Would you do something nice if it might make the person feel bad?

No I would not send a gift.

Probably not. I'd be more concerned over her and her reaction than in my enjoyment in giving the gift.

Good question!

I wouldn't. It could cause hurt feelings & anyway the 1 yr old won't know who did or didn't give gifts.Maybe think about why you want to give it,what's the real purpose & is it worth it? (:

On 4/16/2014 voyager1980 said:

I wouldn't. It could cause hurt feelings & anyway the 1 yr old won't know who did or didn't give gifts.Maybe think about why you want to give it,what's the real purpose & is it worth it? (:

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I do not see anything wrong with sending a small gift for a baby's first birthday. Sometimes people do not extend invitations for fear some will think it is nothing more than a gift grab.

Could your DD offer the gift since she is closer to the child?

No! You'd only be making yourself feel good.

I think people only invite very close family and friends for the 1st birthday parties. I don't see how it could possibly make the mother feel embarrassed in any way. I think it's thoughtful that you want to, but I don't think *I* would send a gift to someone I did not personally know.

On 4/16/2014 voyager1980 said:

I wouldn't. It could cause hurt feelings & anyway the 1 yr old won't know who did or didn't give gifts.Maybe think about why you want to give it,what's the real purpose & is it worth it? (:

I enjoy shopping and, since it was baby's 1st b'day, it seemed extra special. I picked up a couple things several weeks ago but they can be returned.