Is it customary to have a baby shower for baby #2 ... - Page 9

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Forget those old rules. Yes, it's perfectly ok to have a baby shower for baby #2, #3 and so forth and so on. Although, I do find that showers after that first big one tend to be smaller. Except when there is a big gap between showers. That last baby shower I attended was for my friend's daughter. It was her third child but her children were 13 and 9. So the shower was as big as you would expect for a first time baby.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@elruth wrote:
I have heard of a " sprinkle " shower when the 2nd baby is a different sex from the 1st baby.

Sprinkle....first time I heard that, but I like it.

bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

I don't feel compelled to attend every event I'm invited to

Unless I had a prior commitment or was out of town, I wouldn't pass up a baby shower. They're such happy occasions

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@colliegirls wrote:
I have 4 children, though I had offers of a shower each time, after the first baby I suggested we all just go out to lunch or dinner together.

That was considerate but I think youmight have deprived your friends of the fun of shopping for baby things and making a diaper cake. Showers whether they are baby showers or bridal showers aren't just gift giving events. Showers are also an opportunity for women to shop, share and have a little fun with other women. Subsequent showers are usually smaller than that first shower. So, it all works out.

Beth-QVC · ‎06-14-2015

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Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
@colliegirls wrote:
I have 4 children, though I had offers of a shower each time, after the first baby I suggested we all just go out to lunch or dinner together.

That was considerate but I think youmight have deprived your friends of the fun of shopping for baby things and making a diaper cake. Showers whether they are baby showers or bridal showers aren't just gift giving events. Showers are also an opportunity for women to shop, share and have a little fun with other women. Subsequent showers are usually smaller than that first shower. So, it all works out.

I agree with both of you. My only input would be that a shower given for a bride or a mother to be (regardless of how many times the 'event' has occurred) is about that person, and their wishes should be honored. If they don't want a shower, those who would have been involved and feel deprived just have to move on and get over it.

When I was pregnant, I was 35, had a home, job, husband with a good job...we were pretty settled.

My mom wanted to throw a shower for me, and I was insistent she didn't do that. Most of my family and my husband's family at the time, had less (many significantly less) than we did. I didn't feel right putting them in a place to have to gift to us.

After my son was born, several older relatives brought me very special handmade gifts and I was thrilled with that. I never wanted a wedding shower either, because I had owned a home for quite some time before marrying. I was very happy my mom respected my wishes both times.

SFGIANTSGIRL · ‎03-13-2010

I had a shower for both my first and second., It really wasn't about the gifts but about have the picktures and memories and cards in my seconds baby book. I wanted to have those memories for both.

Deb

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

@seaBreeze While love babies are babies too, if there is an awkward social situation I send a small gift and my regrets.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
@colliegirls wrote:
I have 4 children, though I had offers of a shower each time, after the first baby I suggested we all just go out to lunch or dinner together.

That was considerate but I think you might have deprived your friends of the fun of shopping for baby things and making a diaper cake. Showers whether they are baby showers or bridal showers aren't just gift giving events. Showers are also an opportunity for women to shop, share and have a little fun with other women. Subsequent showers are usually smaller than that first shower. So, it all works out.

@chrystaltree

I don't think any mom-to-be is somehow obligated to give women an excuse to shop and socialize. She isn't "depriving" them of anything. I would hate to be put in the position of having to endure a party I didn't want just because others wanted to have it. Isn't pregnancy uncomfortable enough already? JMO.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I have gone to every bridal and baby shower that I have ever been invited to over the years (at least to the best of my memory, I have). I have also given several showers and gladly. I had a great time at each one.

Even years ago it could get quite costly to throw a party. There's the invitations, cake, decorations, tablewear, decorations, games, etc. In my family, I can never remember anyone even wanting more than one. I have 18 cousins on just my Dad's side with all of them but 4 living just a few miles away. We would be broke if everyone had a 2nd shower!

This is off topic but just had to say something. Our young neighbors had their first child. I got to hold her in my arms for almost 40 minutes when she was just 2 days old about a week ago. Oh my. Nothing quite like that feeling!!! It did my soul good.

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