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What do u spend on your grandkids for christmas?

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I have four grandkids...4 months to 6 years old. I spent a total of $150..some items I got at second hand store for childrens items...sister told I am incredibly cheap...now I am having second thoughts. What do you think?

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Daonleebabe1291515314.43316 PostsRegistered 11/27/2010

Are you kind of strapped this Christmas? If so, then seems completely reasonable to me.

If you have a little more to go around, then Yes I would call you a cheapo {#emotions_dlg.wub}

I wouldnt recommend giving 2nd hand items for Christmas. I am all for Thrift shops, especially on children's items, maybe save for a little gift in a month or two.

Shake it, Don't break it!

Lizzie76771291515443.0571628 PostsRegistered 7/16/2006Mass

It is the thought that matters, not how much you spent. I think your sister is incredibly rude. I am sure your grandchildren are going to love what you give them. I wouldn't worry about how much you spent.

Lynneuk1291515532.368335 PostsRegistered 11/3/2006

Are you kidding Daonleebabe,

How is $150 cheapo!?!

That is why Christmas is so awful nowadays...so materialistic.

Daonleebabe1291515591.72316 PostsRegistered 11/27/2010

No No, I was referring to the 2nd hand items. Why not save those for later and buy each child a really nice quality 25 dollar gift??

Shake it, Don't break it!

libbey1291515847.28376 PostsRegistered 11/28/2010

Husband was laid off and has struggled finding a job. He is in his mid sixties...not may employers looking for older men. I work a 50 hour week. We have given our children $2000 each this year to help them out with some struggles they have of their own. I feel so overwhelmed... and now it appears I am being cheap...not what I wanted to do.

circles1291515957.96717678 PostsRegistered 5/11/2005N.J.

Probably way too much...I have three grands...4...7....and 10....What I spend varies from year to year...but so far, this year, its around $200.00 each.....

Would like to add...I would never give second hand anything for a gift...

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Nana of 51291516015.824280 PostsRegistered 4/23/2010N E OK

How much do you usually spend per child? If you are on a fixed income then I would go with what I had purchased but might hang on to the second hand items until later. If I could afford more I would decide if I wanted to spend it for Christmas or was I reacting to sister's comment. I would not spend more because someone else told me to do it.

Lynneuk1291516023.18335 PostsRegistered 11/3/2006

The children are all under six. They will have no idea that gifts are second hand. Why waste money when perfectly good quality, sometimes brand new items can be found at thrift stores.

Kids this age grow out of clothes and toys so fast that they get very little use.

Don't feel bad Libbey. You are teaching them a good life lesson.Wink

Daonleebabe1291516064.103316 PostsRegistered 11/27/2010

Dont feel cheap libbey!! If you were my parent I would call and say PLEASE DONT SEND ANYTHING, and take any worries totally off your plate.

In fact, I have made that call to my parents this year. Both live PC to PC, I can't imagine asking them to send my children anything.

A sweet book for each child, with a beautiful note inside. Something from the heart they can have forever. Dont feel overwhelmed, they arent your children, it is up to the parents to create Christmas Magic not the grandparents {#emotions_dlg.wub}

Shake it, Don't break it!

qvcaddition1291516065.355773 PostsRegistered 6/30/2007

No one has the right to call you cheap. Your sister is rude. I will say this. I use to spend hundreds on my grandchildren at Christmas, I mean hundreds. If one got 10 gifts, so did the other three get 10 gifts and all the same in cost. When the oldest Grandchild was 23 and just starting out on his own, I gave him 1000 cash for Christmas, to help with his rent and one car payment in case he was out of work. I didn't do this for the other three, but have given them the equivilent over the few years. I didn't do this to buy love, but out of pure love and to see the shine in their eyes. Now, I do not hear from any of them. I know they are busy, but so was I back then. I will see them this Christmas and will give each one of their babies, my Great Grandchildren, 50 dollars. I am not a cheap person by any means, but, the babies are two and one and a half. They do not know what they are getting, they have so much, so the money may help the parents.

Stick to what you do for Christmas. You are doing your best, and the cost doesn't matter. They will still love you or ignore you, no matter how much you spend. You are thinking of them, and that is what is important.

mima1291516105.1114699 PostsRegistered 10/19/2004KS

That is $37.50 each, not cheap at all. However you need to buy NEW for that price, not used. You can get something really nice and new for that price.

Mima

Idacat1291516124.214707 PostsRegistered 7/26/2005Idaho !!!!

Two grandchildren spend about $200 each, one "big" present and a couple small.

I also buy a family or home gifts for their parents (eg camcorder, Keurig, DECT phones, cookware set, Kitchen Aid Mixer), and personal gifts for parents.

What you spend should never exceed what you have, but I'd NEVER buy my grandkids stuff from a "second hand store" for any gift, especially Christmas. That part Is cheap, tacky even.

ETA no, the kids wouldn't know anything was second hand, but the PARENTS would; my DIL would pitch it.

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Daonleebabe1291516215.933316 PostsRegistered 11/27/2010
On 12/4/2010 Lynneuk said:

The children are all under six. They will have no idea that gifts are second hand. Why waste money when perfectly good quality, sometimes brand new items can be found at thrift stores.

Kids this age grow out of clothes and toys so fast that they get very little use.

Don't feel bad Libbey. You are teaching them a good life lesson.Wink

Isn't it possible to find something in the same price range that is new? I've always followed the Quality over Quantity rule.

Second hand for children is an amazing way to get the things you need for cheap but I don't think its appropriate as a Christmas Present. I think it is more of a "I saw this and know you needed it"

Shake it, Don't break it!

mrsbez1291516234.703375 PostsRegistered 4/14/2010

You do what you could afford from the heart with love and care.....

As for the second hand store, I agree with the poster above, save that stuff for another time, there are plenty of inexpensive NEW, gifts you can give to your grandchildren especially at the ages they are.

Happy holidays.....

"Don't wait on a Miracle....Be one for somebody else"......

mrsbez1291516235.14375 PostsRegistered 4/14/2010

You do what you could afford from the heart with love and care.....

As for the second hand store, I agree with the poster above, save that stuff for another time, there are plenty of inexpensive NEW, gifts you can give to your grandchildren especially at the ages they are.

Happy holidays.....

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"Don't wait on a Miracle....Be one for somebody else"......

bunjetto1291516524.0032765 PostsRegistered 11/2/2006

libbey by no means are you being cheap! Your sister told you that you were cheap? All I have to say to that is nice sister. People are so freakin unbelievable. Sorry you are having a hard time. Your children should be appreciative and your grandkids surely don't care. You can call me cheap any time you like as I spend around 25 - 30 for each. These kids nowadays want everything. My one grandson wants a motorcycle and an Ipad, one wants a computer and the youngest wants everything (ages 12 to 6).

Lynneuk1291516545.718335 PostsRegistered 11/3/2006
On 12/4/2010 libbey said:

Husband was laid off and has struggled finding a job. He is in his mid sixties...not may employers looking for older men. I work a 50 hour week. We have given our children $2000 each this year to help them out with some struggles they have of their own. I feel so overwhelmed... and now it appears I am being cheap...not what I wanted to do.

Libbey,

If your sister knows your situation she is being incredibly cruel. If you were my kids Grandma I would not want you to be worried about how much you were spending for Christmas. I would tell you that each child would be thrilled with a small gift even from the thrift store because it was given with love and not with obligation and worry about how to pay for it.

Lynne

Idacat1291517160.8934707 PostsRegistered 7/26/2005Idaho !!!!

Did your sister tell you you were cheap because of the amount you are spending on each grandchild or because of the second hand store gifts?

There is nothing wrong with the amount, but for that $38 or so per child you could definitely get one nice new thing or even a new toy and an item of clothing like a superhero or Disney character T shirt, practical and always big hits with my grandkids.

But second hand for Christmas just isn't right.

And, if I'd given my son/DIL $2000 to help out during the year, I sure as heck wouldn't be going overboard for Christmas.

(can't your husband get SS now if he was laid off?)

Silver Lin­ing1291517191.5633656 PostsRegistered 4/15/2010

Libbey, I'm sorry you and your husband are having a tough time and feeling overwhelmed. I think it's okay to give the kids gifts from a thrift store as long as they are or appear to be unused, and/or in the original packaging, and/or look new. Goodwill and thrift stores frequently have new merchandise that was donated by stores and by individuals. Your sister was mean to have intentionally hurt your feelings.

manny21291517231.1471786 PostsRegistered 3/11/2009

I say give them what you bought, second hand or new its the giving from the heart that counts. You sound like a very good loving Grandma to me, have a very happy holiday season!

MainelyMom­my1291518223.731588 PostsRegistered 3/8/2010

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Nana of 51291518230.714280 PostsRegistered 4/23/2010N E OK

You have already helped your adult children this year. Your GKS are little and have no idea how much anything costs. Your sister was out of line with her comment and with your DH out of work you have done all you can do. Please do not feel bad. I always spend too much but I buy lots of clothes so parents do not have to buy so much. Then I buy an electronic gift or gift card for GKS to buy something they want, but I have a retirement and do not go overboard the rest of the year.

bopper1291518557.43714130 PostsRegistered 8/5/2007

I have 1 grandchild and we only get her 1 thing, a barbie, or a craft project. Kids don't need much to make them happy. Many are used to getting way to much, and I believe they need to understand not all of us have lots of money and they need to know and appreciate all gifts. It gets way to out of hand in my opinion, well Christmas in general does but that's a whole different thread.

MainelyMom­my1291518638.0931588 PostsRegistered 3/8/2010

Here are some good places to shop if you are on a tight budget:

TJMAXX + Marshalls: Check the clearance area first; ask an associate where each area is if you need help. There will be toys, books, puzzle, all kinds of nice stuff. Also the clothes clearance area will have some good deals. They KEY is to go often for a month or so to keep checking for new stock. You can ALWAYS find something that is $5 or less.

Big Lots: They have some good stuff; cheap dvd's etc.But again going frequently is the key.

Taget: I got some preschool games there yesterday for $4 a peice( clue, jr yahtzee, hi ho cheerio)...check out the $1 value items in the front of the store. I know they have books, wooden puzzles, little notebooks/pens/coloring books etc. And it is pretty good little stuff.

Dollar Tree/Dollar General: Most of the time the toys are generic toys, but they do have some deals once in a while.


Pianomama1291519052.3372900 PostsRegistered 6/7/2007southern California

I only have one grandchild-she is five. She has just about everything at home, so I look really hard for educational things. I bought her an easel with board that is chalk on one side, dry erase on the other. A few other things are games involving reading. I probably have spent $50 or $60. I shop carefully and when things are sale priced. The things she gets from us will stay at our house since she is over all the time.

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