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O/T: is it necessary to write thank yous for get well gifts, flowers, etc. ?

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I always sent thank you cards for gifts I received, with the exception of cards and some simple casual things that I said thank you for in person. Since I've been home from school I've been receiving food, flowers, and any number of thoughtful things - some delivered in person and some by third parties. I don't mind writing thank yous once I can get out and buy some, but it's a bit hard to keep track since some of it came from groups of parents of students and such. I'm not sure if it's worse to send none or risk leaving someone out. Any thoughts or rules about this? BTW- I do have access to the home addresses of my students.

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faeriemoon1336659262.288204 PostsRegistered 5/13/2005

I would send the cards. I do think it is acceptable to wait until you are up to it though.

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greenvilla­ge1336659323.5965 PostsRegistered 12/7/2007

I believe it's always necessary to send thank-you notes. If someone is thoughtful enough to think of you, they deserve to be thanked.

gypsy21336664162.71914 PostsRegistered 5/24/2010

I would send thank yous. I'm sure it would be fine to wait until you're able to get out and get the cards.

Skylands1336664639.8776667 PostsRegistered 5/30/2010

Yes, definately send thank you cards to people who have been kind to you. You don't need a formal card, just send a hand written note. Please, life is so full of people who are not kind and thoughtful. Don't become one of them.

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BurbankKate1336665052.086188 PostsRegistered 11/18/2007Home of: Disney Studios,W. Bros, Nickelodeon, Cartoon network, media capital of the world

A thank you card is always appropriate; if you forget someone...it is not intentional. However, wait until you are feeling better. Glad to see your post Delilah; just shows you are getting well. Take care of yourself. It's nice that people are thinking of you when you are recouping.

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Beebo1336665238.8936960 PostsRegistered 4/13/2010

I agree with the others; I would send thank you notes.

KatCat11336666510.8818217 PostsRegistered 7/21/2011

Thank you notes would be appropriate. You can always send one to the school for all the students noting how grateful you are.

namealread­ytaken1336667562.418421 PostsRegistered 7/13/2009

Two weeks from the time of receipt is considered acceptable time unless there are extenuating circumstances such as your illness being be a long-term one which would mean a phone call would be appropriate. However, I expect by the time you are 2 weeks postop, you are going to want something to do.

In order to keep out of mischief, like driving and vacuuming, mopping, etc.,and other things you should not do, your creativity will start flowing and you will be looking for something to do and writing and creating nice words can consume some of the boring time.

Rottie_mama1336668373.43891 PostsRegistered 2/7/2012exile in Florida from So.Cal.

Thank you notes are always appropriate, but wait until you are feeling better. Glad to read you are being taken care of by everyone around you. Take care!

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queendiva1336669477.533945 PostsRegistered 9/22/2006

OP, you know the answer to your question...

It's okay to have help writing them, if you have experienced such an overwhelming abundance of gifts. Order cards online or ask someone to pick some up for you, then do a few as you are up to it. They will be done in no time. Hey, you had time and energy to post this question. Just sayin'...

JustJazzmom1336676941.02329875 PostsRegistered 11/12/2007My garden, of course!!

Yes, please do.

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twocent1336677164.0510911 PostsRegistered 1/5/2008
On 5/10/2012 skylands said:

Yes, definately send thank you cards to people who have been kind to you. You don't need a formal card, just send a hand written note. Please, life is so full of people who are not kind and thoughtful. Don't become one of them.

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JJsMom1336677346.1420010 PostsRegistered 10/25/2007

It is nice you want to send thank you cards, but I personally would not expect a thank you card for doing something for someone who was sick or going through a tragedy.

namealread­ytaken1336677905.9178421 PostsRegistered 7/13/2009
On 5/10/2012 JJsMom said:

It is nice you want to send thank you cards, but I personally would not expect a thank you card for doing something for someone who was sick or going through a tragedy.

I do not agree with that. I never failed to send thank you cards or notes and I had some serious operations and chemo.

Postage and gas cost the same for the recipient as for the sender. In working with the bereavement committee/infirmed and ill committees at my church, I find it does the recipient good to send notes.

The only people who tend not to send out thank you notes in the beginning are those less educated, who have not had the example set before them but they often send notes and make calls and once they see it as a way to show appreciation, they are very good about sending cards and/or making calls.

My SIL lost her son at 24 who was diagnosed not long after college graduation with a very rare cancer, and he only lived a short while and her thank you notes were constantly flowing while she was awaiting the worst news, which kept her mind on other things and not her problems.

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FunkyHulaG­irl1336678140.497436 PostsRegistered 6/25/2011Wherever I go, there I am!

If you're up to it, do it - or at least call and say thank you. It's always nice to feel appreciated.

One day I was in the PO and had a box of cupcakes I had made for the clerks, as they're always very sweet and helpful. I had a few that didn't fit in their box, so I packaged them separately, thinking I'd be led as to who to give them to. As I handed over the clear plastic box, a lady in a wheelchair at the next window said, "Oh my, those sure look good!" Well, there she was.... I gave her the box with the few cakes in it, and her face just lit up....then she reached into a pocket on her wheelchair and handed me a little pamphlet she had designed with her picture on the front, and a "thank you for your kindness to me today" note that explained how she appreciated the many people who showed kindness to her in various ways because of her disability and prayed for them. It really made my day.

Point is, it doesn't have to be anything fancy. If you have a FB page or a website, maybe you can also post a "Thank you to everyone who helped me" on there, which might help with the concern of leaving someone out.

BTW; hope you're feeling better, you're in my prayers.

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JESSA1336678348.9732783 PostsRegistered 12/18/2010

I always think it's nice to send thank you cards for any gift. You just made me think ...I was at 2 weddings this past year and I didn't receive a thank you card. We gave cash too.

hyacinth0031336678678.867781 PostsRegistered 11/8/2005

Yes, I think you should whenever you are able.

I would rather get one late than never get one!

Hope you are well.

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lulu21336682477.46323295 PostsRegistered 8/1/2007

Thank yous are always appropriate and appreciated.

RedConvert­ibleGirl1336682659.82315011 PostsRegistered 9/3/2005Pacific NW

Yes. Send them no matter how late they are. If you are worried about them being too late, maybe there is someone that can run out and buy you a packet of them and some stamps?

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millieshops1336683818.66716685 PostsRegistered 3/15/2007

A computer note with a few personal words added. A note for your sub to post?

Kitlynn1336688355.6732773 PostsRegistered 1/4/2008Colorado

I think it is always appropriate to send Thank You notes. It doesn't matter if the people doing something for you did it because they wanted to . What does matter is that they did. It is always nice to be acknowledged and know that you made a difference and were appreciated.

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imaclothes­hog1336688603.33723692 PostsRegistered 2/12/2006

Delilah you have a lot of people who love you very much! Yes I think thank you cards are fine, and you don't have to do them all at the same time. Just do a few a day, on days when you are feeling well enough to do it. I think if you do it that way, it isn't so overwhelming, with sitting there feeling like you have 30 or 40 to write. Just do 2 at a time, til they are all finished. Or, you can do them on certain days, such as, make Mondays and Wed. your card days, etc. you get the idea. when you feel up to it, no rush, just feel better soon. I think most people understand you need time to recover before you do cards.

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Talidog1336689104.543763 PostsRegistered 8/9/2007Heart of Dixie

Of course it's necessary! You evidently have many thoughtful friends and they need to be acknowledged. Take your time, but don't forget them. Get well soon! K

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Luvmycats1336689175.9174727 PostsRegistered 8/15/2007

I ALWAYS send "THank You" notes- My husband makes fun of me saying that I would send one if someone said, "bless you" if I sneezed- I think it's gracious and all things should be appreciated, big or small!

I only know one or two people who actually send them anymore- Sending an email or message on FB is in poor taste as far as I'm concerned- I still send letters, notes,"thinking of You" cards, etc... It's just important to me.

My kids HAVE to send "Thank You' notes after the holiday to every single person who purchased a gift for them, big or otherwise! THey have always done this-

People are, in general terms, pretty ungracious and rude- I'm raising my children to be thankful and have good manners- It's important to say thanks!

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sandy531336689873.3171022 PostsRegistered 1/10/2008

When I deliver a gift/flowers/food to a friend who is ill or to a new mom I always tell them, "Now don't send me a thank you note. You have thanked me face to face and you are too sick/busy to have to write a note, too." Sometimes I receive a note anyway, but usually they are fine with it.

I also went to a shower once where the hostess said that as our last gift to the honoree, couldn't we all agree that she did not need to send thank you notes to us. She thanked us in person and she could just send them to those who sent gifts but were unable to attend. It was a small group who all knew each other well and the suggestion was well received.

When I give sympathy cards with memorial money, I always write my address inside the card. I struggled to find addresses when I was trying to write thank yous after a funeral. Someone did that inside their card and I thought it was a thoughtful idea.

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