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Should I let my hair go au naturel? In other words - GRAY!? Will it AGE ME?

Started 1305240364.743 in Beauty Banter | Last reply 1307884193.307 by Toyia

I'm letting my hair grow out right now without touchups to see the color.

It's 100% gray, but a lovely shades of silvery gray, not ugly iron gray.

There's a beautiful woman in March's O mag with silver hair, which has me tempted to not color for a while.

Do you think it ages a woman?

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Margo Chan­ning1305240502.89313352 PostsRegistered 11/29/2007

My own opinion? It ages a woman. I won't give into grey until I'm well into my 70s. I think it makes a woman look tired and faded.

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SoX1305240575.47864 PostsRegistered 2/21/2009

Only you can answer that ... I've had silver hair for quite a while and love it.

Baxjaxmom1305242444.162508 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

I think this is something that rests within the eye of the beholder and how you feel when you are looking back at yourself in the mirror or even your mind's eye. I think it also depends on your actual age. There is nothing more tale tale than someone who is obviously on up in years coloring their hair jet black or a color that is completely unnatural to one's skin tones and aging skin.

I have never colored my hair - not because I was opposed to it but rather because I just didn't feel the need, nor could I afford the expense and upkeep and now it is silver/gray and I get compliments on it very often, not only the color, but the condition of it because it has never had chemicals on it. I keep it styled with current trends and love my hair.

To answer your question, no, I do not think it ages a woman just by having gray hair unless it is unkempt and not styled well. You can still look young and have gray hair. I've earned every single gray hair on my head and I'm quite proud of them! But, according to Margo, I must be one of those who looks "tired and faded". That's okay. Some days I feel tired and faded and others I feel much less than my actual years. It goes with the territory! It's just a personal choice for anyone but for many, I think it has become a "mind set" thanks to the fashion and cosmetic industry who has convinced society that having gray hair is automatically associated with being old.

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millieshops1305242820.93314817 PostsRegistered 3/15/2007

I think it depends upon your hair- its color, its texture, its thickness. Lots of gray hair is very pretty. Lots of gray hair is just gray!

Only you and those who know and like you best can help you decide. One of my sisters has thick decidedly white hair which styles beautifully. Another had lovely steely gray hair. Me - I'm going to my grave in color I suspect. Just no similarity among the three sisters.

bluheart1305243078.7534 PostsRegistered 3/11/2011

I believe gray hair is aging. {#emotions_dlg.blink} I'll keep coloring mine.

Avelon1305243195.74199 PostsRegistered 4/4/2006

I started turning grey in my 30;s and silver grey in my 40's. Hardly a day goes by when I do not get a compliment on the color of my beautiful hair. with olive skin tones.

My hair dresser asked if I wanted to color my hair and I thought about it for 10 seconds and said no....Lots of money and an on going dye job, .......

Chicagoan1305243800.112680 PostsRegistered 6/11/2008CHICAGOLAND

Imo, there's no question that gray hair ages you. If you see a gray haired person across the room I automatically assume they are a older person, and sometimes they are younger than me. However, if you do not want to invest in the upkeep, time and cost of coloring, then gray is the way to go. You can still look beautiful, just older...lol

No really, to each her own, whatever makes you feel good. Speaking of upkeep, it's time for me to go get my color touched up! What us women go thru...lol

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Irshgrl312­011305243948.15714310 PostsRegistered 3/14/2006

Before becoming an aesthetician I was a corrective color specialist for years.

I have seen many beautiful women with gray/silver hair but most don't have the skin coloring to pull it off. It takes someone with very warm skin tones to not look totally drab.

While I may have loved the color of their hair it wasn't good for their skin tone.

I have to say though, I have NEVER seen a woman with gray hair who wouldn't or didn't ALWAYS look better with colored hair. It always ages them at least 5 years but in most cases it usually ages them 10-15 years. I really think that is the truth.

Having said that though, it is your decision and it only matters if YOU are happy and like it.

I personally will not ever go gray. People complain about the time and mess. I don't think 1-2 hours is too much time to spend on myself every 5-6 weeks.

Irshgrl312­011305244056.01314310 PostsRegistered 3/14/2006
On 5/12/2011 Chicagoan said:

Imo, there's no question that gray hair ages you. If you see a gray haired person across the room I automatically assume they are a older person, and sometimes they are younger than me. However, if you do not want to invest in the upkeep, time and cost of coloring, then gray is the way to go. You can still look beautiful, just older...lol

No really, to each her own, whatever makes you feel good. Speaking of upkeep, it's time for me to go get my color touched up! What us women go thru...lol

I agree 100%.

fashionist­a171305244192.857793 PostsRegistered 9/23/2007

Of course it ages a woman....no question about it.

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just bee1305244357.9114351 PostsRegistered 1/3/2010Albuquerque, New Mexico

Oh, this is rich! Have you seen the commercials for the product that lets men keep just enough of their gray to make them look dignified, experienced, seasoned, and smart?

Why is gray on men good, and gray on women drab and aging? Why doesn't gray make women more successful? No, we just look tired and dull.

Why do we put up with this?

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Brabls1305244400.7314740 PostsRegistered 4/27/2007

What really ages you is a poor color job & grey roots.

Are you ready to make the time & $ commitment to a good colorist & frequent retouching???

Me, no. So I go grey.

KittyLouWho1305244753.9226542 PostsRegistered 1/11/2006

I was talking today to a woman who visits my office and she has lovely gray hair. Would she look younger with it colored? I don't really know. I suppose she might. But honestly, she's a lovely and striking woman with her hair the way it is.

Why is looking 5 or 10 years younger the be all and end all?

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BESwede1305244823.626218 PostsRegistered 6/4/2007Colorado

No, I don't think it necessarily ages a person at all. I see lots of really beautiful silver, gray, white and salt/pepper hair on men and women and it can be very flattering and not aging- just needs a good style and care, same as any other color. I'd much rather see gray hair than dark roots and obviously colored hair. For me, I'll always stay natural- I can do much better things with my time and money than spend them on the constant upkeep it takes to color hair.

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KittyLouWho1305245535.22726542 PostsRegistered 1/11/2006
On 5/12/2011 just bee said:

Oh, this is rich! Have you seen the commercials for the product that lets men keep just enough of their gray to make them look dignified, experienced, seasoned, and smart?

Why is gray on men good, and gray on women drab and aging? Why doesn't gray make women more successful? No, we just look tired and dull.

Why do we put up with this?

Why indeed.

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ZaksGrrl1305245740.361759 PostsRegistered 4/7/2011wherever the spirits lead
On 5/12/2011 irshgrl312 said:

Before becoming an aesthetician I was a corrective color specialist for years.

I have seen many beautiful women with gray/silver hair but most don't have the skin coloring to pull it off. It takes someone with very warm skin tones to not look totally drab.

While I may have loved the color of their hair it wasn't good for their skin tone.

I have to say though, I have NEVER seen a woman with gray hair who wouldn't or didn't ALWAYS look better with colored hair. It always ages them at least 5 years but in most cases it usually ages them 10-15 years. I really think that is the truth.

Having said that though, it is your decision and it only matters if YOU are happy and like it.

I personally will not ever go gray. People complain about the time and mess. I don't think 1-2 hours is too much time to spend on myself every 5-6 weeks.

You may have clinched it for me, Irshgrl!!!! I have super fair, pink toned skin (irish too!).

Oh boy, it looked gorgeous on my dad!!!!

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ZaksGrrl1305245791.7771759 PostsRegistered 4/7/2011wherever the spirits lead

Irshgrl, what do you think it I went platinum?

I appreciate your professional opinion!

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ZaksGrrl1305245833.4931759 PostsRegistered 4/7/2011wherever the spirits lead
On 5/12/2011 just bee said:

Oh, this is rich! Have you seen the commercials for the product that lets men keep just enough of their gray to make them look dignified, experienced, seasoned, and smart?

Why is gray on men good, and gray on women drab and aging? Why doesn't gray make women more successful? No, we just look tired and dull.

Why do we put up with this?

Awesome point!

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Sunny Side­Up1305247398.5571176 PostsRegistered 3/1/2011

I'm 63 and I will never go gray - Yes, I think it does age a person. I had six sisters and they all had gray hair before their deaths. Only one had beautiful gray hair. Because I am sick of doing my own hair (Ex-hairdresser) and because my hair grows quickly and is thin, and I hate having to touch up the roots every month, I'm not a big fan of the single process color treatment. So, I love a color process called Balayage. No foil is used to paint darker lowlights, a shade close to my natural color, it gives the colorist greater control. I think my roots are less noticeable for a longer period. But please ask your colorist what works best for you. Some women have beautiful gray hair with beautiful skin tones, my gray hair has lots of ugly, ugly yellow. Not a pretty picture!

catwhisper­er1305247978.663249 PostsRegistered 12/4/2009So.CA

I color my hair, as did my mother. I can't imagine myself with grey hair. I think it looks very nice on many women however. When my mother was about 80, she stopped getting her hair colored and let it go white and it looked beautiful on her. She regularly had a hairdresser come to her house to do her hair for her up until she passed. She always wore makeup and dressed nice.

EnthusedIAm1305248185.393375 PostsRegistered 8/6/2009

Yes, I think it ages a person.

Mathilde1305248359.961091 PostsRegistered 2/29/2008

In a word, yes. My hair has been a beautiful silver since I was in my 30's. I started coloring when I was old enough to actually have gray hair and have never looked back. When I'm in my late 70's or 80's, I will probably go back to my natural color, but not a day before. I think every woman looks younger with her hair colored unless if is an extremely harsh color that would look bad on anyone.

karmakat1305249654.251221 PostsRegistered 10/6/2004

That depends on the hair and the woman.

In general I think gray hair is beautiful. I don't plan to cover mine as long as I like how it turns out.

LostGirl1305249964.0375024 PostsRegistered 10/22/2009

Definitely a personal call. I like what I see when my gray starts to show. It is a pretty, silvery color. But I talked to my hair stylist and he told me that unless I wore full face makeup for coloring, it would wash me out and make me look older. Maybe discuss it with your hair guru. But I do know some women who went gray and never looked back. They look wonderful and sophisticated. If I could pull it off, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

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nodecaf1305250459.562481 PostsRegistered 4/15/2007Pinelands

If you are able to wear your gray hair confidently and unapologetically then do it!

I think when my time comes I'll be too vain not to color them.

I'm being brutally honest.

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