How to refuse someone who invites herself to stay for a week at your house

geegerbee · ‎03-09-2010

My husband's cousin from out of state sort of invited herself over for an upcoming week. She wants to use my house as a base and then go to a city 2 hrs. away to see her sister. Her sister has only a 1 bedroom apt, so she can't stay there. I have only met this person a few times and don't really feel close enough to have to plan activities, meals etc for her, let alone clear away all the clutter I have. Is there a nice way to say "no?" I would probably be welcome at her condo if I ever wanted to visit her, but that isn't likely. By the way, my husband has passed away, so it would just be the 2 of us.

Tissyanne · ‎12-07-2012

I would tell her I had other plans and could not have company. I wouldn't hesitate.

cinebee · ‎03-22-2010

If she's allergic to cats get one. Quick! ;-) Honestly, I don't know. Very hard situation to be in.

HULAGIRL · ‎03-10-2010

Tell her that you would be happy to make a hotel reservation for her nearby, but it would not be convenient for you to have house guests at this time!

Colonel Meow · ‎05-25-2014

Why do you feel that you have to plan activities, meals, etc. for her? From what you posted it seems as though you will just be providing a crash pad, and she will busy herself with activities of her own choosing.

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

Tell her YOU have company that week.

colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

Did you like her when you met and saw her? You may want to join her if you did. If you don't want to just say it is not a good time and end it with "" maybe some other time"".

gazelle77 · ‎03-01-2013

On 7/31/2014 Tissyanne said: I would tell her I had other plans and could not have company. I wouldn't hesitate.

There you go, perfect solution. No explanation needed.

willdob3 · ‎11-01-2010

On 7/31/2014 gazelle77 said:
On 7/31/2014 Tissyanne said: I would tell her I had other plans and could not have company. I wouldn't hesitate.
There you go, perfect solution. No explanation needed.

Short & to the point. Do not give an explanation; she will find a way around any reason you give.