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Do you wish every woman a happy mothers day?

Started 1368381174.937 in Viewpoints | Last reply 1368744160.517 by geminigirl

People seem to say that to every female, even if they don't know you, and I am wondering if it is painful to women who want kids, but don't have them for whatever reason,........not met the right guy yet, can't conceive, not financially ready, etc.?

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bathina1368381282.495750 PostsRegistered 2/25/2010

I wish every woman a Happy Mothers day. Most women I know do plenty of "mothering" whether they have their own children or not.

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Jannabelle1368381407.3217944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 bathina said:

I wish every woman a Happy Mothers day. Most women I know do plenty of "mothering" whether they have their own children or not.

Yes most do, but I am not sure they see themselves as mothers, but that is probably why people wish them a happy mothers day. I actually saw a happy mothers day wish for single dads today, since they do it all too.

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deepwaterd­otter1368381650.86312883 PostsRegistered 9/1/2005America's Dairyland

If I know that a woman, such as myself, is not a parent, I do not.

"Take your makeup off, Let your hair down. Take a breath, Look into the mirror at yourself. Don't you like you? 'Cause I like you! - "Try" by Colbie Caillat

gidgetgoes­hawaiian1368381738.3510309 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004
I don't at all.

tansy1368381768.4627551 PostsRegistered 4/19/2005
I was surprised when the home health nurse wished me a happy mother's day as we were hanging up. I just wished her the same.

wookie1368381777.0178604 PostsRegistered 4/30/2006

No, I don't wish someone Happy Mothers Day unless I know they are a mom, for a whole host of reasons.

chickenbutt1368381865.18724321 PostsRegistered 1/16/2006chickentown

No, I don't. I remember going to things, or even out to dinner, and having people I didn't even know say that to me and it was just perplexing.

All I knew from mothers was having had a horrible mother from h e ll for whom I had no respect, but a lot of hatred. Thankfully, I never had kids. So when people said it to me I just tried to smile, say thank you, and be gracious.

Some people just go overboard and it's not about anybody else. It's about THEM trying to prove to everybody, and themselves, that they are always the best person.

I only say stuff that I really mean.

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Jannabelle1368382126.8117944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 chickenbutt said:

No, I don't. I remember going to things, or even out to dinner, and having people I didn't even know say that to me and it was just perplexing.

All I knew from mothers was having had a horrible mother from h e ll for whom I had no respect, but a lot of hatred. Thankfully, I never had kids. So when people said it to me I just tried to smile, say thank you, and be gracious.

Some people just go overboard and it's not about anybody else. It's about THEM trying to prove to everybody, and themselves, that they are always the best person.

I only say stuff that I mean.

I'm so sorry, CB, every child should have a happy child hood and grow up feeling safe and loved, I wished I could make it so....but you are very gracious to say thank you, most people don't mean to hurt.

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LeoGrl1368382182.6472124 PostsRegistered 9/17/2007

I work in retail and yesterday I noticed that just the men shoppers were wishing Happy Mother's Day to us in the store. We were so busy and at times it was so chaotic that the first man that wished me a Happy Mother's Day, I answered back, "thank you and to you too." {#emotions_dlg.lol} I burst out laughing and said, wait, I mean wish your wife for me a Happy Mother's Day.

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chickenbutt1368382420.54724321 PostsRegistered 1/16/2006chickentown
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 chickenbutt said:

No, I don't. I remember going to things, or even out to dinner, and having people I didn't even know say that to me and it was just perplexing.

All I knew from mothers was having had a horrible mother from h e ll for whom I had no respect, but a lot of hatred. Thankfully, I never had kids. So when people said it to me I just tried to smile, say thank you, and be gracious.

Some people just go overboard and it's not about anybody else. It's about THEM trying to prove to everybody, and themselves, that they are always the best person.

I only say stuff that I mean.

I'm so sorry, CB, every child should have a happy child hood and grow up feeling safe and loved, I wished I could make it so....but you are very gracious to say thank you, most people don't mean to hurt.

Thank You for your kind thoughts. :) Yes, I know that most people mean well so it is for me to get over myself and be gracious. Some people can drive you crazy but I'd rather just be nice and move on. hehe

Bippity boppity BOOYAH!

Jannabelle1368382557.46317944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 chickenbutt said:
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 chickenbutt said:

No, I don't. I remember going to things, or even out to dinner, and having people I didn't even know say that to me and it was just perplexing.

All I knew from mothers was having had a horrible mother from h e ll for whom I had no respect, but a lot of hatred. Thankfully, I never had kids. So when people said it to me I just tried to smile, say thank you, and be gracious.

Some people just go overboard and it's not about anybody else. It's about THEM trying to prove to everybody, and themselves, that they are always the best person.

I only say stuff that I mean.

I'm so sorry, CB, every child should have a happy child hood and grow up feeling safe and loved, I wished I could make it so....but you are very gracious to say thank you, most people don't mean to hurt.

Thank You for your kind thoughts. :) Yes, I know that most people mean well so it is for me to get over myself and be gracious. Some people can drive you crazy but I'd rather just be nice and move on. hehe

Sounds like you do that very well,lol.

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Jannabelle1368382642.2817944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 LeoGrl said:

I work in retail and yesterday I noticed that just the men shoppers were wishing Happy Mother's Day to us in the store. We were so busy and at times it was so chaotic that the first man that wished me a Happy Mother's Day, I answered back, "thank you and to you too." {#emotions_dlg.lol} I burst out laughing and said, wait, I mean wish your wife for me a Happy Mother's Day.

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That's funny.....{#emotions_dlg.laugh}

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NoelSeven1368383255.10318652 PostsRegistered 3/9/2010

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

Do for others what you would have them do for you.
The Golden Rule

Yorkieonmy­Pillow1368383312.3471024 PostsRegistered 1/13/2013SouthEastern USA

I don't wish anyone a HMD unless I know they're a mother.........



Chalet1368383508.967502 PostsRegistered 2/3/2013

I don't either if I don't know the person. To say it just to say it seems insincere, IMO.

Jannabelle1368383828.43317944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

That is what I was wondering about, the woman who desperately wants a baby, but feels like her time is running out,....or maybe the woman who lost a child, .....I don't think people mean to hurt, but they might not realizing what they are doing.

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NoelSeven1368384226.21718652 PostsRegistered 3/9/2010
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

That is what I was wondering about, the woman who desperately wants a baby, but feels like her time is running out,....or maybe the woman who lost a child, .....I don't think people mean to hurt, but they might not realizing what they are doing.

I think you're right, Jannabelle Smile

Do for others what you would have them do for you.
The Golden Rule

Jannabelle1368387899.77317944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

That is what I was wondering about, the woman who desperately wants a baby, but feels like her time is running out,....or maybe the woman who lost a child, .....I don't think people mean to hurt, but they might not realizing what they are doing.

I think you're right, Jannabelle Smile

Thanks,Noel, Smile

No longer a bug! ; )

Jannabelle1368387900.76717944 PostsRegistered 1/13/2008
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

That is what I was wondering about, the woman who desperately wants a baby, but feels like her time is running out,....or maybe the woman who lost a child, .....I don't think people mean to hurt, but they might not realizing what they are doing.

I think you're right, Jannabelle Smile

Thanks,Noel, Smile

No longer a bug! ; )

gig27501368388118.152659 PostsRegistered 10/21/2007right here, right now....

Only wish those that I know are moms a "HMD."

birddrops1368391054.7631225 PostsRegistered 7/16/2010
On 5/12/2013 chickenbutt said:

No, I don't. I remember going to things, or even out to dinner, and having people I didn't even know say that to me and it was just perplexing.

All I knew from mothers was having had a horrible mother from h e ll for whom I had no respect, but a lot of hatred. Thankfully, I never had kids. So when people said it to me I just tried to smile, say thank you, and be gracious.

Some people just go overboard and it's not about anybody else. It's about THEM trying to prove to everybody, and themselves, that they are always the best person.

I only say stuff that I really mean.

I am so sorry about your mother chickenbutt. While I do know things like this happen, I just can't imagine not loving and nurturing the greatest gift ever - one's child. I hope you are able to find joy in your life now.

I say Happy Mother's Day to those who I know are mothers, furkids included.

colliemom31368391303.9616227 PostsRegistered 9/7/2010

No.

haddon91368391508.3076165 PostsRegistered 10/18/2005Bucks County, Pa
On 5/12/2013 Jannabelle said:
On 5/12/2013 NoelSeven said:

No, not unless I know the person. Why would you? It's a painful day for some and there are also plenty of women that never had children by choice.

That is what I was wondering about, the woman who desperately wants a baby, but feels like her time is running out,....or maybe the woman who lost a child, .....I don't think people mean to hurt, but they might not realizing what they are doing.

I agree!! I don't wish every woman a HMD. It seems that though you might mean well it could backfire and be hurtful.

suzyQ31368399168.6725129 PostsRegistered 3/15/2007

No, I don't.

The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story -- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

BlueCollar­Babe1368399421.410911 PostsRegistered 9/26/2007

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