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10-19-2014 05:36 PM
I can't stand my mother and father-in-law. We could not be more opposite in how I was raised versus how they parent. It's amazing I'm married to their son. We have 3 children and the biggest flaw in our marriage is his parents. I can't step out of my own anger and frustration to see clearly anymore.
How do u deal with people that if you saw them tomorrow, next week, next month, 2 years from now, it would be too soon?
10-19-2014 05:51 PM
Eeeks.........How does your DH feel about your (both of you) situation? Sometimes it is a good idea to just let them fall off your shoulders, or whatever that saying is. Do they live near you? Need more info.
10-19-2014 05:53 PM
On 10/19/2014 ROMARY said:Eeeks.........How does your DH feel about your (both of you) situation? Sometimes it is a good idea to just let them fall off your shoulders, or whatever that saying is. Do they live near you? Need more info.
They live about 45 minutes away. We see them 2-3 times a month when they are not traveling. It is a sore spot between my husband and I.
10-19-2014 05:55 PM
d/p
10-19-2014 06:02 PM
I had some bad inlaws the last time. While I can be pleasant and kind around people I don't like, it was hard year after year to be nice to awful people. His mother was sweet and kind like him, and his father and sister were just mean, ugly people.
I'd just do what I have to do and enjoy my time away from them.
Fortunately, now, I don't have inlaws. His family is all dead, and they were before I met him. He doesn't have to worry about inlaws either because my horrible so-called mother wrote me off about 10 years ago and my father moved almost across the country so I only have the occasional phone conversation with him. He has met them both and did like my father but he saw through my so-called mother in a hot second so he doesn't miss her or even ever ask about her. She could be dead for all I know at this point.
10-19-2014 06:02 PM
O.K. Two or three times a month is better than living in the same neighborhood or town, where they would be dropping by every day or a few times a week. If you can focus on that, It might help a tiny bit. How do your children feel about their grandma? I am just trying to figure out something that might help you with your situation............maybe other posters will have better suggestions. Wishing you the very best, and I might post later on (as soon as I figure out how to remove whatever is stuck underneath my apostrophe key).
Good luck to you.
10-19-2014 06:10 PM
10-19-2014 06:18 PM
If you can't stand them, let your hubby do the visiting.
10-19-2014 07:28 PM
On 10/19/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:If you can't stand them, let your hubby do the visiting.
This is good advice.
Let your DH travel to their home. Without you. Assuming your children are older than toddlers he should be able to take them. Or better yet, only one child at a time. This week when they visit, take the oldest. Next week, take the youngest.
He can stop and pick up a hot meal carry to take with him or a pie and stay for coffee.
If he INSISTS you go, put a time limit. Stay for 60-90 minutes. Take 2 cars if necessary or leave and tell him to call you when he's ready to get picked up and go.
10-19-2014 07:45 PM
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