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How Many Months Ahead Should You Send Save-The Date Cards?

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3-6.9?????

I am clueless

Thanks for your responses!




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jazzybelle1314557577.161977 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004NC

Here's some help for ya!

Photo Don­na1314557582.8914143 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs

I don't think these are necessary and really are a waste -- my personal opinion.

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blossomgirl1314557617.042591 PostsRegistered 1/27/2011

One of my daughters sent hers 6 months ahead of time. The other one sent her 9 months ahead because she was having a destination wedding.

KatherineW1314560066.11728130 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God

Photo...it is not a waste. We live busy lives......

thank you both for your response. I was thinking 6 months.




WSfan1314560225.412125 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

My son and DIL sent them out 6 months before their wedding.

Photo Don­na1314562643.48714143 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs
On 8/28/2011 KatherineW said:

Photo...it is not a waste. We live busy lives......

thank you both for your response. I was thinking 6 months.

here is my take --

if it is someone I am willing to save a date 6 months out for -- it is a close friend or family and I already know the date

if it is someone that I don't know their date already -- then I may or may not be willing to save a date and a regular invite is sufficient

if you do want to make a big announcement -- an engagement announcement is the proper way to do it with the date on that annoucement and a party celebrating the engagement.

When we get them -- I do not keep them nor do I write the date in a book. I just know in 4 or 5 months I will get an invite

eta: I find them presumptuous -- I do have things on my calendar way out there and if a "save the date" falls on a date I already have something that I cannot change or something does pop up in those 4 or 5 months -- then you have to deal with people saying things like "well, why aren't you coming, we sent a save the date????"

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Hildegarde­ Withers1314564457.48723377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008

I'm not a fan of Save the Date Cards.{#emotions_dlg.thumbdown}


missyw11314564628.50332399 PostsRegistered 3/4/2007

6 months from the wedding-save the date.

Send invitations out 8 weeks before the wedding.

Hildegarde­ Withers1314565037.623377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008

We were sent a Save the Date card & still didn't go to the wedding.

The wedding was too far away on a Friday night during rush hour & in a bad neighborhood.

Then when so many people didn't show up, they had the nerve to say that they had sent "Save the Date Cards" so we had time to make plans.

UH??? I guess they thought that since they sent those ridiculous cards, that everyone HAD to go.

Did they think they were the King & Queen?

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BlueCollar­Babe1314565905.8210911 PostsRegistered 9/26/2007

How did we all ever function before we all became so "busy,busy"?! Gee, I got married back in the late 70's when we had nothing to do but sit around the veranda, sipping mint juleps, and leisurely planning our wedding. No women way back then had a job or school or a life of any kind. {#emotions_dlg.lol}

Hildegarde­ Withers1314566364.4923377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008

Save the Date Cards are just something else for the wedding industry to make money off of.


rolen1314568238.407298 PostsRegistered 10/24/2004
On 8/28/2011 Hildegarde Withers said:

Save the Date Cards are just something else for the wedding industry to make money off of.

I totally agree that they are just another thing invented by wedding planners.

I can even go one step further with these 'prenotification' notifications. I was at my son's house and there was a magnet on the fridge with a photo of one of his friends and his fiancee. As I looked closer, I saw it was their wedding Save the Date information. I asked what in the world this was about. He said the newest thing was to make sure everyone remembered the date and didn't forget. So they are now being printed on magnets that guests will put on their refrigerators and will remind them of the wedding date each time they open it to get a drink!

domel1314568481.037584 PostsRegistered 8/21/2010

I don't like save the dates either. I don't like people sending me something a half a year or more in advance telling me to hold open a date. What if I don't go because I don't have the extra money or something, then you get from the family, we told them this far in advance. Like another poster said, if they are family or a close friend, I will already have the date in mind and make it available. If they aren't family or a close friend, I am probably not going anyway.

WSfan1314569740.2832125 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

Wow. Some of you here are making a mountain out of a mole hill. If you don't want to go to the wedding, no one is forcing you to do so. The 'Save the Date' card is meant to notify people of the upcoming wedding date, with the formal invitation to follow. For my son and DIL's wedding, in no way did we give anyone the third degree if they didn't come. If they didn't want to be there, then that's their business. One less dinner we had to pay for. What does bother me is when the response card is not returned, responding one way or the other. We provided the envelop and the stamp; what more to they want? People nowadays need to learn some etiquette, and the meaning of RSVP. It does not mean 'regrets only'.

ratdog1111314570064.1514924 PostsRegistered 10/27/2008

We have gotten them 6-9 months ahead. Why not split the difference and send them 7 months ahead?

It really depends on the situation of the intended guest. We are LONG distance from DH's family and need to purchase 4 airline tickets and rent a car so advance notice helps with the budgeting.

Another one we got the wedding was at our Church that we attend every weekend. All we had to do was arrange a sitter, So, we did not need 6 months notice.

And, most close family knew about our date by word of mouth well in advance so the invitations were more a formality because they all knew they were on the list and when the date was. (this was in the olden days before I had ever heard of a save the date card)

Use your best judgement and maybe not everyone on your list will need a save the date card and you can save a bit on the budget.

Hildegarde­ Withers1314570185.04723377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008

Pretty soon, we'll be getting cards notifying us that "Your Save the Date Card Will Arrive Shortly."

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Hildegarde­ Withers1314570613.49723377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008
On 8/28/2011 WSfan said:

Wow. Some of you here are making a mountain out of a mole hill. If you don't want to go to the wedding, no one is forcing you to do so. The 'Save the Date' card is meant to notify people of the upcoming wedding date, with the formal invitation to follow.

The invitation states the date. That's what an invitation is for. Send out the invite a little early if you're so worried about people not coming.

The people you're close to would already know the date anyway.

Those cards just make it appear like you're begging people to attend.

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WSfan1314571084.3472125 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004
On 8/28/2011 Hildegarde Withers said:
On 8/28/2011 WSfan said:

Wow. Some of you here are making a mountain out of a mole hill. If you don't want to go to the wedding, no one is forcing you to do so. The 'Save the Date' card is meant to notify people of the upcoming wedding date, with the formal invitation to follow.

The invitation states the date. That's what an invitation is for. Send out the invite a little early if you're so worried about people not coming.

The people you're close to would already know the date anyway.

Those cards just make it appear like you're begging people to attend.

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Nope, I don't see it that way. Yes, it states the date, but not the time, place, location of the reception, etc. As another poster stated, for guests attending from out of state, transportation/hotel arrangements need to be made in advance. This gives them plenty of time to make reservations.

People are making a bigger deal out of this than necessary. If you disagree with 'Save the Date' cards, then don't use them, but don't criticize others for doing so. It's their choice.

KZoo1314572241.1331942 PostsRegistered 1/26/2010

I am one of those who doesn't understand the importance of the ...save the date paperwork........ I agree with the posters here who have said, if I know someone and I am close enogh to know their wedding date by either an engagement announcement or an engagement party so be it,,,if not oh well, either I am free or I am not.... I put this added expense up there with additional dresses to wear at the reception,,,,,REALLY?, you can't just wear THEE wedding dress that you just HAD to have?, rediculous!.....................................one question though, does a save the date announcement motivate more people to RSVP? the actual invite?

-Donna

when all is said and done........will you have said more than done?

KZoo1314572414.211942 PostsRegistered 1/26/2010
On 8/28/2011 Hildegarde Withers said:

Pretty soon, we'll be getting cards notifying us that "Your Save the Date Card Will Arrive Shortly."

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when did this concept start anyway?

-Donna

when all is said and done........will you have said more than done?

Hildegarde­ Withers1314572572.26323377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008
On 8/28/2011 TeamJill said:
On 8/28/2011 Hildegarde Withers said:

Pretty soon, we'll be getting cards notifying us that "Your Save the Date Card Will Arrive Shortly."

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when did this concept start anyway?

I'm not sure, but it's ridiculous. Just another way for the wedding industry & card companies to make more money.


lulu21314572714.77721482 PostsRegistered 8/1/2007

These cards seem to be quite popular now. All wedding planners suggest them. For the most part, I think it's an unnecessary expense. Most of them seem to arrive about 6 months before the wedding.

Hildegarde­ Withers1314572961.60723377 PostsRegistered 7/3/2008
On 8/28/2011 lulu2 said:

These cards seem to be quite popular now. All wedding planners suggest them. For the most part, I think it's an unnecessary expense. Most of them seem to arrive about 6 months before the wedding.

Of course they do.


happy hous­ewife1314573626.3932025 PostsRegistered 1/4/2007
On 8/28/2011 MissyW1 said:

6 months from the wedding-save the date.

Send invitations out 8 weeks before the wedding.

What - 8 weeks - 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding you send out the invitations.

When faced with senseless drama, spiteful criticism or misguided opinions walking away is the best way to defend yourself.To respond with anger is an endorsement of their attitude. -Dodinsky

lulu21314573789.8521482 PostsRegistered 8/1/2007
On 8/28/2011 morning lover said:
On 8/28/2011 MissyW1 said:

6 months from the wedding-save the date.

Send invitations out 8 weeks before the wedding.

What - 8 weeks - 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding you send out the invitations.

From the Knot.com

How far in advance should you send wedding invitations?

A.

Ideally, invitations should go out eight weeks before the wedding -- this gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules for the day and make travel arrangements if they are out-of-towners. Timely invitations also let you make the RSVP date earlier -- about three weeks before the wedding -- so you can get a final head count and start making a seating chart (if you'll have one) before the week-before-the-wedding crunch begins. At the very latest, guests should receive invitations six weeks in advance, and you should receive responses two weeks before the big day.

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