I recently had a similar discussion with my youngest daughter via phone (she's 36 and unmarried, no children) and my oldest daughter (she's 43) with 4 children, youngest is 4 and oldest is 14, also the middle on joined in later (she's 41) with 3 children, 5, 7 and 9.
We talked about how if you want respect you earn it by not setting two sets of rules (I'm talking about smoking, cursing, being respectful, honest, etc). Children learn by what they see.
My late husband was busy building businesses when my girls were young. I was a stay at home mother, loved being a mom and took it very seriously.
All I had to do when they got really troublesome (which was very seldom) was say, "Are we going to have to talk to your Dad about this?" That meant when he got home, THEY would go to him and tell them what they'd done. They'd say, "NO"! He wasn't mean just very matter of fact and didn't let them get away with stuff (like I sometimes did).
To this day my youngest daughter who lives alone in another state will text me good morning and good night (a smiley face sometimes) to make sure I'm OK (I live alone) and to tell me all's well with her. My girls were taught it is being respectful to not be rude or make your parents worry about you. It's not a parent checking up.
Kids these days have little or no respect for adults or authority. I know some of them do, but I see it everywhere. It isn't easy being a parent but anyone can be one. Just pop out a kid. Most people can do it.
I buy a lot of trash magazines and there is always a theme in them from the beginning. Those two parent very differently, she was raised differently from him. You can read between the lines.
If you go back and read what I'd posted earlier you'd see that Sharon Osbourne said she spends a lot of time in England and the Queen gave Angela some kind of title and she can hold some kind of public service (didn't care enough to pay attention). She said in England the word is Angie wants to go into public service and he wants to be home based in the US and continue to be involved in the movie business, etc. They are going different routes. I think that, plus the children are doing what children do, get away with whatever they can as they get older.
For whatever reason it isn't easy for a parent to just come in (after being away for a long period of time and be Daddy. I have no idea if any of this is true but I've never seen anything where he is anything other than a good parent. His parents and family have also been involved in helping to raise the children (I see them often with the children). I think it's just different parenting skills (Angie has always said she believes in giving children freedom and they will do the right thing. Ha!
This is totally from my little pea brain and doesn't mean a whole lot. It just bothers me when I see that people think what goes on in a family and marriage is the result of one thing. It's probably been a long time coming (supposedly, who knows, they haven't slept together in months). Children are smart and are probably taking advantage of the weakness in the family structure. It's a kid being a kid and parents need to unite and co-parent together or these children are in real trouble....a pistol like she was...remember?
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