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03-24-2015 04:38 PM
Hello,
I thought I would post this in The Among Friends forum because I need some sensitivity in response to my post. My dad's new friend is a female. My mother passed seven years ago and he has been very lonely. I met his new female friend for the first time a couple of weeks ago when my dad fell ill. After my dad began to recover, she began telling me that dad was talking about making some changes to the décor because the house reminds him so much of my mom. She suggested that my sister and I paint or make some changes to the house. We've known how dad feels about this for some time. However, he has not asked us to make any changes to the décor. I feel that her comment was out of place. After all, she was our mom and it's hard for us too. I think that she should have left it alone or suggested to my dad that he ask for our help . It appears that she really does care about dad. She drives him to his appointments and gets him out of the house as much as possible. I think that she is concerned about him mood. I am just having a difficult time with another person entering into the picture who feels like an outsider to me. I don't know how to respond to her. She also made a statement about me not helping my dad with every little thing because he will come to expect it. My dad is 86 now and she appears to be considerably younger. I just don't know how to take her. She's been staying at my dad's house more and more. Consequently, I need to figure out how to adjust to her. I know that things would be much more difficult for him and us if she weren't in his life. Should I just grin and bear it? I feel like in some ways things will be better. However, some things will be more difficult.
03-24-2015 05:35 PM
Furry, if you and your sister have known what your dad thinks about the house reminding him too much about your mother, maybe he mentioned it to his new friend and she's trying to let you know nicely that he really wants a change.
03-24-2015 05:47 PM
03-24-2015 05:52 PM
Welcome her because he obviously wants her around. Let him have what he wants. Ask him what he wants changed in the house. If he's 86 and is sick already, the kindest thing to do for him is fulfill his wishes.
03-24-2015 06:10 PM
That you so much! Your advice is well taken. I will make every effort to do what makes him happy.
03-24-2015 06:41 PM
03-24-2015 07:10 PM
On 3/24/2015 hckynut said: If your dad has all his mental faculties working normally(for him) and it is his home? I know I would not make his business, my business, unless I was asked by him.
I agree.
03-24-2015 08:01 PM
I would question the motives of this "considerably younger" woman who has befriended my father. However, I would be polite and I'd approach the subject of redecorating with my father. Maybe repainting the rooms is all he would like.
03-24-2015 08:11 PM
03-24-2015 08:21 PM
Also agree.
And you don't have to take orders from this lady. Communicate directly with your dad.
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