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O/T ~ Sending Birthday Cards...

Sunshine Kate — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 01:53:42 GMT

Do you send birthday cards to friends that you never get a birthday card from? Or, kind of like Christmas cards, just to the people you receive a card from?

Just wondering what others do. Thanks

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MaggieOla — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 01:55:24 GMT

I wouldn't send a card...but I would call and wish them a happy birthday instead.

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sunshine45 — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 01:58:25 GMT

i dont send birthday cards. i call them or send them a message via email or facebook.

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Katcat1 — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:03:00 GMT

I send Birthday cards to my friends but they also send cards to me.

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lovesrecess — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:16:34 GMT

I love getting birthday cards and appreciate that someone takes the time to get a card, write a note, and put it in the mail. I send cards to friends whether they send me one or not. I just like sending them one. I think an email is inappropriate for a birthday wish.

We got far fewer Christmas cards this year and I think this is a trend. We got a lot of them computer-generated with no personal signature at all....sort of like the one from my insurance agent! I will not be sending as many this year.

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glmama — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:43:05 GMT

Yes, I'm a life-long card and note sender. My mother was, too. But really I had a very close neighbor who was one of the most thoughtful people I've ever met. She remembered all the important dates in everyone's life. And she wasn't like this b/c she wanted or expected others to be the same. She just did it from her heart. I am this way in my life now, partly b/c of this woman. And sometimes, people close to me say things like, oh, thank you for the card, but I just am not good with remembering things, blah blah blah. I think sometimes ppl feel the need to tell me why they aren't like me in this way (siblings, primarily). And iim always taken aback by this. I remember ppl's important dates, I just do. And I like to acknowledge them. And I don't do it for a compliment (or an apology for NOT doing this). I just do it from my heart. A hand written note it card is a special thing, I think.

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Daysdee — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:45:47 GMT

I still send birthday cards even to some that do not know my birthday. If a friend mentions their birthdate, I note it and send a card. Getting less Christmas cards every year. People just stop sending. Also, so many have passed on.

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Colonel Meow — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:53:47 GMT

Sadly, I'm of the generation that does everything on facebook or via email/text. I am really the only person among my friends who actually sends cards on special occasions, and I do this knowing full well that the gesture will not be reciprocated.

I find that most people around my age can't even be bothered to pick up the phone and actually call you to wish you a happy birthday, much less send a heartfelt card. I most often receive birthday wishes via text, because I don't do facebook.

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Snowpuppy — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:55:00 GMT

I used to but now they seem either unwanted or unappreciated. When I didn't hear a thing in return I stopped.

Then ecards seemed to be the thing and that lasted for awhile. I stopped sending them when the last ecard I received was unsigned/no note.

I mean seriously? Who is that thoughtless?

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GCR18 — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 02:59:25 GMT

I send birthday cards to just family members. I send Christmas cards to both friends and family members whether they reciprocate or not.

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soonersis — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 04:18:54 GMT

I've always sent birthday cards to close friends and family members (mine and my husband's). Don't get that many in return from hubby's family.

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Grade1Teach — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:29:15 GMT

I don't send birthday cards to friends or extended family. I usually just call them or email them.

However, I always give cards to my immediate family, parents, and siblings. In turn, they give cards to me. I would continue to give cards even if they stopped.

As far as Christmas Cards go, I will send to certain people even if they don't send to me. There are some people who just don't have the time or energy to send them out and that's totally understandable.

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Hayfield — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 12:04:25 GMT

I still send birthday cards to very close friends but others I will post a "Happy Birthday" on Facebook. I do still send Christmas cards, I enjoy sending them. I sometimes do a family photo, when I can get all four of us together. It doesn't matter to me if I get a card from someone, I'll still send them one. I do text "Happy Birthday" to my nephews and niece instead of sending them a card, it's what their generation likes, so it's what I do. Whatever I do I do because I want to, it makes me feel good.

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sun8shine — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 19:56:31 GMT

If I want to (and I remember in time) I send a card - I don't really keep score of what people send me. I just don't remember. Ditto xmas cards.

People are always so happy to get a card - so to me that is reward enough.

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willdob3 — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 20:45:46 GMT

I don't send cards based on whether I receive them from someone. If it is someone I see regularly I might give them the card when I see them.

I mail cards to a few friends/family who live far away.

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Classique — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 21:15:18 GMT

On 8/4/2014 Colonel Meow said:
Sadly, I'm of the generation that does everything on facebook or via email/text. I am really the only person among my friends who actually sends cards on special occasions, and I do this knowing full well that the gesture will not be reciprocated.

I find that most people around my age can't even be bothered to pick up the phone and actually call you to wish you a happy birthday, much less send a heartfelt card. I most often receive birthday wishes via text, because I don't do facebook.

You belong to the most selfish generation. Do your friends make it all about themselves and their kids....taking babies to restaurants and flying them on airplanes just to vacation and annoy everyone around them? You are the exception and I hope you find others like yourself to befriend.

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sidsmom — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 21:40:01 GMT

On 8/5/2014 Hayfield said:
I still send birthday cards to very close friends but others I will post a "Happy Birthday" on Facebook. I do still send Christmas cards, I enjoy sending them. I sometimes do a family photo, when I can get all four of us together. It doesn't matter to me if I get a card from someone, I'll still send them one. I do text "Happy Birthday" to my nephews and niece instead of sending them a card, it's what their generation likes, so it's what I do. Whatever I do I do because I want to, it makes me feel good.

THANK YOU! All the moaning/groaning of reciprocating YOUR actions is selfish. You should be doing these things because they make YOU feel good...regardless if you get anything back. I don't have the type of friends that "keep score" like that...it's too toxic. Ick.

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MarthaStewardess — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 22:00:52 GMT

In my family, we all send cards for birthday, Christmas, anniversary or other special events. I like to receive them, have them on display in my home and send them. Much, much nicer than an email. I like to pick out special cards for people and write in them. I just think it's a nice personal touch that seems to be lost by a lot of people and it's something that e-mails don't do. I send them to family and special people in my life. I may send an email and write something on Facebook and or call someone on their special day in addition to sending a card.

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islandgrrl — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 22:13:36 GMT

I come from a long line of card senders. I send birthday cards to all of my friends and family regardless of whether or not I receive them. Gives me a chance to tell them they are loved and reminds me how many neat people I have in my life. I get as much if not more out of it than they do!

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beanie — Tue, 05 Aug 2014 22:17:20 GMT

I very very very seldom send cards anymore. Yes, I give a card for a wedding (with a check of course... but other than that/very seldom. I also do not care if I get any. For many many years I worked for a Hallmark Store. Had my fill of cards...and more...lol beanie