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What does it really mean to "own" something?

Started 1290474293.503 in Viewpoints | Last reply 1290533790.113 by BlueCollarBabe

I was out driving today, and was thinking how I am glad that I own my car and how much I love it. Then it dawned on me that I own the car itself, but not the USE of it! Without being able to use it, it would be worthless! To be able to use it, you must pay for annual car insurance, yearly registration, and renew your driver's license every few years.

That made me think about my house and how glad I am that I own it. It is fully paid for. But, then again, it made me think that it is not totally mine, even though it is paid for! If I didn't pay my monthly HOA fees, they could put a lien on my house and be able to take it away from me! If I didn't pay my property taxes every year, the same thing would happen!! {#emotions_dlg.scared}

Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you may still exist, but you have ceased to live. (Mark Twain)

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MyGirlsMom1290474529.5833422 PostsRegistered 12/5/2008

You are a Philosophy Professors treasure! {#emotions_dlg.biggrin}

(I get it!)

"How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong, because someday in your life you will have been all of these."

Brabls1290475262.6914740 PostsRegistered 4/27/2007

"own" designates the maximum bundles of rights conferred by society. In the USA, those right are limited by taxes, contratual undertaking(HOA fees), governement regulation, attachment for judgements.

Photo Don­na1290475363.3714143 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

every 6 seconds a pet dies in a shelter -- adopt

RoughDraft1290475403.6338609 PostsRegistered 5/19/2007

Ultimately, everything we have is on loan.

Nobody puts baby in the corner.

Brabls1290475609.3314740 PostsRegistered 4/27/2007
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

Ownership includes burdening you kids with it when you die. {#emotions_dlg.sad}

Photo Don­na1290475652.23714143 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs
On 11/22/2010 Brabls said:
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

Ownership includes burdening you kids with it when you die. {#emotions_dlg.sad}

it was no burden to clean out their homes -- it was a labor of love

every 6 seconds a pet dies in a shelter -- adopt

california­ love1290475833.367241 PostsRegistered 7/13/2007sunny southern california!
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:
On 11/22/2010 Brabls said:
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

Ownership includes burdening you kids with it when you die. {#emotions_dlg.sad}

it was no burden to clean out their homes -- it was a labor of love

amen, donna...amen!

StylishLady1290475908.994024 PostsRegistered 11/25/2009Florida

It was not a happy time for my sisters and I to clean out our Mother's apartment when she passed away. It is not easy dispensing with all those memories. The only good thing was each of us keeping a few treasured items.

Jupiter1290476318.4475243 PostsRegistered 10/25/2008Florida
On 11/22/2010 StylishLady said:

It was not a happy time for my sisters and I to clean out our Mother's apartment when she passed away. It is not easy dispensing with all those memories. The only good thing was each of us keeping a few treasured items.

I think that perhaps the only things we really "own" are things of sentimental value! They never depreciate because there is no price tag attached to them, only fond memories and love. Smile

Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you may still exist, but you have ceased to live. (Mark Twain)

Snowpuppy1290476355.2576495 PostsRegistered 12/2/2005Up North, MI

If you think you're a homeowner, try missing your mortgage payment on the 1st of the month. You'll find out pretty quick who really owns it.

I would never burden DS with cleaning out my things. I'm not much of a shopper or saver. Most of my ''personal treasures' are in a Rubbermaid Tote. Momentos that would be too personal to explain, I tossed years ago.

Halcyon1290477084.0571570 PostsRegistered 11/18/2010
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

You've realized a wonderful thing, and paraphrased that great old Patek Philippe advertisement : "You never really own a Patek, you merely look after it for the next generation". Wink

I have always loved that sentiment. I hope you enjoy your grandparents' treasures; I know I do mine.

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Oh my; how positively lovely!

Halcyon1290477506.4571570 PostsRegistered 11/18/2010

I concur, it was not a burden. We were all permitted to do whatever we wished with what was bequeath to us. I will offer my children the same option. Keep or sell. Perhaps they will not want it all, but I sincerely doubt they will turn down the majority of it (especially the gems and jewels {#emotions_dlg.wub})



Oh my; how positively lovely!

VioletEyes1290479169.3313180 PostsRegistered 2/11/2009

I read a book about ten years ago that made a life impacting change on how I viewed material possessions..

Everything material whether it be our car, our home, our possessions are merely energy in transition. You may think you own something.......have money in the bank, beautiful home but the fact is you don't even own the body you stand up in. It's on loan from the planet and it will reappear in a different form without you.

You are spirit- an eternal indestructible spirit-but your human circumstances is what could be described as a transient, "rent-a-body" situation.

Thinking that way gave me a sense of peace knowing that no matter how many possessions I wanted or coveted I would never really own them anyway. It's all just "stuff" for the lack of a better word..........

brii1290479478.86724295 PostsRegistered 7/14/2008
The only things I truly own are my memories and experiences in life:)

Jupiter1290480169.95243 PostsRegistered 10/25/2008Florida
On 11/22/2010 VioletEyes said:

I read a book about ten years ago that made a life impacting change on how I viewed material possessions..

Everything material whether it be our car, our home, our possessions are merely energy in transition. You may think you own something.......have money in the bank, beautiful home but the fact is you don't even own the body you stand up in. It's on loan from the planet and it will reappear in a different form without you.

You are spirit- an eternal indestructible spirit-but your human circumstances is what could be described as a transient, "rent-a-body" situation.

Thinking that way gave me a sense of peace knowing that no matter how many possessions I wanted or coveted I would never really own them anyway. It's all just "stuff" for the lack of a better word..........

That sounds like Buddhist thinking! I do enjoy the sense of security that comes with owning a home and car, but thinking about it today made me feel less secure. Other things I consider just "stuff", but my home is my sense of security, as much as one can possibly feel secure in this crazy world we now live in!

I think of my car as a necessity. Other things, like jewelry, more than an adequate amount of clothing, or furnishings, are just "stuff'".

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Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you may still exist, but you have ceased to live. (Mark Twain)

Jupiter1290480508.6475243 PostsRegistered 10/25/2008Florida
On 11/22/2010 brii said: The only things I truly own are my memories and experiences in life:)

Then I guess that you don't like my tag lines!! Smile

Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you may still exist, but you have ceased to live. (Mark Twain)

depglass1290480640.48724103 PostsRegistered 11/14/2006

Thanks for bringing out all my hidden insecurities. And I thought we were doing so well.

HopeReigns1290491249.7173517 PostsRegistered 5/4/2007
On 11/22/2010 brii said: The only things I truly own are my memories and experiences in life:)

..and the love for others we take with us. {#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}

Hope, >^.^<

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AngelPuppy11290512288.1978725 PostsRegistered 5/26/2008

It's sort of like "you're life is not your own", isn't it? When you think about how very little you actually do have control over, it's kind of scary. At least it is to me. {#emotions_dlg.blink} That's why I just don't like thinking about those things too much. One day everything seems so great and then the next..... O.k. ---- happy thoughts. Smile

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin.

Photo Don­na1290514488.39714143 PostsRegistered 12/26/2005walking the dogs
On 11/22/2010 Halcyon said:
On 11/22/2010 Photo Donna said:

cleaning out both grandmothers' homes after they passed made me realize that we really never own anything -- we simply borrow it for a while

You've realized a wonderful thing, and paraphrased that great old Patek Philippe advertisement : "You never really own a Patek, you merely look after it for the next generation". Wink

I have always loved that sentiment. I hope you enjoy your grandparents' treasures; I know I do mine.

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I do enjoy their treasures -- the items I love the most are probably not worth much to anyone else.

every 6 seconds a pet dies in a shelter -- adopt

ilovedaisi­es1290533578.7333158 PostsRegistered 7/20/2010Turn left
On 11/22/2010 StylishLady said:

It was not a happy time for my sisters and I to clean out our Mother's apartment when she passed away. It is not easy dispensing with all those memories. The only good thing was each of us keeping a few treasured items.

The really hard part was the auction and watching strangers walking off with her things. I'm glad I'll never have to do that again.

Subject1290533657.39311269 PostsRegistered 2/24/2007
On 11/22/2010 Jupiter said:

I was out driving today, and was thinking how I am glad that I own my car and how much I love it. Then it dawned on me that I own the car itself, but not the USE of it! Without being able to use it, it would be worthless! To be able to use it, you must pay for annual car insurance, yearly registration, and renew your driver's license every few years.

That made me think about my house and how glad I am that I own it. It is fully paid for. But, then again, it made me think that it is not totally mine, even though it is paid for! If I didn't pay my monthly HOA fees, they could put a lien on my house and be able to take it away from me! If I didn't pay my property taxes every year, the same thing would happen!! {#emotions_dlg.scared}

No owns their home- The STATE owns it.

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BlueCollar­Babe1290533790.11310911 PostsRegistered 9/26/2007
On 11/23/2010 hckynut said:

What does it really mean to "own" something?

Jupiter,

Makes one wonder doesn't it? Heck now you even have to pay for things after you die, unless I am reading this "death tax" thing the wrong way.

There's no estate tax (death tax) unless you leave over $3.5 million or $7 million for a couple. Don't know about you, but it sure isn't going to affect me!

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