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Do you know couples who bicker constantly?

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I know several couples who bicker constantly and in front of anyone and everyone. Maybe they think it's no big deal? They make it very uncomfortable to be around them.

Do you find this normal or endearing? I see lots of couples portrayed this way in movies and sitcoms too.

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kdgn1326988484.4612853 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I find it uncomfortable.

My neighbors were like this. I guess he finally decided it was uncomfortable for him too and he took a walk.

~SunDee~1326988496.879683 PostsRegistered 6/7/2010

YES! one couple we know does it all the time,makes us very uncomfortable. It's makes me wonder how they stay married,could be that's all they know.

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4KICKS1326988598.4571996 PostsRegistered 11/11/2006Sunny AZ

I DID know a lot of them who bickered constantly, but a LOT of them are now divorced.

That being said, SOME of them are still married and seem to THRIVE on that constant back and forth bickering in front of others. Witnessing it is very uncomfortable.

Makes you wonder what goes on when they are ALONE.

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straykatz1326988612.458304 PostsRegistered 6/13/2007

Yes and in most cases they eventually parted ways.

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JJsMom1326988622.719781 PostsRegistered 10/25/2007

Good to know I'm not alone.

The thing is ... the bickering couples have been married forever and I'm sure they love each other (at least I hope). I just think the constant bickering and put-downs would wear me down over the years.

brii1326988656.45321284 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008

Yes, we know one couple that do this. It's so annoying. I dread being around them.

They must talk like that a lot at home because their kids are starting to act like that now.

I wonder why people stay married when they don't even really like each other.

Lunagrl1326988734.8631502 PostsRegistered 10/22/2011

I believe there are couples who just relate to each other in this way. It's normal for them- maybe their parents were also "Bickersons".

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LipstickDi­va1326988751.7636699 PostsRegistered 4/22/2005On the Lake in Ohio

I find it extremely uncomfortable. I have relatives who bicker constantly and it gets very old.

My DH's best friend is dating a womand and she starts an all out fight with him everytime we go somewhere. I finally told DH no more of us going with them unless it's a group thing and others will be there. I can't take anymore. LOL

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SweetWood ­Max1326988761.62712231 PostsRegistered 9/7/2010

Yes, my parents did this but only around us...aren't we lucky. Sometimes I would comment to them to knock it off, but that is what they did.

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deepwaterd­otter1326989301.4412230 PostsRegistered 9/1/2005America's Dairyland

I did, until one of them died.

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Leah19641326990165.29451 PostsRegistered 8/23/2011New Castle

My aunt and uncle bickered all the time.Needless to say they were alone alot!

ratdog1111326990269.48714924 PostsRegistered 10/27/2008

I did. They were my friend's parents. They were funny!

I don't know how we got on the topic of bickering (probably my friend and her husband were fighting in front of all of us) and they said after so many years of marriage you don't even need a reason! It went something like:

wife: "He knows what he did to irritate!"

Husband: "Yeah well, if you wouldn't keep harping on me..."

w: "You never listen to me anyway ..."

h: "Listen? All I do is listen to your voice nag nag nag..."

Couple (looking at me smiling) : 'See!"

They were a riot! Married til Death did they part.

halfpint1326990456.92363876 PostsRegistered 7/12/2007

You have been listening. DH always has to add something else and it is usually the opposite. It was 50 years in November.

speedyindi­sguise1326990553.4378733 PostsRegistered 3/30/2009Atlanta, GA
On 1/19/2012 Maxs-Grandma said:

Yes, my parents did this but only around us...aren't we lucky. Sometimes I would comment to them to knock it off, but that is what they did.


Me too. My dad mostly pushes my mom's buttons. It's been really bothersome to me and my sisters our entire life and has always made us feel uncomfortable. My mom is such a good person and does so much for everyone. They've been married for almost 47 years. He appreciates her a lot more in their old age, but still it's not ideal and I feel my mom deserves a lot better. What are you gonna do?

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chrystaltr­ee1326990753.80311445 PostsRegistered 5/10/2010

Yes! I know two couples like that and it's hard to be around both couples. We've been friends for years, especially the guys, so we see them a lot. They snipe at each other, bicker and toss insults around. I think one couple is generally happy with each other, that's just how they relate to each other. I think the other two are "stuck" with each other and terribly unhappy. But divorce or separation isn't an option for them.

chickenbutt1326992993.3823422 PostsRegistered 1/16/2006chickentown

I have, in the past, known people who live in constant volatility. I couldn't live that way, that's for sure, and I also would prefer to not be subjected to it.

It seems like those should be private moments, but that's JMHO and I guess everybody doesn't feel that way. Either that or they are so used to acting like that they are totally oblivious to the rest of the world around them.

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ROMARY1326993126.97315174 PostsRegistered 4/28/2010

Years ago, I knew a mid-age++ couple who were continuously bickering "back and forth". One evening, they were in the back seat on our way to an event and I turned around and told them that they were acting like two-year old children. No more bickering (around me).

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Hildegarde­ Withers132699326311690 PostsRegistered 11/9/2011

I've known a few couples who looked & acted so happy with each other & they ended up getting divorced. You just never know.

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Noel71326993270.6134868 PostsRegistered 8/8/2007

I do. A couple we've known for years. The first time we met them they started in bickering in front of us. It totally shocked me, I'd never seen people do that in front of others before.

Years later, they still do it but it's calmed down a little in that he doesn't seem to respond much anymore. I don't think he's any better, just that he's run out of steam.

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Lynneuk1326999597.338160 PostsRegistered 11/3/2006

In my experience it is often the ones who act all lovey dovey in front of others who are faking it and end up splitting and the bickering couples who stay together.

raven-blac­kbird1327000464.46713635 PostsRegistered 1/2/2009California

actually..........I don't know anyone who bickers with their partner...........weird, I can't think of a single one................wait, did know one, they divorced.................raven

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wagnerdanc­er1327001208.0474626 PostsRegistered 4/28/2008

Yes, and they've been married for 39 years and are STILL bickering!!!

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MyGirlsMom1327001273.1933422 PostsRegistered 12/5/2008
On 1/19/2012 JJsMom said:

I know several couples who bicker constantly and in front of anyone and everyone. Maybe they think it's no big deal? They make it very uncomfortable to be around them.

Do you find this normal or endearing? I see lots of couples portrayed this way in movies and sitcoms too.

Bickering or arguing? I know many couples who bicker - hang up your coat - don't leave the seat up - too much salt in the sauce...and everything works out in the end

On the other hand, you have arguers or fighters who constantly go at each other in public or private - that't not cool.

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wagnerdanc­er1327001348.764626 PostsRegistered 4/28/2008

Yes, and they've been married for 39 years and are STILL bickering!!!

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Seraphim1327005689.74362 PostsRegistered 10/19/2004FL

Yes I knew 2 couples who were awful. At each other constantly. We would be at dog shows and they would scream at each other. One couple divorced and one is still married.

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