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Poem for parents who have lost children...

Started 1325361779.52 in Among Friends | Last reply 1326575428.5 by Leah1964

This has hung on my refrigerator for years. It's by Kaye des'Ormeaux and it's a beautiful poem. I thought that maybe others who have experienced the loss of a child as I have would like to hear it:

My Mom Is A Survivor

My mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said.

But I can hear her crying at night When all others are in bed.

I watch her lay awake at night And go to hold her hand.

She doesn't know I'm with her To help her understand.

But like the sands on the beach That never wash away..

I watch over my surviving mom, Who thinks of me each day.

She wears a smile for others...A smile of disguise!

But through Heaven's door I see Tears flowing from her eyes.

My mom tries to cope with death To keep my memory alive.

Buy anyone who knows her knows It is her way to survive.

As I watch over my surviving mom Through Heaven's open door...

I try to tell her that angels Protect me forevermore.

I know that doesn't help her..Or ease the burden she bears.

So if you get a chance, go visit her.. And show her that you care.

For no matter what she says...No matter what she feels,

My surviving mom has a broken heart That time won't ever heal.

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homedecor11325381599.2172562 PostsRegistered 6/20/2005

Thank you so much for posting this - my closest cousin lost her son 3 years ago and unfortunately, this poem really sums it up for her/me.

I will send it to her - thank you again!

buddylou1325414167.8134779 PostsRegistered 4/24/2007

Thank you, I lost my son December 23, 1994. It is still so hard. I have learned to survive but the pain is always there.

heartkeeper1325425195.831881 PostsRegistered 1/27/2007

This brought tears to my eyes; it is lovely, though. Thank you for posting it.

marky1325484941.567887 PostsRegistered 1/6/2007

I lost my step-son in May of 2011. Thanks for posting this poem. It was so difficult to try and celebrate the holidays without him. When we were preparing to eat Thanksgiving dinner, my mother-in-law said grace and all of a sudden the china cabinet door popped open. I feel it was his way of telling us that he was there too!!!! Losing a child is an intolerable pain that no one should have to endure.



sarahpanda1325519015.1931299 PostsRegistered 10/23/2007

You're welcome all. Buddylou was right - "the pain is always there"....but you just learn to live with it. I've had this pain for the last 25 years when my 7 year old daughter died with a malignant brain tumor. No one will ever understand the loss/pain unless they walk in those shoes - and God I wouldn't wish it on anybody.

rednpurple1325536711.53310496 PostsRegistered 6/19/2008NY

(((((sarahpanda))))),

May God bless and keep ALL the parents who have experienced the ultimate heartbreak.

A more horrible misfortune could befall no one.

My prayers are with all of you!

Alexia1325563297.973178 PostsRegistered 8/27/2007

What a beautiful tribute. I lost my precious 29 year old son in September of this year. I really don't know how I go on. It is truly with the Grace of God.

sarahpanda1325573126.421299 PostsRegistered 10/23/2007

(((((Alexia))))) - my heart goes out to you along with a bunch of hugs! And to ALL who have to walk in these shoes, please know that I am sending up prayers for you:

Someone Prayed for Me

My spirit was almost broken

Misery was all I could see

But somehow I was encouraged

Because today someone prayed for me.

The problems I faced seemed like mountains,

Or at least a pounding sea.

I could have easily been destroyed by them,

But today someone prayed for me.

I even contemplated death

As an escape from my misery.

But instead I chose to carry on,

Because today someone prayed for me.

Someone prayed for me today.

Giving me the strength to see it through.

I may never know who it was,

But perhaps it was you.

You may feel your prayers are wasted,

The results you may not see.

But my life now is much richer.

Because today someone prayed for me.

*Author Unknown

KatherineW1325807735.46728128 PostsRegistered 3/16/2009Alabamian by Birth; Southern By The Grace of God
On 1/2/2012 Alexia said:

What a beautiful tribute. I lost my precious 29 year old son in September of this year. I really don't know how I go on. It is truly with the Grace of God.

Alexia, I have been thinking of you and wondered how you were. I lost my 18 year old in 2004.




Alexia1325859195.293178 PostsRegistered 8/27/2007
On 1/5/2012 KatherineW said:
On 1/2/2012 Alexia said:

What a beautiful tribute. I lost my precious 29 year old son in September of this year. I really don't know how I go on. It is truly with the Grace of God.

Alexia, I have been thinking of you and wondered how you were. I lost my 18 year old in 2004.

Thanks so much for your thoughts. We're just moving on day by day. How are you doing? Does it get better?

violann1325900535.5411412 PostsRegistered 12/12/2004
If any of you lost little children, you might take some consolation in the poem "A Place Where Children Are". The image of my little ones walking the streets of Heaven brings me a certain peace. Please google it if you'd like to see........

heartkeeper1325902093.1371881 PostsRegistered 1/27/2007
On 1/6/2012 violann said: If any of you lost little children, you might take some consolation in the poem "A Place Where Children Are". The image of my little ones walking the streets of Heaven brings me a certain peace. Please google it if you'd like to see........

I've read this poem before. It's a very sweet poem. I'm going to get it written and put it in a frame with pictures of my angel.

Honestly, nothing really helps, though.

violann1325954125.07311412 PostsRegistered 12/12/2004
Understood, completely. Sometimes it hits at the oddest times, and you never can predict when it will happen. We live in the same area where many of my son's friends were born, and sometimes when I see kids who are the same age as my babies would have been, it hurts so much it almost makes me gasp.

Alexia1325993133.357178 PostsRegistered 8/27/2007
On 1/7/201ou2 violann said: Understood, completely. Sometimes it hits at the oddest times, and you never can predict when it will happen. We live in the same area where many of my son's friends were born, and sometimes when I see kids who are the same age as my babies would have been, it hurts so much it almost makes me gasp.

I definitely know what you mean. I've run out of stores just seeing people that I know I'll fall apart. It really does take your breath away. How many children did you lose? I am so sad everyday--so hard to go on.

lucieinthe­sky1326149036.187494 PostsRegistered 3/15/2010Dallas, Tx

Such a beautiful and touching poem. I lost my 27 year old son in 1999 and I go to sleep each night thinking about him.

life is like a snowstorm.....you'll meet a lot of flakes

lucieinthe­sky1326149539.977494 PostsRegistered 3/15/2010Dallas, Tx
On 1/7/2012 violann said: Understood, completely. Sometimes it hits at the oddest times, and you never can predict when it will happen. We live in the same area where many of my son's friends were born, and sometimes when I see kids who are the same age as my babies would have been, it hurts so much it almost makes me gasp.

I know what you mean. I live in a small town and am constantly running into my son's high school classmates who now, of course, have children of their own. It's all I can do to talk to them. I can't help but wonder about the grandchildren I've missed out on having.

life is like a snowstorm.....you'll meet a lot of flakes

Lakk1326160909.94964 PostsRegistered 11/1/2006

sarahpanda

Thanks for these poems they are beautiful. I just copied them and will print and have them hanging in the house. I lost my son, 41 years old, March 13, 2008, it's still like yesterday. God bless all of you that have lost children, we all know there is nothing worse we shall ever have to face. May we all pray for each other while we climb this daily mountain.

Thanks again sarahpanda.

Magann1326167752.23417 PostsRegistered 5/8/2010South of the Mason-Dixon

Thank you sarahpanda for the poems. We lost our 31 year old son Thanksgiving day in 2009.

Alexia, so sorry for your loss not so long ago. I asked the same question. It has finally gotten a tiny bit better just this winter even though the holidays are so hard since we lost him during the holidays. The first Christmas I barely remember. We had to have it because my son's daughter was only 5 1/2 years old at the time. The next year wasn't much better. If my DH and I could, we wouldn't even celebrate but have to for our GD. She now lives with us. This past holiday season was a little better. I don't know why and I don't have any answers. Sometimes, like a bolt of lightning, it will hit me that he isn't here and I'll sob for hours. I talk to him alot and I know he has been right here next to me a few times. I know it for certain, it is so real and always unexpected. I will keep you in my prayers. I do believe in the power of prayer and angels. BTW, my grandaughter's name is Alexxa. Yes, with 2 x's. Take care of yourself.

To everyone else, I will say a prayer for you as well. It is definitely not something we want to be a part of.

Magann

"In the end, it's not the years in your life that count, it's the life in your years."
Abraham Lincoln

kittyfan1326388371.0175478 PostsRegistered 11/6/2008Central Tx

Even though they are no longer physically with us--yes they are still with us. The china cabinet door opening was a sign--and yes, you son is beside you!.

ByTheBay1326465351.4673876 PostsRegistered 1/3/2008

Having also lost a child,our 5 yr old daughter,this really touched my soul!! Thank you for posting this SarahPanda!!

~Life is a ticket to the greatest show on earth~

Reiss19801326465674.2878218 PostsRegistered 4/15/2011Central NJ /Freehold// Long island NY

{#emotions_dlg.sad}OMG.. I could never imagine the pain... of losing a child.. nothing is worse..for all the mothers who have lost children..may God bless you and heal your broken hearts.

A wagging tail .... and licks a plenty.. Not to mention a buddy for life! Adopt a dog or cat ..SAVE A LIFE!

Leah19641326575428.5451 PostsRegistered 8/23/2011New Castle

Thanks for sharing...very moving{#emotions_dlg.crying}

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