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What do you value about yourself and others?

Started 1386166999.98 in Viewpoints | Last reply 1386363744.72 by AnikaBrodie

The are you ..... ? threads made me wonder, what do people value about themselves and others. I do not put value on things like being pretty or petite or thin. I place value on things I feel are much more important - the content of your character (as MLK so eloquently stated).It is certainly not fair - IMO - to value things that a person has no control over like if they are or are not smart or pretty - but to value if they are honest, fair, kind, ethical etc. is much more on my radar. I also think that people who place value on superficial things like being pretty or stylish will have a hard time as they age and those things fade away, as they do for everyone.

When faced with senseless drama, spiteful criticism or misguided opinions walking away is the best way to defend yourself.To respond with anger is an endorsement of their attitude. -Dodinsky

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serenity4e­ver1386167214.652543 PostsRegistered 11/4/2013
I just replied on the now deleted thread that those threads are still more interesting than drama threads. Strange the moderation here. As far as beauty is concerned, it may attract us initially but personality can be far more important than looks when it comes to friendship.

Victoriann­na1386167774.027101 PostsRegistered 12/3/2013
On 12/4/2013 happy housewife said:

The are you ..... ? threads made me wonder, what do people value about themselves and others. I do not put value on things like being pretty or petite or thin. I place value on things I feel are much more important - the content of your character (as MLK so eloquently stated).It is certainly not fair - IMO - to value things that a person has no control over like if they are or are not smart or pretty - but to value if they are honest, fair, kind, ethical etc. is much more on my radar. I also think that people who place value on superficial things like being pretty or stylish will have a hard time as they age and those things fade away, as they do for everyone.

Very nice post.

I value the same things but I'll go a step further, I aspire to be those things as well. I can't expect anything from anyone unless I'm willing to practice and perfect those qualities myself.

Ever felt an angel’s breath in the gentle breeze? A teardrop in the falling rain? Hear a whisper amongst the rustle of leaves? Or been kissed by a lone snowflake? Nature is an angel’s favorite hiding place. ~Terri Guillemets

deepwaterd­otter1386171583.26713971 PostsRegistered 9/1/2005America's Dairyland

Resourcefulness.

"If we show up, We gon' show out Smoother than a fresh jar o' Skippy." - Bruno Mars

scotttie1386171770.03742054 PostsRegistered 6/15/2006

Kindness goes without saying.

Honesty and a sense of humor.

"Oh wad some power the giftie gie us To see oursel's as others see us!
--Robert Burns

:-) :-) :D :D
still Scottie




bathina1386171982.7675750 PostsRegistered 2/25/2010

Intelligence, empathy and a good work ethic (no matter what the work).

"I didn't do anything to support the Sandy Hook people and now I'm living with the consequences." Richard Martinez

croemer1386172470.24380346 PostsRegistered 1/29/2009

Sense of humor, mixed with kindness.

Peace in my life, I have not always had that.

Security.

I try to take in those moments that are special because it is easy to not realize what a special moment they are.

"“First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Suzy Snowf­lake1386172830.953534 PostsRegistered 5/14/2013Swirling gently thru the air, I visit you.
I value a good nights sleep!

straykatz1386173075.679443 PostsRegistered 6/13/2007

Happy Housewife...nice post!

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Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

happy hous­ewife1386176925.78334389 PostsRegistered 1/4/2007
On 12/4/2013 straykatz said:

Happy Housewife...nice post!

TY

When faced with senseless drama, spiteful criticism or misguided opinions walking away is the best way to defend yourself.To respond with anger is an endorsement of their attitude. -Dodinsky

RetRN1386177824.811756 PostsRegistered 10/1/2013

I value kindness. As for material things, they can be gone in an instant (tornadoes, hurricanes, fires, floods, etc.). People who are thoughtful and caring rate high on my list.

Nice post hh.

Brinklii1386178032.15310297 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004Northern WI

I value the person's character and a positive outlook on life.

A tongue has no bones, yet it is strong enough to break a heart. Be careful with your words.

hckynut1386183498.61721281 PostsRegistered 5/20/2006Nebraska

Honestly is at the top of my list.


hckynut(john)




Reiki6041386183878.6471871 PostsRegistered 10/22/2008nyc
Intelligence...............integrity................honor........,,,compassion

growing old is mandatory \growing wise is optional

banjo1386198759.485475 PostsRegistered 6/16/2006Nebraska

I value, kindness, compassion, understanding, love for animals as well as humans. I also value honesty and respect for all.

The way you speak of others does not define who they are, it defines who you are!

MrsLorraine1386212973.9033995 PostsRegistered 7/5/2012

Honesty, kindness, and integrity.

GCR181386213101.3937486 PostsRegistered 7/3/2013
On 12/4/2013 MrsLorraine said:

Honesty, kindness, and integrity.

ITA

Irshgrl312­011386214008.56717246 PostsRegistered 3/14/2006

I value a sense of humor, positivity, honesty, a good work ethic, kindness, empathy, kindness and empathy towards animals, intelligence, common sense and loyalty.

I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them. Narddog

Marienkaef­er21386214196.229922 PostsRegistered 1/10/2007Beautiful San Juan Islands

I value sincerity, dependability, reliability. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Be real. Be yourself.

.

"Though she be but little, she is fierce"--
A Midsummer Night's Dream

cody21386218134.9377139 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004
On 12/4/2013 beammeupscottie said:

Kindness goes without saying.

Honesty and a sense of humor.

Me too, in that order!

Lucky charm1386218503.017900 PostsRegistered 2/29/2008
An observation....you seem to dislike 'pretty' women.

Life's a beach!

blahblahva­mpemerblah1386218517.836860 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I look for general depth of character (integrity, fairness...etc.), humor, intelligence, and as I've discovered the hard way, hygiene.

"It's a foot in the door..." Hillary on net neutrality.

mamaslittl­epotato1386219622.9313329 PostsRegistered 3/7/2007New Jersey

Compassion, empathy, kindness, trustworthiness, sense of humor



You are such a good friend that if both of us were on a sinking ship and there was only one life jacket......I'd miss you heaps and think of you often.

mamaslittl­epotato1386219696.27713329 PostsRegistered 3/7/2007New Jersey
On 12/4/2013 blahblahvampemerblah said:

I look for general depth of character (integrity, fairness...etc.), humor, intelligence, and as I've discovered the hard way, hygiene.

LOL!



You are such a good friend that if both of us were on a sinking ship and there was only one life jacket......I'd miss you heaps and think of you often.

TN halfback1386239601.882703 PostsRegistered 1/20/2008

Respect! It covers a whole lot of territory & without it, in any relationship, you are doomed!

mominohio1386254226.255433 PostsRegistered 8/8/2010

OP, I agree with all those you listed as well as the other posts here, but would add personal responsibility. There is so little of that these days. I could care less about your race, religion, se#ual orientation, or political views, if you truly have a sense of personal responsibility and live your life to show that. It seems that today, so many are looking to blame everything in life on someone/something else, and not stand up and take charge of their own lives and commitments.

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