeling tired and looking it the next day. After a relaxing day spent recharging one's body, mind, and spirit the mirror might reflect a much more youthful & happier face.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

SilleeMee — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:24:19 GMT

I often see my mother in my mirror. She was a beautiful person inside and out.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

3suwm5 — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:28:17 GMT

Yes, indeed, it is the frame of mind. Remember, it's what's on the inside

I have a friend that is struggling with cancer. I spoke with her the other day and she mentioned something about, I'm not my usual self, she's gone. It broke my heart to hear her say that. I told her over and over, your wonderful soul is still there, it will never go away.

Doesn't matter what's in the mirror!!

Re: Looking In The Mirror

Kitlynn — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:42:12 GMT

I think as we age it is just natural for us to see changes we weren't really expecting. Then we all of a sudden start focusing on the things about us that have held up well and also our over all physical health. It is wonderful when you have that moment of realizing that you still look good and feel good and embrace the age you are with a good attitude. I think we all need to do the best we can with maintaining ourselves inside and out and having an appreciation for all that we have been through and where we are in our lives. A smile makes a huge difference in our looks also. Amazing how just a simple thing like that can really make us look younger but it does because it lets happiness shine through and that is what others see.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

January121 — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:53:42 GMT

@SeaMaiden .... Hi ... thanks for posting this .... it happens to me everyday!! .... I thought it was only me but, I guess I was wrong! ... lol 😄

Re: Looking In The Mirror

Vickiv — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 18:39:10 GMT

I think when you are older I'm in my 70's I don't look in the mirror for beauty anymore. I see my wrinkles ,sags and bags. I also see a person through life has survived so many heart aches, losing love ones ,staying strong and having the courage to go on. . Someone who raised her children with love and gratitude . Someone who is grateful for life's lessons to pass on to my children and grandchildren. Then I see beauty in that mirror because I am blessed.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

QVCkitty1 — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 19:02:56 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
Why is it that there are days I look in the mirror and see nothing but old and ugly.....and like today I looked in the mirror and thought "Wow! I look pretty darn good for 60 plus!"

Same mirror....same ol me....very puzzling. Could it be the fame of mind that a person is in the minute you look at yourself in the mirror?

I think that some days you just notice a new skin thingy or wrinkle. Maybe most days you don't focus on that softening jawline or slight thinning of your once thick hair? Most of the time we are too busy or just not as critical of ourselves. My new mantra is fix what you can, and ignore the rest.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

chrystaltree — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 20:16:20 GMT

I don't think it's about age at all; it's just about how we are feeling about ourselves on any particular day. On a good day, when all is right with our world and we're feeling happy and positive; we're more likely to like what we see in the mirror. Also, if we've tried a new skincare regimen or bought a new foundation or had our hair done; we're going to like what we see in that mirror.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

Desertdi — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 22:24:08 GMT

@SilleeMee wrote:
I often see my mother in my mirror. She was a beautiful person inside and out.

@SilleeMee I am the dead-spittin'-image of my dad. Nice guy......but definitely not "cute"......(!!)

Re: Looking In The Mirror

AKgirl2 — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 01:26:12 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
@SilleeMee wrote:
I often see my mother in my mirror. She was a beautiful person inside and out.
@SilleeMee I am the dead-spittin'-image of my dad. Nice guy......but definitely not "cute"......(!!)

I look like my pops too...thing is, he was cute!!😎

Re: Looking In The Mirror

AKgirl2 — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 03:41:38 GMT

The change in my face in the past two years has been pretty drastic, due to illness, meds, stress, worry...the absolute worst compilation for aging one's face. I look in the mirror and try to find

the face I remember, and it's not really there...my eyes and smile were my best features, maybe they still are, as I see that in my longtime friends, and newer acquaintances as well. So now I say, the old is now the new! It is what it is baby, and not bothering me too much and if it does become an overwhelming thought, there are derms and plastic surgeons...I don't really see myself going that route because I'm in what I call a comfort zone with myself (for now)😁

Re: Looking In The Mirror

MoJoV — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 04:21:44 GMT

My dearest friend has an inoperable brain tumor...she's so beautiful and brave I have to catch my breath sometimes. When I visit she comes and goes mentally but that beautiful spirit is just always there. @3suwm5 I agree.. beauty isnt just in the mirror.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

nrm — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 04:49:35 GMT

As I look in my 10x mirror I say to myself " Well, you're above ground today" !

Re: Looking In The Mirror

AKgirl2 — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 05:18:18 GMT

@MoJoV wrote:
My dearest friend has an inoperable brain tumor...she's so beautiful and brave I have to catch my breath sometimes. When I visit she comes and goes mentally but that beautiful spirit is just always there. @3suwm5 I agree.. beauty isnt just in the mirror.

Prayers for your close friend...your a pretty special friend and person...hugs (((((💕))))) for you both.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

AngelPuppy1 — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 09:43:02 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
Why is it that there are days I look in the mirror and see nothing but old and ugly.....and like today I looked in the mirror and thought "Wow! I look pretty darn good for 60 plus!"

Same mirror....same ol me....very puzzling. Could it be the fame of mind that a person is in the minute you look at yourself in the mirror?

@SeaMaiden

I think frame of mind has a lot to do with it. If I'm feeling very down, I tend to be very negative about my appearance. No matter what I apply, or what I do, I just feel like I look horrible --- old, tired, and sad. But at other times, I look and think --- well, kid, you will never be 20, 30, 40, etc. again -- but what you have ain't so bad!

I have to say that within the last year or so, I seemed to have aged dramatically. I don't know if all of my illnessess, my husband's illnesses, all the other stress I am consantly going through with my family and work, or if this is just the magic age where things genetically are starting to break down, but I have noticed the biggest change in me so far -- and, of course, I am not pleased about it at all.

I try not to dwell on - just do the best I can and move on! It does no good to worry and fret about it.

Re: Looking In The Mirror

AKgirl2 — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 16:46:45 GMT

@AKgirl2 wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
@SilleeMee wrote:
I often see my mother in my mirror. She was a beautiful person inside and out.
@SilleeMee I am the dead-spittin'-image of my dad. Nice guy......but definitely not "cute"......(!!)
I look like my pops too...thing is, he was cute!!😎

@Desertdi ~ oh boy, my comment reads wrong...I meant dad's cute, me not so much...😌