Highly sensitive person...this is a real personality trait

beanie,

what are some of the finer definitions of this? Maybe then we'll know. Thanks.

I am blunt and to the point............I work with an overly sensitive person and quite frankly, she drives me nuts..................................raven

Lots of people are, I am and know others who are but we never declared it or asked others to adapt themselves to us. In the healthcare field I'd imagine there are a great many and I'm thankful some people care about the details more than others.

The people who are the "all about me" type, blunt and/or unable to work well with others because everything has to be their way are a drag to spend a shift with in my opinion.

On 2/17/2015 MickD said: We're all sensitive as we are human. Some just express it differently than others....but using it as a crutch is a cop out.

I think I have to agree....the book make note of ALL the ways we could help the highly sensitive person to make her/his life better...BUT I didn't read anything that was "give and take"...like how they could work alongside others. It was all about how we should understand this trait/person.

Highly sensitive people are frequently over aroused. When this happens (light, noise, chitchat, etc) the HSP will become overwhelmed, frazzled and need to be alone.

They need to be caution and proceed slowly with thoughts and actions. Retreating, often to cry, is typical of HSP's.

They have a sense of being flawed. They feel different and sometimes crazy. As a child they felt defective.

Loud music and crowds can be stressful. They need solitude at the end of day because often by then they feel jangled and overaroused.

They are unable to tolerate as much as other people.

They have great creativity, insight, passion and caring.

People see them as shy, weak and unsociable.

To correct a situation the rest or "shut down"

They are polite, kind and considerate except when overcome with too much emotion or stimulation.

They are highly consicientious, loyal and thoughtful.

They do not perform well when being observed.

As you can see....I read the book and took notes.

beanie

I think being sensitive, or highly sensitive, could be the result of our upbringing, specific things that have happened to us, specific ways we've been treated by others, or just the way our brains are wired.

Who is to say why what rolls off one person's back, feels devastating to someone else? Who is to say why what bothers us a great deal one day, may not bother us that much on a different day? None of us know what goes on in another person's head, so I don't think it can be judged by a blanket statement of "it's a crutch and/or a cop-out". People feel the way they feel, and sometimes that can no more be controlled according to the way "society" would prefer it than we can control the weather.

I don't judge anyone about how they think or feel, or whether they're too sensitive, because I haven't walked in their shoes. And I don't expect anyone to judge me when they haven't walked in mine.

I do want to say that now that she and I have had our ""mediation"" and I have read the book....I understand her better and it will be a better working arrangement. The root of the problem is that she had an enormous office to herself. The director of our bldg. saw a need to do some rearranging. Part of that was moving me into ""her"" office. It is now ""our"" office and that has totally threw her for a loop...no disrespect meant. She has admitted it. She finds it difficult to look at or even talk to me some days as she wishes things were the same as before (when she had the office to herself). Oh well. beanie

Upon reading the "summary" of points in the book, it makes me question even more how someone could call this a cop-out or a crutch. Based on the points made in that summation, I would tend to lean more toward this being a type of emotional disorder, and anyone who is familiar with those in a personal way (self, family member, etc.), whatever they may be, would never call it either of those things. That's kind of like saying someone who suffers from clinical depression is using it as a cop-out. Just my opinion.