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Sharing This One

Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:25:57 GMT

Last Saturday night, I did my volunteer work for a certain event. I went dressed nicely as we represent a certain group, etc.

While doing my work, a young man (Security) around 22-24 came over and chatted with me. He asked me what days I did my volunteer work because he wanted to change his shift to my hours. I told him not to and to just do an excellent job at his stations. He wanted us to get together sometimes. Huh? I could be his mother but he doesn't know it or ??? I do look and appear younger than my age of dinosaur but this guy needs a kind explanation of the facts.

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PINKdogWOOD — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:37:47 GMT

Definitely sounds flattering but on the other hand, perhaps a bit creepy.

Good for you for still having it going on if you will!!!

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itsmagic — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:39:23 GMT

I thought the same thing as @PINKdogWOOD. Flattering but I would be wary of him.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:39:59 GMT

@PINKdogWOOD wrote:
Definitely sounds flattering but on the other hand, perhaps a bit creepy.

Good for you for still having it going on if you will!!!

Yes, I will speak to his boss to ask that he not get his hours/day/shift when I am there. He just needs to calm down.

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SusieQ_2 — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:46:27 GMT

Perhaps you remind of his mother?

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Lucky Charm — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:47:51 GMT

Are you single? Do you find him attractive?

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ChynnaBlue — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:48:43 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
Last Saturday night, I did my volunteer work for a certain event. I went dressed nicely as we represent a certain group, etc.
While doing my work, a young man (Security) around 22-24 came over and chatted with me. He asked me what days I did my volunteer work because he wanted to change his shift to my hours. I told him not to and to just do an excellent job at his stations. He wanted us to get together sometimes. Huh? I could be his mother but he doesn't know it or ??? I do look and appear younger than my age of dinosaur but this guy needs a kind explanation of the facts.

He sounds like a guy that used to hit on me. I think that some people mistake anyone not treating them poorly as the person being interested in them. When I lived on the other side of town, I sometimes ran into a guy who would hit on me whenever I saw him and seemed to have no memory of it the next time. It was never, "Oh, hello again," it was always like he'd never seen me before. He knew never knew my name or my status, so for all he knew I was married. I would let him know each time that I wasn't interested. Once he commented on my red hair and I got the feeling that he hits on every red haired woman he sees because he hit on me while my back was turned and I was looking for something in the freezer section of the grocery store.

It was never flattering so much as it was disturbing because I knew he wasn't really interested in me, he never knew anything about me. That made it feel more creepy and stalker-like than flattering.

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CatsyCline — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:56:26 GMT

Security guards are bored and kind of dorky. imagine standing around or sitting for 8 hours doing nothing. can they even go online? i think they can only read a newspaper.

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ladyroxanne — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:28:36 GMT

he may like older women? not unheard of. if so, it's a compliment, but still i'd steer clear.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:39:22 GMT

@ashleigh dupray wrote:

Security guards are bored and kind of dorky. imagine standing around or sitting for 8 hours doing nothing. can they even go online? i think they can only read a newspaper.

Well, not where I live. It's the movie and television crowd and the guards are attractive part time male models, actors. They have four hour shifts. Most are college grads or in college.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:41:26 GMT

@Lucky Charm wrote:
Are you single? Do you find him attractive?

Not single. I wear an obvious rock to drop the hint. No, he's just a young man. My nephews are in their late thirties - this guy is a young pup. Not ever interested in the least.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:45:30 GMT

@ChynnaBlue WOW, that is scary. I may watch one too many crime solving shows but there are many that view criminal sorts with the behavior of the guy you described. I've had my share of stalkers and they are not fun at all.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:48:02 GMT

@SusieQ_2 wrote:
Perhaps you remind of his mother?

That's something to seriously consider. In fact, I may just ask if the opportunity arises again. I'd say "Do I remind you of your mother because you seem to be speaking in such a way that I would think I remind you of her." "I think I would probably be her age".

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SusieQ_2 — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 20:03:43 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@SusieQ_2 wrote:
Perhaps you remind of his mother?
That's something to seriously consider. In fact, I may just ask if the opportunity arises again. I'd say "Do I remind you of your mother because you seem to be speaking in such a way that I would think I remind you of her." "I think I would probably be her age".

That seems like a good approach. You'll probably laugh when I tell you what made me think it's a possibility. I enjoy watching old reruns of The Golden Girls, and there was an episode where this situation arose with Blanche and her exercise instructor. You can imagine Blanche's surprise when she found out why he had asked her to dinner.

Anyway, it was just a thought, and I think your idea of asking him about it might solve the problem. If he thinks of you as a mother figure that could be a nice thing. If it's something else, the realization that he's young enough to be your son might be enough to get him to back off. Anyway, good luck!

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Desertdi — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 20:41:45 GMT

Huh.......the only ones who hit on me are toothless old geezers, with thick glasses and a cane. I think they're looking for someone to take care of them.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 21:28:27 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
Huh.......the only ones who hit on me are toothless old geezers, with thick glasses and a cane. I think they're looking for someone to take care of them.

Hey, those Geezers might have a thick wallet. Which helps overlook the missing teeth.

Take care Di. I think some rain might be coming your way soon.

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Desertdi — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 21:40:02 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
Huh.......the only ones who hit on me are toothless old geezers, with thick glasses and a cane. I think they're looking for someone to take care of them.
Hey, those Geezers might have a thick wallet. Which helps overlook the missing teeth.
Take care Di. I think some rain might be coming your way soon.

Hiya @Puzzle Piece...........I'll take the rain! (I've got the sprinklers going right now.....it's dry here.) di

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40nu20 — Mon, 09 Nov 2015 23:10:29 GMT

just be flattered!!! Gosh I'm married with 2 young childred. I'm in my 40's. Funny story........I was at one of my daughters sporting events when a handsome 20 something year old guy came and stood next to me. He struck up conversation and was standing maybe just a little bit too close to me. Gosh I was flattered. I was thinking..."I still got it". Then a few minutes later.....An old friend of mine walked over and said "Oh, you met my son". I dont got it anymore....LOL

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Reba055 — Tue, 10 Nov 2015 01:17:45 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
Huh.......the only ones who hit on me are toothless old geezers, with thick glasses and a cane. I think they're looking for someone to take care of them.
Hey, those Geezers might have a thick wallet. Which helps overlook the missing teeth.
Take care Di. I think some rain might be coming your way soon.

This made me laugh! Yeah, you could probably overlook a lot of things depending on how thick!

I'm always a bit creeped out when younger guys are flirty. I have one friend who is just flattered to death and will return the flirty banter until I'm ready to crawl under a rock. I've never been remotely interested, even when I was much younger. I have a son and it just seems creepy for some guy my son's age (or younger, eh) to flirt.

Sometimes I think they like your personality or think you look good for your age and are just trying to make you feel good. Or they're deadbeats looking for a sugar mama, lol