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Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:30:49 GMT

I got highlights done in November. Before that, my hair was natural dark blonde. The highlights just made my hair feel so dry. My hair is better now, but it is still not back to the healthy, natural shine that it had before I had it highlighted. I have decided not to put any color or highlights in my hair again. I am going to embrace my natural color, so I can keep my hair as healthy and shiny as possible. My stylist toned down the highlights so they are close to my natural color. Now, I just have to wait a year until these highlights grow out.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

HappyDaze — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:38:13 GMT

I am sorry, Hilary.

I loved my highlights until she went too light (and ran the color through to the ends) and mine too felt and looked like yours-drier and duller. I decided to take some inches off and now I am not going to do ANY highlights until the dry stuff grows out. So bummed because my hair was so long and healthy. We shall commiserate together!

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:52:17 GMT

On 1/17/2014 HappyDaze said:
I am sorry, Hilary.

I loved my highlights until she went too light (and ran the color through to the ends) and mine too felt and looked like yours-drier and duller. I decided to take some inches off and now I am not going to do ANY highlights until the dry stuff grows out. So bummed because my hair was so long and healthy. We shall commiserate together!

Thanks HappyDaze. My hair is still healthy, but I think I was just so spoiled by the natural (no chemical) hair that I had before my highlights. There is just a shine and healthy glow in hair that is not processed that just can't be matched. I just wish I had it back, now. Thanks for your support. Live and learn, right?

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ID2 — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:05:01 GMT

My hair is extremely fine. I love getting highlights! It makes my hair feel thick! I actually highlight my own hair so I know how blonde I want to go. I really love the volume the highlights give to my hair.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Mando — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:15:30 GMT

Maybe try a protein reconstructer (I like Joico K-pak) or Wen Remoist. It will help strengthen & soften you hair. I always do one of these after highlights. I also slather my head in oils before any color/chemical process.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

HonnyBrown — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:19:25 GMT

On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:Thanks HappyDaze. My hair is still healthy, but I think I was just so spoiled by the natural (no chemical) hair that I had before my highlights. There is just a shine and healthy glow in hair that is not processed that just can't be matched. I just wish I had it back, now. Thanks for your support. Live and learn, right?

I'm so sorry you are both going through that! The good thing is, when the highlights grow out and are gone, you will both have that healthy glow back.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:29:56 GMT

On 1/17/2014 HonnyBrown said:
On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:Thanks HappyDaze. My hair is still healthy, but I think I was just so spoiled by the natural (no chemical) hair that I had before my highlights. There is just a shine and healthy glow in hair that is not processed that just can't be matched. I just wish I had it back, now. Thanks for your support. Live and learn, right?

I'm so sorry you are both going through that! The good thing is, when the highlights grow out and are gone, you will both have that healthy glow back.

The great thing is my hair grows like crazy using Wen. My hair has already grown almost 2 inches since Thanksgiving. It should be grown out in no time.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

HappyDaze — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:42:46 GMT

On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:
On 1/17/2014 HonnyBrown said:
On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:Thanks HappyDaze. My hair is still healthy, but I think I was just so spoiled by the natural (no chemical) hair that I had before my highlights. There is just a shine and healthy glow in hair that is not processed that just can't be matched. I just wish I had it back, now. Thanks for your support. Live and learn, right?

I'm so sorry you are both going through that! The good thing is, when the highlights grow out and are gone, you will both have that healthy glow back.

The great thing is my hair grows like crazy using Wen. My hair has already grown almost 2 inches since Thanksgiving. It should be grown out in no time.

so has mine Hilary! I had 2 inches cut off a little bit ago and it is almost as long as it was before I cut it! Super crazy growth.

I am going to grow my hair out completely and see where I am at with my natural color. I am still going to go back to doing highlights the old way I was doing that still kept my hair healthy (only a shade or two lighter than my natural color, no bleach) but I am going to do less amount of highlights than I use to. I only highlighted the top layer but I am going to do only about half what I did before. And the reason why- I am REALLY loving how beautiful my natural color is coming in. It has its' own natural highlights that are really shining through, figuratively and literally!

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

waterdragon — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:54:40 GMT

Happy and Hilary sorry for your highlighting woes. I've never highlighted, being of American Indian, Jewish and Italian heritage I never felt lighter colors did me any favors.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 03:05:32 GMT

On 1/17/2014 HappyDaze said:
On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:
On 1/17/2014 HonnyBrown said:
On 1/17/2014 Hilary77 said:Thanks HappyDaze. My hair is still healthy, but I think I was just so spoiled by the natural (no chemical) hair that I had before my highlights. There is just a shine and healthy glow in hair that is not processed that just can't be matched. I just wish I had it back, now. Thanks for your support. Live and learn, right?

I'm so sorry you are both going through that! The good thing is, when the highlights grow out and are gone, you will both have that healthy glow back.

The great thing is my hair grows like crazy using Wen. My hair has already grown almost 2 inches since Thanksgiving. It should be grown out in no time.

so has mine Hilary! I had 2 inches cut off a little bit ago and it is almost as long as it was before I cut it! Super crazy growth.

I am going to grow my hair out completely and see where I am at with my natural color. I am still going to go back to doing highlights the old way I was doing that still kept my hair healthy (only a shade or two lighter than my natural color, no bleach) but I am going to do less amount of highlights than I use to. I only highlighted the top layer but I am going to do only about half what I did before. And the reason why- I am REALLY loving how beautiful my natural color is coming in. It has its' own natural highlights that are really shining through, figuratively and literally!

I know what you mean. My hair had natural highlights, too. I had hues of red and lighter blonde. My daughter is nine. Her hair has sooo many natural highlights. Her hair actually has natural blonde streaks that look like highlights. Her hair is mid-back in length and she has zero split ends. Her hair always looks freshly cut on the ends. I don't think she will ever fully appreciate her hair with Wen because I don't think she remembers using shampoo when she was 7. Lol! I don't think she realizes what a difference Wen makes compared to shampoo.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Kempokim — Sun, 19 Jan 2014 15:15:03 GMT

I did the same thing.....too many highlights and I lightened up my base. Loved the look hated the feel I am going back to my natural color too......in the mean time doing lots and lots of oil treatments!

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sun, 19 Jan 2014 16:47:59 GMT

On 1/19/2014 Kempokim said:
I did the same thing.....too many highlights and I lightened up my base. Loved the look hated the feel I am going back to my natural color too......in the mean time doing lots and lots of oil treatments!

Well, we can all celebrate when we get back to the hair we love. I got a trim yesterday with some added layers in the crown. This helped some, but I am going to continue oil treatments as well to make it grow faster.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

FinnyMinny — Sun, 19 Jan 2014 19:47:38 GMT

Thanks for starting this thread, Hilary. I recently had a job interview but they haven't called me so I'm assuming I haven't made it to the next round (they said they'd call this week). Because I won't be on the job market again until the fall (the academic job market has a long cycle since there are hires only at a certain time of each school year), I'm seriously considering dying my hair a crazy dolor, like forest green or navy blue. My only fear is that I'd have to strip my hair a little to get the color to stick, and that I might have to do further damage if I decide to over-dye it to get it back to dark brown again, and that I'd have to wait such a long time to grow out the damaged hair and get my full head of Wen hair back again (it's currently bra-strap length). I know I'll be able to use remoist and oils to condition it after dying it, but I'm just so scared of ruining my Wen hair.

Anyway, thanks for sharing your regret, because I need to focus on that, and not on the temporary fun of dying my hair.

Re: Regretting Getting Highlights

Hilary77 — Sun, 19 Jan 2014 23:09:20 GMT

Well, I don't want to make everyone anti-color. I think coloring hair is very necessary if you are wanting a certain look for your hair. I do think that coloring your hair in the gentlest way possible is always the best option. I just had my hair highlighted very heavily with bleach, and coming from natural, non-colored hair, it was quite a difference. If I were to do it again, I would just do a few highlights through the crown instead of doing my whole head. Also, going just a couple shades lighter would have also made a huge difference. my hair is recovering nicely thanks to Wen, though. I do, however, miss my natural color. The bleach just seems to make my hair look dull.