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Mr. and Mrs. or John and Jane Doe

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Question about wedding invitations.

The wedding is vintage/casual and the invitations reflect that, also no inner envelope.

Would you address them as

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

or

John and Jane Doe

Thanks

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suelinea1337135065.8731279 PostsRegistered 4/12/2012CO

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KatherineW1337138644.22328130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God

Mr and Mrs man's FULL name......also the words " street" "avenue" or "lane" should be written out in full...... AS should the state. No abbreviations.




BaileyandB­ella1337138870.575641 PostsRegistered 2/6/2010
On 5/15/2012 KatherineW said:

Mr and Mrs man's FULL name......also the words " street" "avenue" or "lane" should be written out in full...... AS should the state. No abbreviations.

I am writing out all the streets, states etc.

I was just concerned that Mr. and Mrs. seemed too formal for a casual wedding.

PpprMintPa­tty1337139080.0118734 PostsRegistered 8/7/2007Outside our Nation's Capitol

Mr. & Mrs.

It's still a wedding invitation, has no bearing on the formality or informality of the day itself.

~Formerly known as Danny~

Clover291337141518.69310497 PostsRegistered 1/19/2008

What would the bride/groom prefer? Someone from the younger generation might feel differently than us middle aged fogeys {#emotions_dlg.biggrin} The guests are mostly going to be from their age group, presumably?

BaileyandB­ella1337141792.1235641 PostsRegistered 2/6/2010

The ages are about half and half.

She did list the older couples as Mr. and Mrs. and the younger ones by first names....LOL

Brandiw1337166976.403884 PostsRegistered 12/7/2011
I would absolutely opt for Mr and Mrs John Doe.... My question is...how do you address a widow ? Is it Mrs John Doe or Mrs Jane Doe ?

brii1337168387.8623204 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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KatherineW1337168789.85328130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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Ms John Doe

Mr. John Doe ( separate lines)

address

city and State zip. again no abbreviations.




brii1337168908.20723204 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008
On 5/16/2012 KatherineW said:
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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Ms John Doe

Mr. John Doe ( separate lines)

address

city and State zip. again no abbreviations.

Thanks. I never knew that.

KatherineW1337169019.5928130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 5/16/2012 Brandiw said: I would absolutely opt for Mr and Mrs John Doe.... My question is...how do you address a widow ? Is it Mrs John Doe or Mrs Jane Doe ?

Widows are addressed as Mrs John WIlliam Doe ( or whatever). Never address a letter or invitation to her name alone ( Mrs. John Doe) unless she is divorced and that would be Mrs (for social gatherings and Ms. for casual gatherings) Ex. Mrs. Susan James Smith or Ms. Judy Adams Johnson.




KatherineW1337169068.45728130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 5/16/2012 brii said:
On 5/16/2012 KatherineW said:
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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Ms John Doe

Mr. John Doe ( separate lines)

address

city and State zip. again no abbreviations.

Thanks. I never knew that.

You are every welcome. That has been drilled in my head for 30 years!!!!!




Maggie Nol­ia1337171241.8214669 PostsRegistered 1/30/2006
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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Ms. Jane Smith (assuming her last name isn't also Doe since they're not married)

Mr. John Doe

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Maggie Nol­ia1337171301.48314669 PostsRegistered 1/30/2006

Mr. and Mrs. or John and Jane Doe

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Buzzards fly in packs. Eagles soar alone.

Pray for the USA.


"Let's roll." ~ Todd Beamer, 9/11/01.

BaileyandB­ella1337178083.225641 PostsRegistered 2/6/2010

Miss VS Ms. for a young woman??

LImom1337184260.81382 PostsRegistered 9/1/2008The Gold Coast
On 5/16/2012 KatherineW said:
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

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Ms John Doe

Mr. John Doe ( separate lines)

address

city and State zip. again no abbreviations.

sorry, the names are to be on one line: Mr John Doe and Miss Jane Smith

clemintine1337184571.1918221 PostsRegistered 11/5/2007C.C.
On 5/16/2012 Maggie Nolia said

Ms. Jane Smith (assuming her last name isn't also Doe since they're not married)

Mr. John Doe

I ALWAYS put the male's name first. Don't know why, figure it's what I learned in along the path in school.

OR - the female first if SHE is the connection to the family and he is the 'guest' of the guest.

Yikes, no wonder it's a question. Is it semantics, personal preference, or IS there a RULE?

FUTURE1337205146.71711606 PostsRegistered 5/18/2008
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

FUTURE1337205259.0811606 PostsRegistered 5/18/2008
FYI--" Miss" is single. "Ms" is neutral. Can be used for women 20s plus in age, or divorced women.

Hildegarde­ Withers1337205273.02311690 PostsRegistered 11/9/2011
On 5/16/2012 clemintine said:
On 5/16/2012 Maggie Nolia said

Ms. Jane Smith (assuming her last name isn't also Doe since they're not married)

Mr. John Doe

I ALWAYS put the male's name first. Don't know why, figure it's what I learned in along the path in school.

Same here, Clementine. It would look strange to reverse it.

KatherineW1337205321.27328130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 5/16/2012 LImom said:
On 5/16/2012 KatherineW said:
On 5/16/2012 brii said:

How do you address a couple that aren't married?

Last edited on 5/16/2012

Ms John Doe

Mr. John Doe ( separate lines)

address

city and State zip. again no abbreviations.

sorry, the names are to be on one line: Mr John Doe and Miss Jane Smith

Not the way I was taught. But I think it is perfectly acceptable either way.

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KatherineW1337205476.29728130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God

(Ms) is only suppose to be used in a business situation IFIFIFIFIFIF the woman is divorced. Invitations to her child's wedding would be Mrs. Judy Wood Smith....if it was a business function it could be just Ms. Judy W. Smith.




KatherineW1337206221.54328130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God

Sorry........the couples names do not go on one line. I am guessing the 3rd column is for inside envelopes.

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Unmarried couples who do not live together

</td> <td align="center" valign="middle" width="33%" height="86">

Miss Jane Jones

*the only name on the outer should be the person who lives at the address.

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Miss Jones
Mr. Davis

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Unmarried couples who live together

</td> <td align="center" valign="middle" width="33%" height="56">

Miss Jane Jones
Mr. Carl Davis

</td> <td align="center" valign="middle" width="33%" height="56">

Miss Jones
Mr. Davis

</td> </tr> </tbody> </table>




KatherineW1337207104.79728130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
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How do you address an invitation to an unmarried couple living together?

A.

When you're inviting a couple who lives together -- or a married couple with different last names, or an engaged couple for that matter -- list each name on a separate line on the outer envelope, alphabetically by last name, like so:

Mr. Richard Buxton
Ms. Ariel Dekovic

Put the names on the same line on the inner envelope, sans first names:




KatherineW1337207215.7328130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 5/16/2012 Futureslp said: FYI--" Miss" is single. "Ms" is neutral. Can be used for women 20s plus in age, or divorced women.

Not in formal situations for divorced woman.........Ms. is appropriate for business situations only.




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