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I have no holiday spirit this year- none

Started 1290910091.187 in Viewpoints | Last reply 1291133400.55 by irish mama

Lots of stuff going on- family and work stuff and I just don't have it.

Anyone else feeling the same way?

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CarolynFro­mLongIsland1290910503.4972682 PostsRegistered 10/12/2006

Me too...I am boycotting. I am not even putting up one decoration

Carolyn

enufalready1290910605.52758 PostsRegistered 3/23/2006

know exactly how you feel, gidget. wish I could just go to sleep and wake up and it all be over.

missyw11290910643.0232019 PostsRegistered 3/4/2007

Yes

alarmclock1290910842.4071831 PostsRegistered 6/20/2006

I was that way last year. This year, totally different. If you are not feeling it, don't apologize and don't fake it. Many people have a hard time at the holidays and the economy has hit everyone in some way. If that's not the case, meaning you are just not in the mood, go with it. If it strikes you, volunteer or donate to an animal shelter. If things are tough for you, I wish you the best! Remember, you can feel overwhelmed ANY time of the year.

He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help. ~ Abraham Lincoln

gidgetgoes­hawaiian1290910852.959888 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I'd like to get in bed and watch House Hunter and Say Yes to the Dress marathons and blink my eyes like Samantha Stevens and have it be January 2nd.

I made it through Thanksgiving, but we had alot of people over (and were happy to have them), but between all the prep and the clean up (we're STILL washing dishes from the leftovers) I'm just exhausted- physically and emotionally. It's just way too much hoopla for me. The older I get, the less hoopla I can handle.

mygr8daneg­uinness1290911389.839502 PostsRegistered 7/29/2010

Hi gidget. I'm in the same boat as you and the other ladies. My dad passed away in February of this year and Christmas was his favorite holiday; Thanksgiving was difficult enough. My husband and I are putting up a few decorations, but no tree; my heart just isn't into it this year.

gidgetgoes­hawaiian1290911502.1839888 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

My mother is ill and that's what's causing part of my lack of spirit.

clemintine1290911619.85318189 PostsRegistered 11/5/2007C.C.

I always feel that way by Thanksgiving because I've done NOTHING....but it always comes together on time. My list is short: ADULTS don't get gifts. Just kids, through high school. College students get $. It fits and it's the right colorWink

midnight1290911629.8633318 PostsRegistered 9/3/2006

Yes, I am for the first time in my life, since I am usually a Christmas fanatic. Lots of stuff going on too, unemployed, other problems, can't get into the spirit. I was lucky to even get my tree up yesterday.

Sister Gol­den Hair1290911647.63314257 PostsRegistered 7/18/2008

Maybe it would help to see a Christmas feel-good movie on "Hallmark". Makes you stop and think just how blessed we really are no matter how bad it gets. Life is sad for me during the holidays because my Mother died the day after Thanksgiving and my Father died 2 days before Christmas (different years).

Our son is in the Navy and hasn't been home for 3 years. Him , daughter-in-law and now 2-month old grandson we have only been able to see them on SKYPE. They are far far away and we miss them so much.

Knowing the true meaning of Christmas, is the most important thing to remember. So no matter how sad we are, we have the special reason for this holiday.

Reach for the moon, even if you miss, you will land among the stars.

midnight1290911735.1033318 PostsRegistered 9/3/2006

Good advice, Sistergoldenhair, yes I am trying to remember the true meaning of Christmas.

missyw11290911794.82732019 PostsRegistered 3/4/2007
On 11/27/2010 midnight said:

Yes, I am for the first time in my life, since I am usually a Christmas fanatic. Lots of stuff going on too, unemployed, other problems, can't get into the spirit. I was lucky to even get my tree up yesterday.

I understand. Why should I purchase a fresh tree with limited/no gifts? I hope we all have a better 2011.

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carolann1290911821.073556 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I'm exhausted too & today my grandson came over to spend the night, 3 years old. I don't think my son realizes what it takes to cook Thanksgiving dinner they babysit when we are still cleaning up.

Girlo1290911846.22949 PostsRegistered 1/20/2007

sometimes I feel like that ... just so blue and down and overwhelmed....but at some point the bug does hit me..... maybe some snow will help....tuesday they light the tree at rockefeller center...... that always gives me some spirit... or when at my sons school they collect items for the vets and the elderly nuns.....

We are all mortal till the first kiss and the second glass of wine.

teainlondon1290911924.4171037 PostsRegistered 10/13/2007

We decided not to decorate this year either. All of our decorations are stored in the attic of the garage and neither my DH or I can get them down. We are older, retired, not in the best of health, live on a fixed income, and have no family. We don't socialize and can't pay someone to do it. So, we'll just have the spirit in our hearts and not worry about blitzing up the house this year--too old; too tired; too sad.

Mox ie1290911956.765221 PostsRegistered 7/16/2010

No. In spite of how I feel and regardless of what is going on in my life I honor Christmas because of my mother. She loved Christmas and she made Christmas a magical and exciting time for us kids when we were small. Her spirit even captured my Dad and we were relieved of his tirades even if it was for only a few days.

Every time I think, I can't do it this year I think of my Mother and how disappointed she would be of me. All my brothers and sisters feel this way. She was generous of spirit and of her time. She chose our gifts carefully and she adopted some children in our neighborhood who were not going to have a Christmas and she enlisted our help as secret santas when we were older.

We made paper garlands, popcorn garlands. We helped decorate the tree and we put tinsel on the tree one strand at a time.

This week my grandson and I are going to make candy trees and next week we are going to cut snowflakes and frame them. I think these will be fun projects that hopefully he will remember and treasure. We will also make a batch of cookies each week leading up to Christmas. I am looking forward to those projects.

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When someone tells you that you have changed, it simply means you have stopped living your life their way.

missyw11290912014.15732019 PostsRegistered 3/4/2007
On 11/27/2010 teainlondon said:

We decided not to decorate this year either. All of our decorations are stored in the attic of the garage and neither my DH or I can get them down. We are older, retired, not in the best of health, live on a fixed income, and have no family. We don't socialize and can't pay someone to do it. So, we'll just have the spirit in our hearts and not worry about blitzing up the house this year--too old; too tired; too sad.

This made me sad reading this. I have to pretend I am into the holiday mood, because I have a young child.

mygr8daneg­uinness1290912041.749502 PostsRegistered 7/29/2010
On 11/27/2010 gidgetgoeshawaiian said:

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

My mother is ill and that's what's causing part of my lack of spirit.

gidget: sorry to hear about your mom, and your lack of spirit is completely understandable. Can you maybe pick and chose some holiday events you do or don't want to attend? I've limited myself to spending both Christmas Eve and Christmas day with my mom, and nothing else beyond that.

DCpeach1290912306.63582 PostsRegistered 7/10/2007Atlanta

One year when I had no holiday spirit my sister gave me some great advice. She suggested I put up one thing that meant the most to me and made me smile and then don't worry about not doing the whole thing. For me it was putting my Nutcrackers coming down the staircase, didn't take much effort and I smiled when I looked at them. I wish you the best!

"People the world over have been more impressed with the power of our example rather than the example of our power."

orange1290912366.163021 PostsRegistered 12/29/2005

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gidgetgoes­hawaiian1290912383.6539888 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

Thankfully, I don't have any events to attend. I'm going to see the Atlanta Ballet's Nutcracker next Saturday and actually am really looking forward to that. I did a ton of shopping last week for my office's Christmas charity toy drive and that made me really happy.

We'll have dinner with my husband's family (just 6 of us) Christmas Eve and then spend part of Christmas Day with my sister's family. I don't know if we'll eat with them or just exchange gifts (some times they eat with her in laws- trade off). My parents will be with us.

cherry1290912664.0916348 PostsRegistered 1/8/2005

Tomorrow is the first Sunday of Advent...my creche will come out and slowly I will begin to add the figures a bit at a time.....

I don't care about more than this..I don't have to be Santa for kiddies..however I chose to be St Nicholas for a young family that is undergoing personal hardship now

As far as the other stuff I don't care.....remember whose B.D. it really is, and that might bring you some comfort.....

ratdog1111290912827.7414924 PostsRegistered 10/27/2008

Maybe you are on overload from all the black friday hype and hooplah!

Give it time, you might feel the spirit more as the day gets closer.

If not, that's ok too. but, if you are feeling depressed reach out to someone who can help.

abbycat1290912869.64618 PostsRegistered 5/19/2007Maryland

Always ....

abby

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Lakk1290912925.2775102 PostsRegistered 11/1/2006

I've just been going through the motions for 3 years now, but by the time I get the tree up, the garland and small trees in the wooden deck planter boxes and the wreaths on the outside windows,(I'm whipped) I'm glad I did it for the rest of the family so many little ones here. We're all hurting from the loss of family members but have to carry on for them.

I fortunately have everything bought, some still enroute but that's done. The rest is as Clemintine stated, money, "it fits and is the right color" and everyone is thrilled to get it.

Gidget..me too the older I get the less hoopla I can handle. To all the rest of you I know what your going through with the loss of family members and family illnesses, and I hope the ones without a job will find work soon and things will be much better for all of you next year.

We all know Jesus is the reason for the season but sometimes that gets lost in the shuffle. Blessings to all of you.

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