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Missing my mom this Christmas...Anyone else missing someone this year?

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My mom passed away Oct.30 of this year ,and I really miss her...I miss picking up the phone and sharing the latest gossip..I see things I wish I could buy her for Christmas..Does anyone else here miss someone this Christmas? Let's support each other.

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Joyeux Noe­lle1292348900.941104 PostsRegistered 6/26/2008Roman Holiday

Yes, I'm missing a family member who tragically passed away this year. Our first Christmas without this loved one. It's been a bittersweet holiday season.{#emotions_dlg.mellow}

Edited to add: So sorry about your Mom. :(

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kittyfan1292349087.4336330 PostsRegistered 11/6/2008Central Tx

Oh I do understand. For me my mom has been gone for 25 years---but I still think about her everyday---think of things I would have shared with her. Holidays are tough when you are missing loved ones. This will be my second Christmas since I lost my DH. Last Christmas I didn't put up any decorations at all. This Christmas I did do a few---will share my day with a dear friend but there is still an empty spot in my heart. He would play Santa---and his Santa suit still hangs in the closet. His last Christmas Eve we had gone out for breakfast and a lady came up to apolotgize saying that her son was pointing and saying that there was Santa. I think about that and cry and smile. Miss my gentle fella.

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Krimpette1292349217.5911269 PostsRegistered 9/7/2007MidAtlantic

I lost my mom in May of this year. I feel like I'm just going through the motions to get through the holidays this year. She lived with me for the last 4.5 years. It's tough. (Hugs to all who are also going through this difficult time.)

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~bunny~1292349309.749850 PostsRegistered 5/17/2010

My Dad passed away a month before Christmas 8 years ago and it still doesn't feel right. It was his favorite time of the year and sitting down for dinner still feels like someone is missing.

I am right there with you missing someone that meant so much.

bunny can't wait for Spring!

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misspammie1292349320.12712788 PostsRegistered 3/14/2010now in Virginia

so sad but true, I get older, the years go by, and the list of loved ones lost gets longer and longer. Such is life, I guess, but it surely does hurt.

"jus' sanwiches and milk"

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Bluesclue1292349379.78198 PostsRegistered 10/5/2007

((maureen5)) and the others, yes I know the feeling of missing someone you love. The holidays are full of memories, some make you smile, some hurt your heart because you miss your loved one so. I wish you all peace and gentle healing.


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JuJu Squee­zey1292349409.3414444 PostsRegistered 4/22/2009Space Coast FL

I miss my Mom(2003)

My dad died on Thanksgiving day but I started missing him years ago.

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Darlene in­ Georgia1292349466.2371006 PostsRegistered 8/25/2009

Maureen, it can be a very sad time of year when someone you loved so dearly is no longer here. Last Christmas was our first without my Mother and the dread turned to celebration when we all decided that the holidays being my Mother's favorite time of year and with all the traditions that she had started, we would celebrate and continue doing the things that she loved. We shared stories of my Mother and before we knew it, we all were feeling festive and making another year of holiday memories. This year we are planning another huge Christmas celebration cherishing and celebrating my Mother's sweet memory. I hope that you can find a way to include you Mother into you holiday plans that will bring comfort to you and your family.

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Night Owl ­in NJ1292349640.18607 PostsRegistered 7/7/2010Central New Jersey

Hi Maureen, I can so relate to you! I lost my Mom last December 13th and miss her every single day! I always called her several times a day to gossip or talk about the news. I still find myself looking at something in the store and thinking for a second...Mom would love that...then coming back to reality. Several times I actually picked up the phone to call her! It has been a bad year and I feel the holidays will never be the same! My father in law also passed away last year, seven months before my Mom. I would like to say that it gets better with time but it hurts just as much. I will say that I don't cry so much but smile more when I think of her.

Unfortunately, that is life and we must deal with it. I now try to count my blessing every day and thank God for the health of my kids, husband and extended family.

Stay strong as your Mom would have wanted you to be happy, I am sure! Lost my Dad when I was a kid...


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Night Owl ­in NJ1292349757.88607 PostsRegistered 7/7/2010Central New Jersey

...wish I could give all of you a huge hug! ((((( ))))))

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Gooday1292349937.70711960 PostsRegistered 1/20/2008

My mom passed away 12/2/05. I miss her EVERY day. Funny enough though, my mom never cared for all the hoopla associated with the holiday. She was like a female Scrooge. Seriously, her philosophy was to treat family members with kindness and love every day, not get crazy with gift giving, etc. one day of the year. I share her beliefs.

Like a Bridge Over Troubled Waters, I will ease your mind.

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sharkb81292350176.27141 PostsRegistered 4/17/2007The Beach

Miss both my folks in a big way even tho they've been gone a long time.

Dad died Dec. 11, 1980, buried Dec. 14 on mom's birthday.

Mom died 3 yrs. later.

I was 23 and an orphan.

I don't think you ever stop missing them, you just try, after many years, to put it in it's proper place in you heart. Don't know how else to reconcile these things except that I know some day I will be with them again.

I wish you peace.

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autumnsuns­et1292350286.072420 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I miss my sister who died in the 70's she was 33 and my mother died in 1988 and father in 1992 that was all my family. The holidays are hard very hard. {#emotions_dlg.sad} hubby and I celebrate Christmas with our two dogs but even that is hard.

I lost my sweet Angel poodle/schnauzer on June 11,2010 and she loved Christmas not a good Christmas this year without her she was my best friend. She would sniff at all her Christmas gifts under the tree and bark at the one she would want our dogs are our kids.

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Night Owl ­in NJ1292350305.897607 PostsRegistered 7/7/2010Central New Jersey

Sharkb8...so sorry for your loses especially at such a young age!

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sharkb81292350559.757141 PostsRegistered 4/17/2007The Beach

Autumn sunset-my heart goes out to you. Hug your hubby extra hard at Christmas time.

Night owl-thanks somuch for the kind words. This time of the year is rough for alot of people. I'm a "Jerseyite" too. Exit zero on the Parkway.

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Daysdee1292350708.06720279 PostsRegistered 1/23/2007

My parents even though they have been gone many, many years. Also, members of a family we spent the holidays with for many years. Most of them are gone now; one passed in early 30's and left small children--so sad. Always remember their kindness and friendship.

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SweetWood ­Max1292350927.09712246 PostsRegistered 9/7/2010


You must be going through the same thing as me. My mom died in May--rather quickly from PC. I cry constantly about this. She loved Christmas and I'm so gonna miss her. I use to call her everyday--sometimes twice. She was my best friend, the only person that understood how I am and always was there for me. My dad's gone now too so things are just different. I miss not being "everything" to 2 people if that makes sense. I hope you find peace and I'll think of you

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Burnsite1292351133.268012 PostsRegistered 7/31/2007

Yes, I am missing some dearly beloved people right now. ((hugs)) to the OP and all who are hurting at Christmastime.

It is still a season of joy for me. But on Christmas day, I light candles for the people I am missing. One more this year than last, sigh.

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C and C Fo­rever1292351304.811572 PostsRegistered 3/21/2010

I miss everyone!! My husband (2008), my dad (2007), my mom (1997), my grandma (1992) and my pets (2003 & 2010). I am alone now, so Chistmas is just another day--just like all the other holidays. The hardest for me will be New Year's Eve--It would have been our 26th wedding annniversary. It really s*ucks to be the very last one left in your family!!

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.

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Suziepeach1292351452.74315057 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

My Mom passed away Christmas "86" & Daddy, right after Thanksgiving 4 yrs ago... I have a hard time at both holidays but have learned I can't change what is but I miss them both more than words can possibly describe..

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happy hous­ewife1292351471.1834389 PostsRegistered 1/4/2007

OP I totally understand. My parents have been gone for 20 years and I still miss them at the holidays, my grandparents are gone even longer and my oldest brother died in Viet Nam and i still miss him 41 years later. You learn to live with the losses.

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Hilo1292351529.2537105 PostsRegistered 8/28/2007

Miss not only my Mom every Christmas and every day but many of my friends and loved ones who have gone ahead. However, I always try to remember to be thankful that these dear ones were part of my life and memory.

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misspammie1292351625.8112788 PostsRegistered 3/14/2010now in Virginia
On 12/14/2010 Burnsite said:

Yes, I am missing some dearly beloved people right now. ((hugs)) to the OP and all who are hurting at Christmastime.

It is still a season of joy for me. But on Christmas day, I light candles for the people I am missing. One more this year than last, sigh.

burnsie, good attitude. like the lighting of candles, but boy that would be hard,,,going to think about it

"jus' sanwiches and milk"

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jljc1292352064.34181 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

Miss my younger sister...she took her life in January..so the anniversary of her death is coming up....

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