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terrier3
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Did I do the Right Thing?

‎10-21-2014 05:41 PM

I thought of this while reading the post on wedding rings.

When my uncle died at 68, my aunt put his wedding ring on and never took it off again.

She had arthritis and her wedding set and his ring went over her knuckle.

When she passed 10 years later, the funeral director told me he would remove the rings. I told him to leave them on her hand and bury her with them.

They were nice rings - in a platinum setting.

I wear her high school ring on my pinkie every day for luck - but I thought she should never be separated from the rings that meant so much to her.

Was that foolish of me????

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LyndaGee
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Re: Did I do the Right Thing?

‎10-21-2014 05:45 PM

You were close to her, so you would know what she would've wanted.

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minkbunny
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‎10-21-2014 05:47 PM

I left my late husband's wedding band on him when he was buried, 18k etched white gold. He loved the ring and said he never wanted to take it off.

He never did. (we were married 34 years)

To answer your question, I think you did a very loving thing. The last thing you could do for your aunt.

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beckyb1012
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‎10-21-2014 05:48 PM

No it was lovely, from your heart.

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."
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HisElk
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‎10-21-2014 05:50 PM

IMO, you knew what was important to her and you did the right thing. No, I don't think it was foolish at all.

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MomOf4
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‎10-21-2014 05:52 PM

What you did was very kind and thoughtful Terrier. I'm sure your aunt would have appreciated it.

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tansy
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Re: Did I do the Right Thing?

‎10-21-2014 05:53 PM

I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.
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terrier3
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‎10-21-2014 05:55 PM

On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

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tansy
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‎10-21-2014 05:59 PM

On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:
On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

Good for you! I was worried bringing up the subject of possible theft.
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sylviahomeatlast
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‎10-21-2014 06:00 PM

absolute right thing to honor their life together--
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