Re: What would you do about this Birthday Party pr... - Page 6

mima · ‎03-14-2010

@MaggieMack wrote:
Based n having eight people coming to stay at her house, she might like the idea of a party in her heart but not want the collateral damage that comes with it. Given the choice, I would say No, too. Get a hotel, people, and take her out for a nice birthday dinner, no surprises allowed.

@MaggieMack My stepdad would never allow his kids to stay at a hotel. I agree though, they need to stay at a hotel!

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

I would say no and recommend an alternate option. Is she of good health? Would taking her out to dinner with family be an option, instead? (My mom has some health issues and sometimes isn't up to going out, so I know that can be a factor.)

If my mom said she didn't want a party and my dad threw her a surprise party, all hell would break lose and everyone would suffer. There would be yelling, crying, much embarrassment, and no one would come away unscathed. There is no way you could get me to help make that happen.

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mima · ‎03-14-2010

@stevieb Yes, he loves to entertain and she doesn't. I don't either.

RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

@mima wrote:
My original plans was to offer to take her to the casino and buy her lunch there and spend the afternoon. This would be on her actual BD which is on a Thurs.

It's YOUR mom. If you think this is something she would enjoy then you and your daughter should take her. And I suppose take the stepdad also. ;-) There's no reason it can't be just the 3 of you girls. And then the others can do something at a later date if your mom agrees.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

If your mother doesn't want a party, there should not be party. It's her birthday, she deserves the right to celebrate it or NOT celebrate it anyway she wants. It's a no brainer....no party. You step father's desire for a party is irrrelevant. If he wants a party so bad, let him throw a big expensive "I'm an insensitive bully" party for hisself.

mima · ‎03-14-2010

@RedConvertibleGirl wrote:
@mima wrote:
My original plans was to offer to take her to the casino and buy her lunch there and spend the afternoon. This would be on her actual BD which is on a Thurs.

It's YOUR mom. If you think this is something she would enjoy then you and your daughter should take her. And I suppose take the stepdad also. ;-) There's no reason it can't be just the 3 of you girls. And then the others can do something at a later date if your mom agrees.

@RainyDayGal She used to enjoy going to the casino. She doesn't go anymore. I thought I'd ask anyway and if she agrees, we'd go just for a short time. Anything too long wears her out. Stepdad doesn't like to go to the casino, so I think that is why she doesn't go anyore. If I ask her, I still won't know until the day of the event. She is not in good health and if she is having a bad day, she won't go. That's why I don't think a BD party would work either!

Susan in California · ‎06-02-2014

Interesting comments here. I initially felt the step-dad meant well and wanted to celebrate his wife's important birthday.

I have had a few surprise parties mostly for our children or my husband. They loved them. As for myself, I don't like surprise parties or large parties where I am

the center of attention. It is just not me. I love my friends and family and getting together with them is wonderful.

But my husband and children really know me and would never want to push me into a party I wouldn't want. I suppose that is the key, and yes it is controlling if the step-dad insists.

Re: houseguests. Just this last week, we had five. Two were family members and three were their friends. Everyone cooked, cleaned, organized, did everything. I actually enjoyed it very much. It's the houseguests who expect to be waited on

and catered to that are difficult in my opinion.

RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

@mima wrote:
@RedConvertibleGirl wrote:
@mima wrote:
My original plans was to offer to take her to the casino and buy her lunch there and spend the afternoon. This would be on her actual BD which is on a Thurs.

It's YOUR mom. If you think this is something she would enjoy then you and your daughter should take her. And I suppose take the stepdad also. ;-) There's no reason it can't be just the 3 of you girls. And then the others can do something at a later date if your mom agrees.
@RainyDayGal She used to enjoy going to the casino. She doesn't go anymore. I thought I'd ask anyway and if she agrees, we'd go just for a short time. Anything too long wears her out. Stepdad doesn't like to go to the casino, so I think that is why she doesn't go anyore. If I ask her, I still won't know until the day of the event. She is not in good health and if she is having a bad day, she won't go. That's why I don't think a BD party would work either!

If he doesn't like going, all the more reason to make it a girls event. LOL Since you never know how she will be feeling one day to the next, it would be impossible to plan any kind of celebration for her. I can certainly understand her feelings on no party.

I think just keep everything low key and let her enjoy a quiet day however she prefers. You could always just take a nice cake and some flowers over, and stay if she's up for company.

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

@mima wrote:
My original plans was to offer to take her to the casino

That is all my mother wants on her birthday(s)....going to the casinos, checking out the lounge & comedy shows, lunch, dinner & swimming.

We always make it a 3 day event. We notify the restaurants of B-day & the waiters/waitresses present my mom w/a small cake come desert time on each of those 3 days.

Mom is happy as a lark!

This year on her 92nd B-day, she wants to go to Vegas & Reno. NOT one or the other but, both places!!!!

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."