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If someone gives you a gift to say "Thank you" for something you did for them.....

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should you write a thank you note? An acquaintance gave us a gift certificate to a restaurant for letting her park at our house this summer....not really a big deal to us. I'm leaning towards yes...... I'm just curious what most people do.

" Anybody ready for dessert?"

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Photo Don­na1318347449.46714146 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs

yes

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brii1318347513.14325951 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008

I would.

doxiemom 41318347564.28727472 PostsRegistered 12/30/2008NJ-FL

Hi Emma, Yes I would send a note, just letting them know you appreciate the gift certificate.

Holly Noel 7/11/97 1/22/11 RIP My Sweet Angel
Annie Oakley 12/7/00 - 8/26/12, Another Angel.








JJsMom1318347582.4219954 PostsRegistered 10/25/2007

I don't think it's necessary, and I wouldn't expect one.

Did they personally give you the GC, or did they mail it?

ETA: If they sent it, I would definitely acknowledge it through an e-mail or phone call, but I don't think a formal thank you card is necessary.

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-Hope-1318347676.207205 PostsRegistered 9/12/2011

A thank you for a thank you? Not necessary. Then she should send you a thank you card for thanking you for thanking her for the thank you.

VioletEyes1318347733.2313180 PostsRegistered 2/11/2009

I'm old school, Emma, and would send a short note but I know many would just think a thank-you in person is enough.

pegsue1318347740.79401 PostsRegistered 4/7/2005

My neighbors have had me take care of their animals when they are on vacation and have handed me a gift card as thanks. I tell them to their face thank you. I really wish they wouldn't do that though as I like to take care of animals and the rewards I get from the animals are good for me. But I do tell them thank you to their faces and I do not send a note-I kind of feel like that is overdoing it.

beach music1318347760.8129065 PostsRegistered 4/16/2007

of course one thanks one for a gift.

"don't get so tolerant that you tolerate intolerance." bill maher

-Hope-1318347844.14205 PostsRegistered 9/12/2011
On 10/11/2011 JJsMom said:

I don't think it's necessary, and I wouldn't expect one.

Did they personally give you the GC, or did they mail it?

ETA: If they sent it, I would definitely acknowledge it through an e-mail or phone call, but I don't think a formal thank you card is necessary.

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I agree.

Topaz Gem1318347913.57316420 PostsRegistered 10/31/2007Scenic New Hampshire

A thank you note is never the 'wrong' thing to do, so I would say yes. Taking that extra step to write a quick, thank you is a common courtesy that is often overlooked nowadays.

Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower. ~ Albert Camus








Magik Trix1318347947.48329 PostsRegistered 10/11/2011

yes

brii1318347977.9425951 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008
On 10/11/2011 -Hope- said:

A thank you for a thank you? Not necessary. Then she should send you a thank you card for thanking you for thanking her for the thank you.

It's not necessary to thank someone for a thank you note.

-Hope-1318347982.56205 PostsRegistered 9/12/2011
On 10/11/2011 Clon Dyke said:

yes

Banned again?{#emotions_dlg.rolleyes}

Its Better­ To Be Naughty1318348030.13376687 PostsRegistered 1/29/2009

Yes I would definitely write a thank note. It was very nice of you to do a favor for a friend and it was thoughtful of her to return your kindness by gifting you with a dinner certificate. I am a big believer in thank yous.

aka "croemer"

Emma Bunti­ng1318348032.7338606 PostsRegistered 3/26/2010

Thanks for all your responses......she did give the gift certificate to us in person....and we thanked her...told her she shouldn't have, etc...... It's weird, because I feel I should send a note because the amount was for $100....and as I said....we really didn't go out of our way at all. We have a huge field out back and have let many people use it to park on occasion. It's funny....because people give us "thank you" gifts all the time (My husband is very generous and gives away a lot of lobsters throughout the summer)..... I never consider writing a thank you note for a bottle of wine of Grand Marnier....so why am I considering it for this??? Because it's more generous??? hmmmmm....it's just making me think....

" Anybody ready for dessert?"

Magik Trix1318348100.16329 PostsRegistered 10/11/2011
On 10/11/2011 -Hope- said:
On 10/11/2011 Clon Dyke said:

yes

Banned again?{#emotions_dlg.rolleyes}

Kiss

-Hope-1318348306.55205 PostsRegistered 9/12/2011
On 10/11/2011 Emma Bunting said:

Thanks for all your responses......she did give the gift certificate to us in person....and we thanked her...told her she shouldn't have, etc...... It's weird, because I feel I should send a note because the amount was for $100....and as I said....we really didn't go out of our way at all. We have a huge field out back and have let many people use it to park on occasion. It's funny....because people give us "thank you" gifts all the time (My husband is very generous and gives away a lot of lobsters throughout the summer)..... I never consider writing a thank you note for a bottle of wine of Grand Marnier....so why am I considering it for this??? Because it's more generous??? hmmmmm....it's just making me think....

Lobster, Grand Marnier, a huge field. {#emotions_dlg.blink} Is that you Martha Stewart? {#emotions_dlg.laugh} What would Martha do?

doxiemom 41318348659.33727472 PostsRegistered 12/30/2008NJ-FL
On 10/11/2011 Emma Bunting said:

Thanks for all your responses......she did give the gift certificate to us in person....and we thanked her...told her she shouldn't have, etc...... It's weird, because I feel I should send a note because the amount was for $100....and as I said....we really didn't go out of our way at all. We have a huge field out back and have let many people use it to park on occasion. It's funny....because people give us "thank you" gifts all the time (My husband is very generous and gives away a lot of lobsters throughout the summer)..... I never consider writing a thank you note for a bottle of wine of Grand Marnier....so why am I considering it for this??? Because it's more generous??? hmmmmm....it's just making me think....

Oh Emma, did you just say your hubby gives away lobsters? Could I be his friend? {#emotions_dlg.w00t}

Holly Noel 7/11/97 1/22/11 RIP My Sweet Angel
Annie Oakley 12/7/00 - 8/26/12, Another Angel.








Its Better­ To Be Naughty1318348861.08776687 PostsRegistered 1/29/2009
On 10/11/2011 doxiemom 4 said:
On 10/11/2011 Emma Bunting said:

Thanks for all your responses......she did give the gift certificate to us in person....and we thanked her...told her she shouldn't have, etc...... It's weird, because I feel I should send a note because the amount was for $100....and as I said....we really didn't go out of our way at all. We have a huge field out back and have let many people use it to park on occasion. It's funny....because people give us "thank you" gifts all the time (My husband is very generous and gives away a lot of lobsters throughout the summer)..... I never consider writing a thank you note for a bottle of wine of Grand Marnier....so why am I considering it for this??? Because it's more generous??? hmmmmm....it's just making me think....

Oh Emma, did you just say your hubby gives away lobsters? Could I be his friend? {#emotions_dlg.w00t}

Step aside doxie...Me first...me first!!

aka "croemer"

ford12241318349158.483586 PostsRegistered 6/7/2010

If you adequately thanked them for the gift certificate at the time they gave it to you, and maybe said something meaningful, like "you are a really good friend," I would think that would be enough. And then try to find a way to reciprocate by doing something nice for them in the future.

Whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

doxiemom 41318349314.5927472 PostsRegistered 12/30/2008NJ-FL
On 10/11/2011 croemer said:
On 10/11/2011 doxiemom 4 said:
On 10/11/2011 Emma Bunting said:

Thanks for all your responses......she did give the gift certificate to us in person....and we thanked her...told her she shouldn't have, etc...... It's weird, because I feel I should send a note because the amount was for $100....and as I said....we really didn't go out of our way at all. We have a huge field out back and have let many people use it to park on occasion. It's funny....because people give us "thank you" gifts all the time (My husband is very generous and gives away a lot of lobsters throughout the summer)..... I never consider writing a thank you note for a bottle of wine of Grand Marnier....so why am I considering it for this??? Because it's more generous??? hmmmmm....it's just making me think....

Oh Emma, did you just say your hubby gives away lobsters? Could I be his friend? {#emotions_dlg.w00t}

Step aside doxie...Me first...me first!!

I am laughing, I almost said I will even give croemer one {#emotions_dlg.w00t}

Holly Noel 7/11/97 1/22/11 RIP My Sweet Angel
Annie Oakley 12/7/00 - 8/26/12, Another Angel.








Emma Bunti­ng1318349451.8578606 PostsRegistered 3/26/2010

LOL... we have a ton of friends....just can't figure out why they drop us in the winter....lol.....

This has really made me question myself now...I just remembered that another friend gave us a gift certificate for $30 after we have her about $150 worth of lobsters....I thanked her in person, but didn't even consider writing a thank you note. Hmmmm....so does it have something to do with the amount??? Or the fact that parking in our yard is really no big deal to us...... ? I actually HATE when people give us things for the lobsters. My husband catches a ton and does it for fun. We love giving them away, so I always feel a little guilty when someone thinks they have to give something back (but then again.....I DO notice the people who never give back....lol........ )

" Anybody ready for dessert?"

Emma Bunti­ng1318349523.8778606 PostsRegistered 3/26/2010
On 10/11/2011 ford1224 said:

If you adequately thanked them for the gift certificate at the time they gave it to you, and maybe said something meaningful, like "you are a really good friend," I would think that would be enough. And then try to find a way to reciprocate by doing something nice for them in the future.

Actually, I don't know her very well...she is the girlfriend of one of my friends......come to think of it....we did give them plenty of lobsters this summer, too....... it was probably for that also.

" Anybody ready for dessert?"

suzyQ31318351282.08325625 PostsRegistered 3/15/2007

I think the difference here is that the "gift" is itself a thank you for something. I personally would express my appreciation in person and let it go at that. Certainly there's nothing wrong with writing a note; I just don't think it's necessary.

A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter is not a nice person -- Dave Barry

chickenbutt1318351499.725057 PostsRegistered 1/16/2006chickentown
On 10/11/2011 JJsMom said:

I don't think it's necessary, and I wouldn't expect one.

Did they personally give you the GC, or did they mail it?

ETA: If they sent it, I would definitely acknowledge it through an e-mail or phone call, but I don't think a formal thank you card is necessary.

I agree with JJsMom. If you were in their presence and they handed it to you, the verbal 'thank you' that you gave them at that time serves as official.

Bippity boppity BOOYAH!

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