Older Men Pursuing Much Younger Women

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

I know, it happens all the time, older men relentlessly pursuing younger women, but I don't understand why some of these men don't see it as somewhat creepy.

I walk daily around my neighborhood and other neighborhoods close by. There is a man that is outside sometimes who waves to me, I wave back and say hi. Apparently, that nice gesture makes him think I'm "interested" in him. The next time I was walking, he literally ran after me and handed me his phone number. He said, "I want to talk to you give me a call." I never called.

I saw him in the grocery store one day and we chatted for a moment. He actually said to me, "I didn't recognize you with clothes on." I walk in shorts and a tank top or a t-shirt when it's hot out. I'm tasteful. He said it so loud, I was embarrassed with people around wondering what the heck he meant. This man is old enough to be my father. He's probably in his early to mid-70's. I thought his comment was odd.

He then asks me if I would be interested in "getting together and going places and doing things together." Yikes! I mean, really? I was polite and said "I'm really busy," and I told him I needed to go and left. I haven't see him in awhile, but if I do, I don't even wave anymore. It got creepy to me.

Today, he sees me walking and he's in his car. He literally drives on the other side of the street and pulls up alongside me. I kept walking, he rolls down his window and says, "I don't want to bother you but I want to ask you to dinner." I said an abrupt "No!" and kept on walking. He literally put his foot on the gas and drove away fast.

Now, I'm just nervous about it. I have never led this man on for any reason, and he won't leave me alone. A friend said today, "he's probably just lonely," well so was Norman Bates in "Psycho!" If he's lonely, he needs to go to the senior center and meet a nice lady his own age. It's ridiculous to keep pursuing someone so much younger, it is creepy! He's a retired man who lives alone and thinks I'm interested in dating him.

These older men just don't get it! I know they have their fantasies about a younger woman and all, but it's gross. It's a shame that a young woman can't just be neighborly without a man thinking she wants to go out with him. For me, it's his over the top attempts that make me nervous, and the way he drove away like a man scorned or something.

Anyone ever have this issue? Maybe he needs to lay off the Viagra.

OC FRESH · ‎03-24-2010

He's disgusting. What makes old men think they have anything to offer someone so much younger?

I hope you don't stop wearing your shorts because of that idiot.

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

I won't change anything about my walk except not walking past his home anymore. Yet today he saw me on a different street. When I walk, I do it for fitness and never stop to talk to anyone. I thought his comment in the store was just plain weird. It's like that was where his mind was at... what I was wearing on my walks. Plus, when he handed me his phone number, he was literally running after me because I walk very fast. It was comical. I kept wondering what neighbors looking out their window were thinking of his behavior, running after a young woman.

Luckily, he doesn't know where I live or my name. But, I'm being very cautious when I walk now that he's not following me.

It's just so unnerving. Lonely or not, it's not right.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

you probably should have told him you are in a relationship.....maybe that would have given him the message.

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betteb · ‎03-09-2010

First let me say, I know what you mean, they are everywhere ${#emotions_dlg.scared}$

And now, let me say, I really hope you carry some pepper spray or something, because he sounds a little bit cray-cray.

And now for the joke ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

${#emotions_dlg.scared}$ ${#emotions_dlg.laugh}$

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Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

I only walk during the daylight hours... so hopefully he won't do anything out in the open.

I did think about the relationship excuse, but now I want him to know I'm tired of it and his behavior is unacceptable.

If he bothers me anymore, I'll call the police. I have his name (he wrote it with his number), his phone number and address.

VanSleepy · ‎10-05-2010

The first time he said anything, I would have said I am married even if I wasn't. If he kept bothering me after that, I would find a new route nowhere near his house. I stopped going to my dry cleaner because of something creepy he said to me!

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

you were nice and smiled at him, then you interacted with him in the store. He views you as receptive. he enjoys the chase.

older men don't have a lot to lose, they love to flirt. don't smile or look at him. Get a wedding set for any future pests.

jessa · ‎04-19-2013

OP I remember your threads in the Among Friends board about troubles setting boundaries with your neighbor.........do you maybe have a problem saying no to people in a way they know you mean business? Maybe you're too nice to everybody and then they take advantage? This guy sounds creepy, I'm sorta scared for you.