The advice being given in this thread is making me cringe. Aside from having A LOT of piercings (12 just between my ears), I used to work at a piercing shop. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not use alcohol or neosporin on ANY piercing! Alcohol only dries out the skin that's trying to heal (or is already healed) and neosporin says right on the tube--not for puncture wounds, which is what a piercing is. If you think of a piercing as a little drain pipe, you want to keep it clean so that it can heal properly. If you put neosporin in it, it will clog up (think of the clogged pipe in the draino commercials) and make healing slower and more painful.
I've got lots of suggestions/advice if you can make it through my entire post. :)
So any suggestions? If I have them redone can they repierce exactly where the hole is now?
NO! Having them repierced will make the problem worse because your skin will still keep trying to heal itself and fresh piercings need to be left in place for months before they're fully healed.
As far as I know you have to keep them in at least 6 months straight for them to stay open permanently. If you did repeirce them you would have to go through that process again. If they close every night on you I would just keep a tiny pair of gold studs in that are comfortable to sleep in (like a child's pair), and change them out as needed. That is the only thing I can think of.
With the exception of EXTREMELY stretched ears that need to be sewn back together to close them up, no piercing is permanent. If jewelry is out for a long enough time, a piercing will close up.
As for finding jewelry that's comfortable at night, I myself had the same problem. I've got 8 piercings in one ear and 4 (not all on the lobe) in the other ear. My first problem was that I became allergic to almost all the jewelry that's sold in any store. Even the "hypo-allergenic" or "nickel free" stuff would make my ears instantly red, puffy, itchy and extremely hot. Even things that are plated in gold would bother me because eventually the plating would wear away and expose the junk material. I'm able to wear surgical grade steel, solid gold and titanium & niobium which are virtually "allergy" free. I would suggest you try for something that's made with titanium or niobium as those will be your safest bets and they come in pretty colors.
As for type of jewelry, I've found that small hoops (not the kind that have backings) work the best because there's less poking around and pressure put on your ear. With 8 piercings it was uncomfortable sleeping on them with posts, but I haven't had problems since switching to hoops. The specific type of hoops I have are called captive bead rings where the ring is held with a little bead that has dimples on both ends for the ring to sit. I find them extremely hard to change on my own, as I can't line the balls up on my own ear, but if you don't change your jewelry a lot, then it's not a problem. If you would like to be able to change it yourself, they make fixed bead rings, which are like captives but one end of the ball is attached to the ring so it won't fall off and you only have to bend the ring into place to keep it closed. There's a few good sites you can order from if you don't want to go to a piercing shop. Check out http://www.steelnavel.com/catalog.asp?ID=77 for an idea on the materials I'm talking about.
This happens to my daughter sometimes if she goes without earrings for a few days. What we have found that makes it easier to put them back in is, rubbing a little neosporin on both sides of the earlobe and the part of the earring that goes in the ear. The earrings slide in really easy this way. Just an idea.
I went to that website and they have Simply Whispers Misty Ear Care Gel $1.98
Again, I would strongly advise against using neosporin, especially since it says not for puncture wounds. I'd also advise against that ear gel. I looked at the site and that's not something I'd want to put near my piercings. I've used aloe on sunburns and it makes my skin burn even more, so the thought of putting that on a piercing where it can go into the hole is not pleasant. I would suggest the following:
There's this stuff called H2Ocean, which is just purified salt water in a spray bottle. That's all you need to clean a piercing, and you can use it in place of neosporin to coat the piercing and jewerly for insertion as well. If you don't want to buy it, you can make your own salt water mix with NON-IODIZED sea salt, which can be found at any grocery store--just make sure it's the NON-IODIZED kind, as the other is what you'd use for table salt and that's not good for piercings.
If you're piercing is irritated and you want to use something else as well, I'd suggest emu oil (if you're not against using animal products). I used to avoid using animal products until I had an infected piercing and couldn't get it to heal. I finally gave in and tried the emu oil and it healed it. The properties in the emu oil help promote skin cell regrowth, so it helps with the piercing healing.
Another thing you don't want to do is play with, move, or rotate your jewelry while the piercing is healing. Contrary to what you might have been told, rotating your jewelry while cleaning the piercing is actually detrimental to healing. It only agitates the skin, which slows down the healing process.
Hope some of this helped and if you have any questions, let me me know!