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07-27-2016 11:37 PM
07-28-2016 05:54 AM
@chiclets wrote:At the funeral home flowers are there from family and others. At the sign in desk there is often a plate on which individuals leave a card/envelope with money inside, or a note stating a donation to a foundation or charity has been sent in the deceased name, or you can leave your sympathy card there. To the home you can send a dish garden or such, or bring food to place on the table. You may telephone the funeral home to inquire if they knew the family had preferences. Sending a sympathy card to the home is always very acceptable and nice. A card alone is always acceptable. What is important is you did something to express condolences.
I wanted to add the reason why money is given is to help pay for the funeral, and expenses.
07-28-2016 09:01 AM
@Big Time wrote:I lost my beloved mother three weeks ago. I cherish every single card that has been sent to me. Touches my heart. Felt the same when my Dad passed. NEVER, EVER would I expect someone to send money to me. How CRASS. If, in the obituary, you make mention that a donation to a favored charity in the loved one's name is preferred, that is fine. But, never, ever, ever would I expect this. In fact, I don't want anything but the love and support of my friends. You are a dear person for sending that card.
@Big Time I'm so sorry about the loss of your dear mother. May her memory be a blessing to you.
07-28-2016 12:08 PM
Yes I do send only a card most times. I have a thing about cut flowers being sent. I don't think it really brings any sort of comfort as then they die and you throw them out. I have gotten a living plant, actually a small tree, at the passing of my MIL that we planted and enjoyed the spring flowers on it. More positive about a sad event, IMHO.
I once got sort of sympathy card from a so called friend as I was in the middle of chemo for breast cancer. Had no hair and surgery to remove the "bad" breast and this card wasn't very funny so I immediately threw it out. Haven't heard from or spoken to this person again. That was 4 years ago. Great, right!!!???
07-28-2016 12:13 PM
@wagirl wrote:Yes I do send only a card most times. I have a thing about cut flowers being sent. I don't think it really brings any sort of comfort as then they die and you throw them out. I have gotten a living plant, actually a small tree, at the passing of my MIL that we planted and enjoyed the spring flowers on it. More positive about a sad event, IMHO.
I once got sort of sympathy card from a so called friend as I was in the middle of chemo for breast cancer. Had no hair and surgery to remove the "bad" breast and this card wasn't very funny so I immediately threw it out. Haven't heard from or spoken to this person again. That was 4 years ago. Great, right!!!???
@wagirl ... I would say that whoever sent you a "sympathy" card while you were undergoing treatment for cancer was someone who was not very intelligent. I think she interpreted "sympathy" as feeling sorry for what you were going through.
07-28-2016 10:44 PM
I have never heard of sending money to the family of the deceased. That is what insurance is for to pay for the funeral. If the person was a close friend or family member and I knew they didnot have insurance.then I would give money. Since I am Catholic we usually give mass cards to the person who was Catholic.
07-28-2016 10:59 PM
Wow, I've never heard of such a thing. I actuallly gasped when I read the part about inclosing money. To me that is so tacky. Donation to charity, yes. Money with a sympathy card, NO.
07-29-2016 06:40 AM
@Bridgegal wrote:Wow, I've never heard of such a thing. I actuallly gasped when I read the part about inclosing money. To me that is so tacky. Donation to charity, yes. Money with a sympathy card, NO.
I never heard of that either. Big NO.
07-29-2016 01:07 PM
I think "just" sending a sympathy card is perfectly acceptable particularly if the deceased person and family are not close friends. For close friends, I would send a donation in the person's memory. As far as sending cash, I think many times Catholics may send money in the card which would be "for masses " . I think sending cards is very thoughtful and much appreciated by the bereaved.
07-29-2016 09:55 PM
Nothing wrong, and perfectly right, to send a nice card with a very heartfelt wrtten note. Sometimes that is just as meaningful to the family than straight donations directly to a charity. (Which I'm sure are greatly apprecated, too.)
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